Would you consider it as a rape?

[Hella_x]

Hello everyone!

I had a rough night and I want to share my story because I’m not sure what really happened to me.

I have an on-off “sexbuddy relation” with a man, but our meetings only include oral sex and foreplay stuffs since I’m a virgin ( and I wanted to wait until marriage). He knew this, we made an agreement.

Last night, he was doing assjob while I was lying on my belly in probe bone pose when suddenly I felt his dick really close to my pussy. I trusted him, I thought he was about to do a little bit of grinding but then he pushed his dick inside me. I was in shock, I was crying and I tried to escape from him but it took time for him to realize this. He immediately stopped and started to cuddle me, but I was mad, frustrated, afraid so I left the place.

I don’t know what happened, I don’t want to consider it as a rape but I really don’t know what to think about this whole thing.

[AndreasM96]

Yeah, legally it is rape. On the other hand, sorry but it's mostly your fault. Letting a guy do you, even anally, it shouldn't be such a surprise that for many reasons he'd do that, he could've not even paying real attention to where his penis was. Do not do it again with him or anyone unless you want such things to happen, and obviously don't try anything with that man again.

On losing the virginity part, I know it may suck since you had a plan, but it's not the end of the world. Do not get depressed about it, and if you ever want someone to talk to, well, we're all here.

[genericname85]

i wouldn't consider it rape. i do see it as unfortunate or a failure/mistake by him or whatever, not rape though. also no offense but to me "waiting till marriage" but then doing oral and everything else is fucking stupid. sex is sex. just cause you never put stuff in your hole doesn't make it special. i don't look for girls that are waiting till marriage but i can imagine that most guys who do would not want a girl that fucked around just sparing her pussy hole to claim they're a virgin. might as well have the full thing.

[Hella_x]

Thank you for your reply! Having different opinion is always fine!:)

[genericname85]

haha yeah. that's something a LOT of people have to learn xD most people would flip their shit getting triggered beyond believe but i see you are mature about it :D good for you.

[genericname85]

maybe it's cause you're not American ^^

[Bensbrie]

Honey, not all Americans get angry over the littlest things lol. I'm from the south, and it's a bit more chill down here lol.

[genericname85]

@Bensbrie it's not all little things xD it's specifically gender and sexuality things you seem to have massive issues with over there :D I understand that not everyone will be the same in an entire country but it's undeniable that PC bullshit has taken its toll.

[Bensbrie]

Guess the south hasn't gotten the memo lol. Overall, us southerners do things a bit differently. I'm fine with being a lady lol. I actually prefer being a woman, men are cool and all, but it's nice being smaller and fluffier lol. I think it's people up north and in California who are upset about silly things like a man holding the door. If a man wants to hold the door, daggum it, let the man hold the darn door! I am not complaining haha

[genericname85]

@Bensbrie yeah but you Southerners have your own set of negative stereotypes :D nobody is getting away nicely xD I mean I am German. I don't need to tell you about negative stereotypes everyone got for us :P

[Bensbrie]

Haha yea. People think we are stupid I suppose. A lot of people assume we are all hillbilly and redneck types who live on farms and walk around bare foot, it's not true, but who cares lol. I like my trees and fresh air!

[genericname85]

@Bensbrie don't forget the incest and the recism xD

[Bensbrie]

Fortunately most people think of Alabama when they think of incest! I'm from Mississippi so I'm good lol. And racism is getting better I think. Nobody has called out any racial slurs to me, so it's all good haha

[genericname85]

@Bensbrie haha ok i'm not that familiar with the individual states ^^ interesting though.

[Bensbrie]

Yea! It's okay hon! Everytime I hear something about incest someone is saying: sweet home Alabama. It's pretty funny! I'm like, "yea! You go ahead and look at them, they are the ones who do.. incest? Lol"

[SarahsSummer]

I dont think you could call it rape since he stopped and because when you are engaged in anal sex, due to proximity, it hit your other hole. This can happen. If I had a dollar for every time my guy mistakenly went in the other hole (in my case the reversal of your situation) I'd be a rich girl

[Hella_x]

Thank you for your reply!:) By saying assjob I meant the sexual activity when he is sliding his dick between my buttchecks, same as doing tittyf*ck.

[SarahsSummer]

it may be similar to tittyf*ck but there since there aren't any holes within 5 millimeters of your titties, it's not quite the same... Be careful and practice safe assjobbing

[NightFlirt]

I'm not sure if you could call it Rape either, but what he did was wrong and down right dirty. There is a chance he knew what he was doing and was hoping you'd let him. I am so sorry sweetie. Tell him he is cut off and should be thankful that you don't cut his dick off.

[Hella_x]

Your last phrase brought smile on my face!:) Thank you for your reply!

[NightFlirt]

Always glad to make someone smile @Hella_x :)

[PondyPand]

It's not rape. He stopped when he knew you didn't want it.
You get a sex buddy then complain when there's the prospect of sex involved? Idiotic.

[Hella_x]

Sex is NOT just penetrative sex, it is such a narrow-minded way of thinking that sex only means p-in-v sex. There are dozens of ways to pleasure someone. But thank you for your reply!

[PondyPand]

Sex is penetration. FOREPLAY is not always. Intelligence would have taken you so far is you'd only learnt to use it.

[Warmapplecrumble]

I wouldn't consider that rape.

[nerms123]

If it was an accident, then I woudln't consider it rape, but if he did it on purpose when you said you didn't want to then it's definitely rapey at least.

[EmmaMary]

As he knew you had boundaries and had made an agreement, then it's rape, simply because he did not have your consent.

[TripleAce]

No it's not... its just relationship stuff
he stopped and cuddled you so I think he was just in the moment and maybe figured you might wanna, but when you didn't want to he was cool about it

this sounds fine

[Agape93]

Technically yeah. You didn’t consent to vaginal sex, and he did so without permission. It sounds to me like he didn’t intend on honoring your choice of chastity. Men don’t accidentally stick their dicks in.

[0112358]

I mean did he say nothing?

If he did it on purpose, it's rape. If he slipped in by accident (I actually by accident penetrated anally once while doing the same thing) then it's an accident.

People saying 'well if he's messing around down there that's what happens', no that's bullshit. I mean ACCIDENTAL penetration may happen but 'I got excited and thought it would be fine to fuck you even though i'd said I wouldn't' is not. It's still rape if you were turned on for fucks sake.

[Hella_x]

Thank you for your reply!:) I doubt it was an accident since as soon as he got in he started to thrust his dick. But after it I could see the sense of guilt in his eyes and he asked if I want to talk about it or if I want him to leave. That’s all he said.

[needhelp777]

Ok Soo.
Tbh
He didn't have ur permission to do that
So yeah it called rape

[alice55]

I don't think that's rape

[Drumlin2001]

You told him not to put his penis in your vagina. He did. Sounds like a sexual assualt.

[FakeName123]

Per pure legal definition it is rape.

That being said - there is a lot of things left in the context. If giving him the benefit of a doubt it could him just being "too in the mood" and ended up doing something impulsive without thinking. If assuming the worst then he never respected your virginity.

That being said - that entire thing was just a stupid idea to begin with.

[deshwin]

For me its rape, he just shove it in so yeah rape

[OrangeBoy2]

He was testing you, I don't think he ever really respected the virginy boundary and he believed that to be silly and wanted to prove you would want it.

But how much did he got in? If he did at all. Can you have an idea? Did you bleed?

[Hella_x]

I’ve already broken my hymen so thankfully there were no blood. I couldn’t see it because of the position but I could really feel him, I guess he stucked more than the half of his penis in. Thank you for your reply!:)

[OrangeBoy2]

How are things with him now? Trading msgs?

[Hella_x]

He wanted to talk, but I need a little bit of time. I guess the best would be that if we talk honestly about this whole thing but I couldn’t even look in his eyes.

[CallmeJazz]

It is rape now it's upto you what you want to do.

[SunnySummerDay]

It is rape.

[Lottifan]

Considering he stuck his penis in you without your consent it is rape

[Lottifan]

@Hella-x I’m sorry to hear that happened to you.

[Hella_x]

Thank you for your reply&empathy!:)

[Lottifan]

@Hella-x If you ever want someone to let your heart out to you can always pm me

[bangyourhead]

No, it’s not rape. You’re stupid for setting up a scenario where a dick is by your pussy and he’s grinding on you and you’re both naked.

[Hella_x]

Thank you for your reply, even though I find it quite rude to call me stupid for enjoying the movement of grinding. I don’t think that you should degrade someone for finding pleasure in such a way. Plus, grinding is NOT penetrative sex and I only agreed on grinding, nothing more. In this case, it is evident that if the other person wants to go further then he should ask it beforehand.

[bangyourhead]

you're the equivalent of a person putting their hand over a fire then complaining that you get burned eventually.

[buttcrackjoe]

Yes ^

[joyboy12]

Drop that boy and get your self a real nigga

[megaman242]

Mmm I don't know if we can call it rape, a mistake yes. He did not realize right away. But when he did he stopped.

[megaman242]

I don't know him, but I don't think he ment to.

[Hella_x]

Thank you for your reply!:) This could be the right answer as far as I know him.

[Glen68]

Well it was an asshole thing for him to do since he knew you didn't want to have sex but since he stopped when you told him then I don't think it was rape. First woman I've talked to who likes assjobs