My boyfriend follows a lot of softcore porn accounts on instagram, is this disrespectful of him?

[Anonymous]

I find it rude and really gross.

[xCherryKizz]

Im trying to be as rational as possible. On one hand if u see softcore porn accounts as a form of art maybe because he is an artist? Or fashion designer i understand and won't feel tht he is disrespecting.

Even if he uses it to stimulate his mind instead of focusing on myself? Reasonable to some extent because i mean we all need to pleasure ourselves, like porn (with or without ur knowledge). As long as he stays loyal to you and doesn't cheat, i think it is still fine for me.

**disclaimer**
Im not keen on sex and won't expect my partner to solely focus on me. Unless u have intimate relationships, you might find it better to talk to him about his behavior because u feel cheated?

[Justacatlady]

You need to have a discussion with him. If you find it disrespectful then ask him to unfollow. It will be his choice to either out you first or choose the porn accounts. Either way, you’ll know where you stand

[Asker]

do you find it disrespectful

[Justacatlady]

For me it would depend on how he interacted with the accounts. If it was for eye candy, then no. I follow accounts for that reason. If he was communicating or trying to chat with them, then yes I would

[brendon76]

If he followed these accounts before meeting you then I think you should be ok with it. It was him before he met you. But i do think he should be respectful enough not to like their photos or comment on them. Just follow only so he is only looking and nothing more. Now if it really bothers you, you should talk to him and ask why he follows and if he is willing to unfollow for you. I think it’s a fair question but at the same time you should try and accept him the way he is.

[maxambit]

It's probably just masturbation material for when you aren't around. I wouldn't worry unless the girls in the soft porn accounts are local.

[Asker]

there are local models

[maxambit]

I guess maybe he thinks he has a shot if he is doing that.

[Warmapplecrumble]

If he does it when you are there then yes its disrespectful

[Onepiece_fan2000]

Yeah it’s very disrespectful and is a sign he isn’t satisfied with you.

[boggboss]

If you don't like it talk to him about it but if he don't see it as a issue you have to accept it or move on

[Asker]

do you think its something disrespectful?

[boggboss]

Nope not really

[Asker]

how come

[boggboss]

Because it's a fact he watches porn by that logic soft core pics are nothing

[SAVAGE222]

May be u r not able to satisfy him

[outside_Toronto]

Have you told him how you feel? Is this something new or did he do this before he was your BF?

[Asker]

before, just find it rude he hasn't unfollowed

[outside_Toronto]

Well, this is why you don't rush into anything. If he did it before you came along, to him, it's completely normal and perhaps part of who he is. As you get to know him, if this is something you feel you can't tolerate, you need to think about it before you consider what the future looks like. Asking him to change who he is, is irrational.

[Asker]

how is soft core porn accounts a part of who he is

[outside_Toronto]

again, was he watching before he was involved with you?

[skittles2017]

Tell him how you feel about this and talk about it. Give yourself pro and cons about this to eachother and work a solution.

[JiveSoulBro]

Stop posting the same question over and over and get over your insecurities we are tired of hearing it.

[Valnac]

Why do you watch it with him, could be hot.

[Nachowedgie]

Break up with him then

[kiddkalii]

Some men want more

[Asker]

do u find it disrespectful

[Anonymous]

Yes, his watching porn when in a relationship is disrespectful of you.

[Anonymous]

Let him know how you feel about it. If he cares about how you feel, then he might remove them. But I can almost guarantee he means no disrespect by it (not intentionally). He just likes the visual.

[Anonymous]

I bet if he had more sex he wouldn’t bother looking at it