Guys, whats the view like in reverse cowgirl? Reason to be self-conscious?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for a few years, and lost my virginity to him about a year ago. He had prior experience and prior girlfriends, but I've never inquired much. Pretty much our sex life is very standard, me on top or him on top, face to face. Or I go down on him. I really want to try something different, but because he never initiates any of it himself, it makes me feel awkward. I sometimes tell him to tell me what he wants or if he wants to try something, but he never does.

Reverse cowgirl is pretty common, and not any cause for alarm. But it's new to me. And I'm feeling shy. I don't even know how to like... start turning around for it without feeling awkward. And the fact everything is kinda exposed and open... a little nerve-wracking. He offered to go down on me once, when we first started, and I kinda said no because I wasn't ready for that. So he's never really gotten all up close down there. Seeing the whole rear area is eek, hahah.

What is a guys' typical reaction? Is it gross seeing someone's anus, to be blunt? Or the whole vagina area, which I personally find unattractive.
Girls, any comments? Or how to maneuver around or what to say while doing it?

I just don't know how to go about this. He never really gets super into things and I really want him to. I'm new to it all. I get it if he's already tried everything, but I haven't.

Thanks.

[PrudentGuy]

Hi, my reply is going to be long and graphic because I'm a butt guy and my girlfriend has an awesome butt and is very poise at showing it off to me.

Apart from reverse cowgirl, we do a lot of doggy style that showcase her butt even more.

Years ago when we first had sex, she was like you, very self conscious and never allow me to fuck her in any rear entry positions.

But after I told her how I enjoy seeing her butt, she gained confidence and pick up steam until she now flaunts her butt.

I hope what I write next will encourage you to show off rather than hide more.

The primary reason is guys, especially butt guys, simply like the view. Its instinctive.

First, know that when we checked girls out (in shopping centers), we actually strip them naked in our minds. (Don't ask.)

This means when you actually strip butt naked, we are having our innermost desire fulfilled.

Next, we guys just like the view. Your butt cheeks are smooth yet firm, and in a position that yells CARNAL.

So it's very arousing and sensual.

Finally, when we /you spread your butt cheeks, we actually see your anus and vagina.

Yes, we see them.

And this is the ultimate pleasure. We may even climax seeing them. So take this as a compliment.

Yes, put away the awkwardness. Embrace your femininity. We like to see your anus and vagina lining up on your spread cleft.

So be poise and bless your man.

[PrudentGuy]

Thanks for MHO and let me know how you feel my Opinion. (Just drop me a message if you like.)

[God_of_Thunder]

Honestly; you're overthinking things just a bit too much, lol. I understand, but you have nothing to worry about.

Yes, granted; it's an anus, but for guys, especially during sex, that's actually an erotic view, believe it or not. Plus the whole vaginal area, as you asked, is also incredibly arousing.

It sounds like you're somewhat embarrassed about it, and maybe even a little insecure, which is perfectly understandable. As a guy, though, it's something that we love to see, and find visually stimulating, so the last thing you should worry about is turning him off. I promise it will have the opposite effect; he'll love it.

As far as maneuvering; well, that is up to you. You don't necessarily have to twist around, while you're already on top (although that's an option). You can turn around, first, and then lower yourself down, if that's easier for you. Once he's in, you can move however feels the best to you. Grinding/rocking, or up and down are great.

If you feel comfortable, and really want to give him a good view, you can plant both feet, lean forward (hands on the floor if it's easier), and start moving your ass up and down. That will give him a spectacular view, and allow you to look down, too, if you want to see him entering you.

[Berethor]

Your boyfriend is likely okay with standard sex, and if he knows that you lost you virginity to him, he likely don't expects you to do more than you are already doing, also you said that you already been on top of him, it's not exactly standard, and reverse-cowgirl makes you feel more conscious than a face to face cowgirl? in that position he mostly going to see your butt, not your whole front and your face, so what is so big deal about it? are you having a special insecurity about your butt?

[reptocarl]

I love the view plus my girlfriend loves me fingering her ass while she rides me

[Asker]

I'm glad to know the view isn't too scarring.

[reptocarl]

Far from it. It’s hot af

[imjustadude]

Make sure it is clean back there and you will have no issues. You may be worried about him seeing your anus but it's a big turn on feeling and watching a vagina take in all of your cock from that angle. I usually end up doing it doggie style if my girl does reverse cowgirl. She just gets tired and ends up playing with her clit because it is hard to get a good thrusting angle on reverse cow girl. That is unless you are limber and have lots of coordination and strength. Having lots of pillows around makes transitioning easier. Don't expect perfection the first time you try.

[chrishall4102]

I for one think it's sexy

[Mark987]

Reverse cowgirl is an amazing position. I didn't like it in the beginning.. until the woman I was with we did it. She orgasmed from it. Now it's one of our favourites

[skittles2017]

Reverse cowgirl it's an amazing sex position

[Jmmmfi4]

No of course not it's hot we want to see you just go for it.

[Asker]

I'll try. He just doesn't really encourage much or initiate much so I feel like it's always me, and therefore if I try something more "out there" it just makes it more awkward.

[Anonymous]

I don't like it myself, however I've heard with some women it feels the best (is that true?)? But personally, I'd rather see and touch your front than the back most definitely. While I'm still enjoying you riding me, it's a bit boring for me because that's all there is for me to enjoy lol. I would never tell her to get off though ;)

[Opinion Owner]

And your other questions, NEVER gross seeing your entire vagina area. Anus, I personally have little interest, but there are guys that love it. But the thing with sex is open communication. Don't be scared to talk to him about anything and everything. That's how the sex becomes great. I know it's hard if the other person doesn't talk much, in which case I'd suggest just doing different things... if he doesn't like them, he'll tell you not to worry. And when he does comment on something (good or bad), remember it.