Is there such a thing of being TOO tight? 😩?

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So I’m 19 and still a virgin. Not because I couldn’t get sex but because I wanted to save it for someone I felt was special. I have a boyfriend right now that I’m thinking of giving my v card to, but I’m really nervous. Setting aside all my insecurities and zero-experience, I’m really nervous about the whole penetration part.

First of all, I’m a petite girl. And when I masturbate, I tend to bleed sometimes. Even though it’s minimal, I hate it because it makes me feel so terrible about what sex will be like. I’d say I’m able to get in about 4 inch girth and even that feels tight to me. My boyfriend is a little above average and I’m dreading this! I know the vagina can stretch quite a bit, but I don’t think I’d be bleeding if that were my case. On top of that, I once tried masturbating every day for a week to see if my vagina would become more accustomed and it just doesn’t seem to work.

What do I do? Will my body adjust once it knows I’m sexually active? Is this something I’ll need medical help with? I want to experience sex but I’m scared I’m just one of those rare girls who are too tight and would even find sex painful. I’m stuck. If anyone could help give me a little insight, I’d really appreciate it. Girls who were tight and guys who have tight partners: what did you do? What were your experiences like? Please help, I feel terrible about this 😣

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would make damn sure that this guy knows what no and stop mean.

Im not telling you if you think he is sweet and kind and whatever other bullshit show some aniaml is giving you to get inside you.

What Im telling you is, make damn sure this guy deals with being told no, being rejection and generally not getting his way well.

You should look for how he handles these things outside of sex.

How is he with others and other situations?

I dont want to worry you as you already have worries but personally I am very turned on by the thought of a tight young girl for whom penetration is painful, not that I am an awful person but because my understanding is that for at least some if not many the pain is a good pain but also because it is ego stroking for me, it makes me feel big and powerful which are important sexual triggers to me and I dont think i am wrong to say men generally.

But there is a world of difference between enjoyable painful sex with consent and intital consent that becomes rape because the guy you are with only cares about what he is experiencing.

Vaginas are made to have babies come out of them, all dicks will fit but lube, patience, care, relaxation, etc could be requirements in some cases.

4 inch girth is not much, quite a lot below average i would think.

You should become more accomodating with arousal.

God_of_Thunder · Accepted Answer

Without directly answering your question, the most important thing you can do is to not worry about it.

I know, that probably sounds stupid, but if you're nervous/scared, you will tense up, and whether you're too tight, or not, that will make things more difficult. The best thing you can do is relax your body, which will make penetration not only easier, but less painful.

A lot of girls will say that the first time hurts, but it doesn't have to. If you are relaxed, aroused, and the guy takes things slowly/gently, you will be fine. It's mostly inexperience that makes it hurt.

A penis is tapered, slightly, in that the tip is smaller, and gradually widens towards where the head meets the shaft. Between that, and your natural lubrication (hence why you need to be aroused), it'll slide it much easier than you'd think. Just make sure he doesn't just cram it in, in a hurry.

Take your time, and you'll be fine. Personally, I am quite large, especially in my girth, and I have been with very petite, very tight women. I don't say that to brag, but to emphasize that I've been in that situation, so I do have some experience with making it easier.

Warmapplecrumble · Accepted Answer

1. Vagina shouldn't bleed during fingering, most likely you scratched yourself

2. You are not relaxed enough, the vagina can stretch. My husband has fisted me and no it didn't stay that way it went down.

3. You need to be very lubricated naturally, lube will only help with width not length. The cervix moves higher to allow deep penetration. Certain positions like missionary are not deeply penetrative so start with that.

4. You can be turned on and not naturally lubricated. Happened to me many times. In this instance I ask for oral sex or use saliva. You can use lube be careful of hyper sensitivity issues if you are allergic to things.

5. Research into what methods of contraception you will use and what types of std measures you will take. E. g. I am allergic to condoms and the spermicide in it. I can't also take contraceptive pills.

6. Be open and not scared of your body to experiment. And no means no. :-)

nerms123 · Accepted Answer

Different people experience different things but if it’s any comfort at all my first time only hurt a tiny bit. Like mosquito bite level. So don’t stress too much. Just tell the boyf how you feel. He’s obviously not going to do anything that hurts y. Like as soon as you say ouch or anything he’ll back off. Also sex between two people isn’t usually great right off the bat because you have to learn what the other person likes. Only people with tons of experience already can do that very quickly. So just look at it as an experimental thing and don’t put any pressure on yourself to be any sort of way. Do whatever works and don’t do whatever doesn’t.

linds34 · Answer

Most likely, it will hurt the first few times. Make sure you do a lot of foreplay so you are really wet.

My experience was that I only had one guy who I was too tight for. He had sex with me like 8-10 times and it was kind of enjoyable but it hurt too. Other than that, after the first few times I have been okay as long as I was wet enough.

Felinegirl · Answer

There is, it's called vaginismus. It's the condition where the vagina clenches up due to emotional stress (such as nerves about having sex), can also happen when the girl doesn't even realise that she's stressed. In this case, having sex is impossible or painful.
Treatment consists of therapy and relaxation exercises.

GlitterDragon · Answer

Never had the bleeding from masturbation issue, but there is such a thing unfortunately.
The guy I’m currently seeing is way too big for me, but thankfully a little thing called lube was invented. And even though the lube helps A LOT, sex is still painful sometimes. But you just have to take it slow until you get comfortable.

designer1 · Answer

If you bleed to the point where it is noticing when you masterbate, you should probably see a gynecologist...😕.

SarahsSummer · Answer

As for your initial question, yes your body will adjust but not because it "knows you are sexually active" but rather because you are relaxed and comfortable with your partner. I am a bit concerned though. You shouldn't be bleeding every time you masturbate. I would talk to your gyno about that.

MajesticTwelve · Answer

Yes, there is.
It can be painful if he's particularly hung, especially when he's in a rush to get in.
However, we are all as we are. Just be thankful it doesn't sound like someone blowing on moonshine jug when you walk.

SergeantSmoke · Answer

I'm not sure! Perhaps your hymen is sensitive? Do you still have it? Perhaps, if you lose it, She'll stop bleeding? I hope all goes well!

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

You could be tight cause simply your too shy , scared of sex , afraid of certain things,
maybe your afraid of pregnancy could result. My suggestion you could try is teasing
yourself when you masturbate. Do not actually go inside , rub the outside of your
vagina than slowly rub the inside but don't go in. Maybe get a mirror and look at
yourself while you do , see what it looks like. You may need to do more sexy things
to get yourself going. Teasing yourself and not going inside the vagina will help lot
do not penetrate yourself lightly rub yourself and think of things that make you horny
just like another user said, blood flow does increase to the vaginal area when your
sexually aroused but try some teasing and do the same with your boyfriend also
may want suggest it to him, get mirror look inside and see what's going on inside
down there don't be afraid. Best Wishes :)

Samantha2448 · Answer

The first couple of times you have sex you will bleed, there is no way around it. Lube helps a lot, it anything he won't be able to get it all in but he will be able to get some of it in

buttcrackjoe · Answer

Make sure you are horny first (the vagina will expand to accommodate objects when you are horny) buy a dildo or get a cucumber at the grocery they come in many sizes wash it first and take your time with putting it in. You must be wet and aroused first use lube if you need it.

Thatsamazing · Answer

... No.

Walrus_au · Answer

Best advice? Talk to your doctor or OB/GYN, they can let you know if you HAVE a problem or reasure you about the situation if you don't.

As to the event. go slow, have yourself control the penetration/depth so you can limit it if it's too much (girl on top/cowgirl)
If he's not willing to be patient and gentle then he's not likely to be a good partner.
And don't put pressure on yourself, it's not about getting to penetration, it's about having fun and enjoying yourself, if it is too much, go with some oral/mutual masturbation, other fun. Take the pressure off.
If you like this guy and trust me, test that, talk to him about it, how he handles that will tell you a lot about how he feels about you and what he might be like moving foward.

Caliguy88 · Answer

Kinda. I dated a girl forever that was like a chore to get in. It was fine. I’d eat her out etc. Work it in. No complaints. One of the girls I dated since was pretty loose. That was kinda nice after someone so tight forever.

Dallsimo · Answer

It did happen that i could not penetrate my girlfriend, not even the head of my dick... she can be really tight lol

johnieohm · Answer

no that is good

Valnac · Answer

When you are sexually aroused and soaking wet, blood is rushing to your vagina swelling it to accommodate a cock.

Clarke498 · Answer

If i were you, i'd first try to be 100% sure he was the one to give it to, then talk a lot with him about it. Say that you're scared and all that so he knows to take it careful, then use a LOT of time on foreplay, to get you wet, and then start really really slowly and then go forward from there. Also tell him that if you start bleeding it shouldn't be a problem.

Indguy · Answer

Hey, first of, don't get soo stressed up.
And its a good thing u waited. I'm an old fashioned guy when it comes to sex and I kinda wanna have it after the girl is completely mine. It kind of makes it more special.
And speaking about your bleeding problem, which isn't a problem at all. It's a basic human thing. I'm sure every girl bleeds the first time. Don't feel so bad about it. On the contrary that guy should be lucky to have ur virginity.
First times are memorable, but u both gotta work together. So don't stress yourself much.
All the best😊

Anonymous · Answer

Get some dildos and and experiment with stretching your pussy out.

Anonymous · Answer

Unless he's literally too big for you, you should be fine. The vagina stretches during sex and then shrinks again. I guess the only way to test it would be to use a vibrator that is not small prior to having sex. If you do decide to go ahead and have sex just have him be gentle the first time and have some basic KY lubricant if it's needed on hand. You can get condoms with lubricant on them too.
Like someone else said a visit to the obgyn before you do anything might ease your mind.

Is there such a thing of being TOO tight? 😩?

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