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How do I get rid of my urges for sexual intimacy?

It's so frustrating that I want to be kissed and touched but I know I'm going to die alone. I'm just so tired of being sexually frustrated.
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  • To get rid of your sexual urges is almost impossible, unless you use a medication, which I would advise against. The other choice is to fully embrace them and go for it. "Females can get more of what I have with what they have, than I can get of what they have with what I have"
    Translation to that: "Females can get more cock with their pussies, than males can get pussies with their cock"
    If you think about it it is very true.
    As a male, when younger I "TRIED"to have sex with every female I could. Notice I said tried.
    You on the other hand being female could have sex with every male you wanted to, unless he was gay.
    As I said you have the two options.

    • I don't want casual sex

    • How do you know? Have you tried? If not why not? Do you think you are so bad? Post a pic and get a poll on your looks and your way of dressing and your body!!

    • I don't want casual because the only way I can be attracted to people is if I have feelings for them

  • Masturbation is one way though the effectiveness of that varies. I wouldn't say your going to die alone for sure so keep an open mind. Casual sex is also another way to relieve it. I'd say ignore it but that clearly isn't working so the above methods i'd say are your best ways.

    • I don't want casual sex though, I want intimacy

    • Then you'll just have to get into the dating game and go through its motions, those are the only real two ways of getting sex. Casually or you go through a relationship to have it intimately

    • That's not an option. Maybe there are some pills I can take?

Most Helpful Girls

  • You don't know you're going to die alone. You may feel like you do, but you don't, and you probably won't.
    As for the urges, it's been a year for me and I still have them. I don't think you can get rid of them. Just need to find ways to control them.

    • I do know that I'm going to die alone. I don't talk to people and I don't feel like changing that, so by default, I'll die alone

  • Some do it with alcohol or drugs. Get out there and date, just for the fun of it.

    • Dating isn't an option

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  • You just basically have to stop thinking about it. Stop listening to those who say to masterbate and go find someone to fuck because those don't work long term or at all. They are just like this short burst of pleasure and sometimes leave you hanging. And instead of thinking of those things, I say you fix yourself. Find yourself that you love. That'll help you become more confident about yourself. If you want someone to help you and talk to. You can talk to me.

    • you're saying find a hobby to take my mind off it?

    • Basically. Find something that help you make the you that was once before you were needing and or wanting those stuff

    • I can't do it by myself?

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  • I know how you feel gurl. You gotta go get urself a boy.

    • That's too hard

    • Life is hard. Everything we want we must work for, there are no handouts in life. But we’re lucky because we’re girls and we have it easier than guys. Go meet people. Talk to people at work, make friends and then go on dates with guys you think are cute. I read some of your comments by the way... have you really never liked anyone? How is that even possible? I’ve had tons of crushes and I’m ultra picky. I’m not experienced in that love field (not because I haven’t been given opportunities) but because I haven’t found the right person and I sometimes run away when I get too close to someone because all these feelings scare me.

    • I've thought a lot of guys were cute but never had a crush on them. I don't know why, I just never saw them in a romantic way

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  • I'd say get on tinder and start banging your way through the site, you might have some good times and bad times but I'm sure you'll satisfy your needs at some point!

    • I don't want casual sex

  • Muslims have an solution for that, it's called female circumcision. :)

    • How does that help

    • It helps to put things in proportion, you sure that you want to lose your sexual urges? :)

    • I don't but I can't fulfill them so I don't have any other options. I want to be touched so badly

  • You can put your energies and thoughts in to things that are productive and that you like to do. You can engage in helping others, and have some of your social needs filled that way, and of course, by having friends. None of this will stop all sexual urges or thoughts, but you can decrease them. Also, you can simply re-direct your mind, if you make a habit of it. But you are a sexual being. And as well, many millions of people have had happy, fulfilled lives, without sex. Sex is not a prerequisite to being happy and having a good life.

  • With the number of thirsty, desperate men out there, I find it hard to believe you are worried about dehydration.

    • I would want someone that actually likes me

    • Then you need to become the person you want to attract through self development. The garden does not worry about a lack of Butterfly.

    • I don't want to change anything about myself and since I won't do that, by default, I'll die alone

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  • Well, if it helps, I can buy you some cats, so you won't die alone.

    Nah seriously now, you are young, stop overthinking, the more attention you give it the more it'll eat you up, trust me, I've been there, just tell youself to shut up, find things to keep yourself busy.

  • Why would you want to get rid of it?

    • Because I can't do anything about them

  • Masturbation

    • It doesn't feel good

    • Don't stop exploring and trying new things. Eventually you will find something you like.

    • How long is it going to take? It's been 8 years

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  • Why are you going to die alone?

    • Because it's rare for me to like someone and no one likes me anyway

    • Most are rarely aware of everyone that likes them.

    • Maybe other people don't

  • Get a boyfriend or husband.

    • That's not an option

    • Why not?

    • That would be too much work

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  • Awww! You poor thing! Sexual frustration is VERY difficult! Here's something that might help:
    Throw out anything that promotes the desire. (Movies, books, trinkets, etc.) And fill your life with things that make you forget those topics. I hope it helps! If all that doesn't work, find a Man who'll give you His heart! (If that's something you want)

    • I don't have anything that promotes desire, unless I can throw out my mind

    • I see... It's just a feeling without reason. I don't want to push things at you, but for me, I get those feelings very often, and the urge to satisfy those cravings don't cease... Unless I masturbate. (Perhaps something that would help?)

    • It doesn't

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  • Why do you think you will die alone?

    • Because no one wants to be with me

  • Have lots of sex! Need help?

    • I don't want casual sex

    • Become someone's girlfriend!

    • No one wants me to be their girlfriend

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  • Go on tinder, take a good picture of yourself, make a good bio and literally wait an hour, you’ll have at least one guy in your messages

    • I don't want sex, I want intimacy. There's a difference

    • Yeah well me too 😐 You can probably find a guy wanting a relationship on tinder, try going out someone with friends and see if you can meet someone or ask your friends if they know anyone nice

    • That's not an option

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  • Just get on with someone to have crazy sex lol
    If not then play with yourself

    • Those are obviously not options

    • Oh why not I can understand the first one but why can't u play with yourself

    • Because it doesn't feel good

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  • How often do you fantasize? And have you talked with your partner about it? If you have one, that is.

    • a lot and i don't have a partner

    • Then the only thing I can recommend would be masturbation or find a potential partner to quench the desire.

    • Neither of those are an option but ok

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  • Stop asking for a relationship and let a virgin guy have you..

    • I wasn't asking for a relationship

    • Well then I presume you don't live around human males

    • Why do you presume that

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  • Grab big dick. Fixed.

    • It doesn't have to be big

    • Doesn't have to be a dick either. :)

  • A full hysterectomy. Once your ovaries are gone you'll lose your sex drive.

    • Hmm, I guess that could be an option

    • Frankly I do not recommend it.

    • Oh why not?

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