Guys, has a girl ever ruined your orgasm, either intentionally or accidentally? How did you react, and how did she respond? How upset were you?

[Anonymous]

Guys, I have a few questions and then I'll explain why I'm curious about the answers.
Have you ever had your orgasm ruined by a girl?
If so, did she do it accidentally or on purpose and what were the details surrounding the situation (i. e. If on purpose, what was her motivation? If accidentally, was it because of inexperience or a random interruption of some sort? And so on...)
What did it feel like physically or emotionally for you at that time versus how it makes you feel now, and if it has happened again since then, was your reaction similar or different and how so?
What did you say to her, if anything, at the time it was happening and just afterwards? Did you explain that your orgasm was ruined and how it made you feel?
How did she react to the situation? Was she surprised that you were cumming and didn't know how to react, or did she even notice that it was ruined without you having to tell her or explain it to her? If you did mention it to her, how did she react? Was she offended by the situation? Embarrassed?

I ask because I recently ruined my boyfriend's orgasm accidentally and it made me think of a similar experience I had a few years ago with a different guy. This most recent time, I was riding on top facing away from him (he was laying down and I was sort of laying back on his chest), and due to miscommunication on our part, I slid his dick out thinking he wanted to switch positions and his orgasm was ruined all over my stomach before I could do anything about it.

It reminded me of the first time I gave a guy a handjob. I was jerking him through his underwear and suddenly felt something warm and wet, so I yanked my hand away as a reflex and wasn't sure what was going on. Turns out he was cumming and I had ruined it for him, which is where I first learned the term and what it meant.

Personally, I felt embarrassed both times, and also guilty in a way. I felt bad for both of them at the time, but it's kind of funny looking back.

[Dargil]

"Have you ever had your orgasm ruined by a girl?"
Yes.
"did she do it accidentally or on purpose"
Accidentally
"was it because of inexperience or a random interruption of some sort?"
Both. She paused to rest during a BJ right at the "Ahh, I'm gonna cum" moment. Ejaculation was crippled.
"What did it feel like physically or emotionally for you at that time versus how it makes you feel now? "
It was frustrating and disappointing. I like to cum and I didn't. It wasn't intentional.
"Did you explain that your orgasm was ruined and how it made you feel?"
No. I just said "Oops. Something went wrong."
"How did she react to the situation?"
She didn't react much. Just accepted my "misfire".

The next time she blew me, I said "Go! Go! Go!" at then moment she wouldn't stop right then. That problem is why guys grab girls' heads.

[Trolloween]

Only one time I can remember, not intentional. She was on top and I was about to cum when she suddenly felt a pain, but the timing was awful and I came right as she was flinching and stopping. She made me feel so guilty like I was somehow turned on by her pain like a sadist. I also feel like it wasn't my fault since she was on top and in control of the situation so I couldn't have done it on purpose.

[Asker]

Wow, that's actually not what I expected at all..! You mean YOUR orgasm was ruined and she blamed YOU for it? What the hell kinda psycho bitchy move is that? I would never blame my partner's ruined orgasm on them... Dude, I feel sorry for you. I had a guy tell me once that it was my fault that he couldn't get hard, and then later blame me for him cumming too fast once he did get an erection, and it was possibly the quickest turn off in the world for me and also the fastest I ever dumped someone for something that happened in bed. The guy was having trouble getting it up, which I don't have any problem with at all... It just doesn't happen sometimes, and I know that there's many biological/medical explanations for it, as well, that guys can't help (I study/work in the medical field, so it's not like I don't completely understand the mechanisms that lead to this sort of problem). He was saying things like, "You're not acting sexy enough," or, "C'mon, at least pretend like you think I'm hot or something!" Keep in mind that this is while I'm completely naked, fingering myself, and blowing the dude. I'm like, "Really? A finger in my pussy and your dick in my mouth isn't a good enough indication that I'm turned on right now? Well, guess what, I'm not anymore..." I didn't say that, obviously, but I kept sucking/stroking/fondling and so on until he finally did manage to get hard. Within about two minutes of me climbing on top and riding him, he suddenly shoves me off to the side, grabs his dick, and starts shooting cum across the sheets, after which he looks at me and says, "See what you fucking did? Why didn't you climb off faster? Couldn't you tell I was about to cum?" It was comical and pathetic, really.

[Asker]

I've been on the other side of things, too, though. I remember one time I was with a guy, and we had messed around before a few times, like I blew him and jerked him off a few times and what not, but the first time we went to have sex, he was rubbing his cock on my pussy like he was preparing to finally stick it in, and when he did go to stick it in he just started dripping cum before he even got it inside me. He had lasted long enough when I was blowing him and stuff, but came within seconds of seeing me naked from the waist down. It was a little strange at the time because he didn't really "cum", necessarily... Like it just sort of leaked out like a water faucet or something with none of the throbbing thing that guys' dicks normally do when they orgasm. Anyway, the dude was obviously really embarrassed and started saying things like, "Sorry, I don't know why that happened," and, "You're so sexy I just got too excited," and he also apologized for not being able to get me off, too, but that was the funny part that I remember more than anything about the experience. He specifically said, "I didn't really orgasm there, but I can tell that you're really turned on, so what do you really like it when guys do to you to make you orgasm? Can I still try to get you off, at least, because I'd really like that, but I understand if you think I'm a loser and you're not turned on anymore." That's almost word for word what he said, maybe with less stammering/pausing and stuff, but pretty close. The reason it stood out to me was that the guy admittedly had an unsatisfying orgasm that he blamed on himself and his first thought was, "I'd really enjoy making her orgasm," which, to this day, makes me think that he only came so early because he was so excited to make ME orgasm, like what was turning him on so much was MY satisfaction. And beyond that, I also specifically remember him posing the second part in the form of a question: "... CAN I still try to get you off, at least..."

[Asker]

This was one of the hottest things ever for me and I'm still so attracted to that guy's genuine personality and character because of it. He was seriously excited just to make me orgasm, and instead of just assuming that I wanted him to "compensate" for his premature ejaculation by making me cum with his hand or mouth or something, he actually ASKED if I was still turned on and wanted to continue, like he knew I was turned on initially and that we were consenting and on the same terms, but he just wanted to make sure that I was still interested before proceeding any further. I, of course, told him that I was wetter than an Amazon thunderstorm and that he could do whatever the hell he wanted between my thighs for as long as he damn well pleased. I actually said something like, "I'm actually way more turned on now, to be honest, and I don't think you're a loser for cumming so fast at all... Sure, I was hoping we'd both get to orgasm tonight, and you don't have to keep going if you don't want, but I do really want to fuck you more than ever now." He did eat me out for what seemed like hours after that, and he ended up telling me later that he was embarrassed about cumming early at the time, but that he actually found it to be a turn on after the fact since I didn't make him feel bad about it and that he kind of ended up enjoying the weird rush of humiliation and embarrassment that was quickly faded away by our trust in each other. I tell you what, though... I gave that man the best goddamn blowjob I've ever given in my life the following morning and holy hell if his semen didn't hit the ceiling fan then I'd be surprised.

[Trolloween]

Sounds like you dealt with both situations really well. I've never had either problem but if I did I'd hope they'd understand like you did. That guy blaming you was an asshole, definitely really insecure and didn't know how to deal with it. I mean the closest I've had to that was actually relatively recently where we'd had sex for hours and I wasn't as hard anymore, so I just said we should take a break and we did before carrying on. It would be nice to always be like a viagra fuelled porn star but fatigue happens. But I don't think she was a psycho blaming me for my bad orgasm. She just seemed annoyed that I came when she was in pain like that's what turned me on. But it wasn't a big deal it was kind of taken humorously.

[Asker]

I guess the moral of the story that I'm trying to get to is that I find it interesting how guys react to those situations, and I was also curious about what other guys thought about the whole "ruined orgasm" problem. I get that it sucks, as I've had a few of mine ruined accidentally, as well, but I find it more interesting to look at how guys react afterwards. For some reason, when guys blame themselves for it or they go out of their way to make sure I don't feel bad about it, I sort of find it pretty attractive in an almost twisted sado-masochistic way, while also in a simultaneously romantic way. Like, when a guy is cumming without me touching him and it ruins it for him, I do find a sort of sick pleasure in their struggle to retain the feeling of a full orgasm, but only after the fact, not while it's happening. I'm almost always embarrassed and a little guilty when the guy is actually squirming around in frustration, but if he then proceeds to say things like, "No, don't worry, it's fine," and, "The sex was great, and sometimes things like this just happen... It's not your fault," and other things that show how understanding and caring he is, then suddenly the frustration he was experiencing just moments before is suddenly a real turn on because I know that despite the immense frustration and disappointment that he had just experienced, he was still considerate of how I felt about it and cared about making me feel okay and less embarrassed/guilty about it. For some reason, this makes his frustration seem really sexy since he didn't even get his own satisfaction but now he's trying to make sure I get mine... It's kind of hard to explain.

[Trolloween]

Sounds like you just like affection and it's like you're testing them to see if they still really care when they're at their most vulnerable. I have ruined a gfs orgasm by basically blue balling her by accident before. She made all the signs like she was cumming or within 2 seconds of it which is a huge turn on. So I came and she just... Didn't. Its weird because its always obvious when a girl is cumming and I was so sure but nope apparently not and once it was gone it was gone. I nearly always made her cum before sex during oral so it's not like she didn't orgasm at all but if that were me I'd be extremely frustrated

[Asker]

Anyway, I was wondering if there were any guys on here that had a similar strange/confusing emotional response to having their orgasm ruined, or about the ruining of their partners' orgasms. I imagined there would be at least someone on here that would be turned on by having their orgasm ruined for a reason I'd never considered, because I've had similar emotions when I've had some of my own orgasms ruined. For example, I was having sex with a guy one time, and we'd only done it a handful of times prior to this particular occasion, and this time the guy seemed particularly aroused and ready to go. Well, it started off really hot and fast. He made me cum with his mouth within minutes, and then again not long after by fingering me while I jerked him off. So, I'd already came twice at that point, and as soon as I came the second time, the guy immediately spread my legs open and started fucking me pretty roughly in a missionary position, which I'm not opposed to. I was already approaching my third orgasm, but I didn't say anything out loud to indicate that I was about to orgasm again, and just as my first orgasm contraction started to come on, he pulled his dick out, straddled my abdomen, and started unloading massive amounts of cum onto my face, and since he was straddling me like he was I couldn't even reach between my legs to try to keep my orgasm going, which led to one of the most sudden and strong ruined orgasms I'd ever had. My whole body was seizing with each ruined contraction.

[Asker]

I don't know why, but that was one of the only times where I genuinely enjoyed having my orgasm ruined, and I can't fully explain it. Having the guy cum all over me while I was thrashing about like I was has to be one of the most humiliating feelings I'd ever experienced. I was desperately trying to reach my crotch and having this guy straddling me to prevent it made me feel so helpless and humiliated. After the guy finished, I immediately reached for my crotch and I had never been so sensitive down there in my entire life. It was like air itself was enough to make me twitch with overwhelming bursts of pleasure, like my body was trying so hard to compensate for the abrupt discontinuation of stimulation that it just sent my clitoral nerve endings into overdrive. The guy asked if I was okay because I was shaking so much. He looked so embarrassed because he hadn't even noticed, but I told him that I was really sensitive and what does he do? He immediately starts teasing me even more, and actually gave me a great orgasm again after I had managed to calm down a little bit. I still don't know why I found that particular ruined orgasm so satisfying, though, and this is what intrigues me because I've heard guys say that they like having their orgasm ruined but they can't explain why. I was kind of curious to see if any guys on here offered some sort of explanation that maybe applied to my own case or that made some kind of sense with relation to my own experience. I think it might have been something about being so helpless and humiliated while the guy was having his own explosive orgasm, something about that contrast of me being deprived and wishing so badly that I could be in his position instead. I liked the guy quite a lot, so maybe that had something to do with it, too, like maybe I didn't mind being so humiliated in front of him because I trusted him and cared for him and was happy to see him enjoying himself. Curious to know what everybody here thinks.

[Asker]

I think you're spot on about the "attracted to affection" thing. That makes a lot of sense, actually. It's really hot to know that a guy cares during all sorts of different stresses and frustrations, so that really does explain things pretty well. I'm glad you were able to write your incident off humorously, as well. I think that's the best course of action most times.

[Trolloween]

It's a pretty common theme among the sub/dom community I think. Men being edged is a similar thing where they are being denied orgasm, or then full on forced celibacy. I think maybe you're thinking about it as this really specific example but it's maybe just one thing of the overshadowing love of being submissive and out of control. For example I would guess you probably like being tied up?

[Asker]

I've never actually tried being tied up or restrained during sex. The only thing close to that in my experience would be the unintentional restraint in the case where the guy straddled me to cum on my face which kept me from being able to reach my crotch and stimulate myself, but in that case I did rather enjoy it even if it was unintentional and not really a physical restraint, necessarily. I've also only had one interaction with a guy that liked the "whips and chains" type of thing. He really enjoyed spanking me or slapping my ass or tits during sex, and would pinch my nipples really hard or flick my clit while fingering me every once in a while. I never liked the pain beyond some light spanking, really. The nipple pinching was kind of hot because it's a really sharp, directed pain, but it feels really good when the guy turns loose because my nipples get so much more erect and sensitive than they ever do otherwise. The clit-flicking didn't do anything for me, either, because if I'm being honest it just hurts lol

[Asker]

The guy did like having his testicles tortured, though, and I have to admit that I kind of enjoyed doing that way more than having pain inflicted on me. Maybe it's because I always see guys being so protective and sensitive about their balls, and without being able to understand what that pain is like when they are slapped or something, it's kind of just confusing and interesting for me to consider why it hurts so damn much. I think I only enjoyed it because he really liked it, though. If I would grab his sack and squeeze really hard without him prompting me to do so, even if it was just while we were walking around the house or something, he would immediately wince in pain, but it was always quickly followed by a big smile and something like, "God you're sexy," or something. Again, I think it might be a trust ting that that I think about it. I think I liked doing that to him because he trusted me to know when to do it and how hard to do it. I rarely hit him harder or more often than he could take it, and he always seemed to appreciate when I'd take the initiative and find a new way to torture his manhood like dropping a knee into his crotch while switching positions or riding reverse and squeezing him really hard down there as he was cumming. It also seemed to make him cum with more force and volume, too, which I took as a sign that he really liked me and appreciated my efforts to incorporate his kinks even if I wasn't fully into them myself.

[Trolloween]

You should try it then. Every girl I've been with liked milder stuff like hair pulling, spanking and being restrained in some way like having their wrists held down during sex. Most girls like being choked too, or at least having a hand on their neck. I'm not into the whole whips thing I find hardcore bdsm stuff really cringey tbh but don't judge anyone who likes it.

[Asker]

I mean, I don't mind having my hair held/pulled or my wrists held down. I'm just sort of indifferent towards it, I suppose, like it doesn't add anything to my experience, but it doesn't negatively affect the outcome, either. I did have one guy almost instinctively grab me around the neck while he was on top once, I'm guessing out of habit from previous relationships or something where the girl liked it or didn't mind, and I didn't have a negative reaction to that, either, like it never crossed my mind to consider whether or not he was actually trying to choke me or harm me in any way or anything, and I guess it was okay, again, but nothing too special for me. When it did get a little hard to breathe there was some definite added effects from the adrenaline rush and oxygen depletion "tunnel vision" type of thing that happens after a while. I can totally see how people would enjoy that, to be honest. Now that I think about it, though, I think I'm more on the dominant side than submissive side based on just our conversation here... I don't particularly like standard submissive actions outside of the one unintentional ruined orgasm restraint that I mentioned, but I do find some sort of pleasure in one way or another when the guys I'm with don't mind some pain or humiliation of some sort. Like the guy who was totally apologetic about cumming early or the first guy I jerked off who was helpful instead of accusatory or upset after I accidentally ruined his orgasm, too. I'm starting to think it's far more psychological than physical for me, actually. I enjoy imagining the emotions and thoughts that my partner is having during sex much more than the physicality of most of the process. I'm turned on by the thought and imagination alone, like I'm making love to the guys' psyche but I'm fucking his penis, but pretty much only because he can't hit my g-spot with his psyche lol

[Trolloween]

Well you can be both, sounds like you are depending on the person and situation. There's no rules. Personally I wouldn't like anything submissive so I fall to one side but not in an extreme way like that's what gets me off or it needs to be that way. So I would say you're both or just have certain kinks you've found. The whole pay he imagination thing is the same for all girls mostly, more guys need to know this instead of thinking they need to jack hammer like a porn star. I've never considered myself some sex pro but the feedback I've had is really enlightening on how bad most guys are, two of my exs had never had an orgasm with a guy before which is pretty crazy.

[Asker]

I've definitely had relationships or one-time interactions where I knew I wasn't going to orgasm by the end of it all, and it really is a deal-breaker for me if the guy isn't open to taking my suggestions on how to improve in bed or simply isn't receptive or interested in how good the sex is for me. I understand if a guy lacks experience or just hasn't had anybody correct him on something simple before, but continuously not trying to get better and actually focus on what makes us both happy just doesn't work for me. I don't think you have to be a "sex pro" to read some basic body language or take the time to ask, "Hey, did you cum as hard as I did? No? Oh, well, let's fix that..." It's just basic human interaction at that point. Besides, the longer you're with someone, the more you should be sex pros with regards to that person specifically... There's no sex guru in the world that's going to be able to please me as good as a caring, open-minded man that I've been fucking for a decade, because a sex guru might have decades of sex experience and knowledge, but MY guy has a decade of experience just in the field of study called "My Vagina 101".

[nothingtosee]

Me, I often LOVE it when a woman gives me a ruined orgasm. For me, it's all part of the role playing aspect. For example, if she wants me to be her sex slave for the night. I have to ask for permission to cum, and I'm not allowed to cum without it. When I ask, she will often tell me, "No, not yet" just to drive me crazy. She'll then make me give her multiple orgasms before she lets me have one, and when she does, she'll do it by giving me a handjob. When she finally gives me permission to cum, she'll tell me not to move or make a sound, then she'll slow down and barely stroke me. My orgasms are ALWAYS so intense and powerful!

Sometimes, when I'm playing with myself, I'll be fantasizing about eating my cum and I want to do it, but I know if I cum really hard and fast, I'll lose interest afterwards, so what I'll do is, just as I'm about to cum I'll slow down and barely stroke myself, slowly bringing myself to the edge and then stop. A second later I'll continue, but keeping myself right on the edge. The whole time I'll keep telling myself that I "have" to eat my cum. Then, I'll accidentally go to far and when I start to cum, I'll barely touch myself, and when I do, my cum will begin to leak out very slowly. Just as it does, I'll scoop up my cum and quickly bring it to my mouth and suck on it. Then, I'll quickly go back down and scoop up more cum and eat more of it. My orgasm last longer and I'm still able to eat my cum without losing interests.

I've also given a woman a ruined orgasm, on purpose! When she's my sex slave, I'll keep her on the edge of an orgasm for a nice long time, and when I do, I make her give me several blowjobs or handjobs. Then, when "I'm ready", I'll make her lie down, on her back with her legs spread wide. Then, I'll proceed to stroke her softly and slowly. The whole time I'm telling her not to move or make a sound. This will make her ask for permission to cum SEVERAL TIMES! This is about the time when I'll ask her, "How bad do you want to cum? And, what are you willing to do for it?" Then, when I'm ready, I'll give her permission and then I'll stroke her even softer and slower. It makes her orgasms even stronger and more intense! I love how much she'll shake and shiver without my permission.

Oh, by the way, when I'm her slave, she'll give me permission to cum ONLY after I agree to do something naughty, kinky or taboo for her.

Anyway, if you want talk more, and in greater detail, send me an email at nothingtosee@yahoo. com

[sensual123]

Yes, was having sex with girlfriend. First she had orgasm from me giving her oral then we were doong it doggy style, I was within moments of cumming and she said to me to take it out because it hurt. I said fucking hell out of frustration and pulled my penis out. But also felt bad for reacting like that.

She wanted to go shopping so we went, my balls were aching painfully as the sex stopped before I could cum.

[Glenn603]

I've had this happen, i guess you would call it intentionally. I met this girl on holiday and went to her hotel room only a few minutes after meeting her. She was sat on her bed while i was stood in front of her and she was giving me a hand job. I hadn`t masturbated for maybe two months before so i was super horny and i knew it was going to be a massive load.
Anyway while she was rubbing me i said to her that i was about to cum. I thought she was going to let me finish on her but no, instead she stopped rubbing me immediately and moved out of the way quickly, and so i didn`t make a mess of her bed i cum into my own hand. Obviously normally i continue rubbing through my orgasm but i couldn`t even do that because it would have splashed everywhere.
That was my only ever disappointment.

[Loving_Husband]

My wife enjoys ruining my orgasms. Gets me right to the point and stops touching it and watches my ruined orgasm as my cum oozes out and I can't do anything about it but helplessly watch. Then she locks me back into my chastity cage. I love that she has that control over my orgasms.

[chrishall4102]

Yes I have she did it on purpose because she was evil. There's a thing that men call blue balls it hurts men like hell

[Valnac]

No, that’s never happened, thank goodness.

[nudeNhorny]

Yes I've experienced it few times before, the most of them was on purpose, I had an ex who was into it and she used to ruin my orgasm during regular handjobs, I remember how amused she used to look when she see the cum start to ooze out and me squirming in my place after she interrupt her handjob.

[Asker]

So, did the ruining of your own orgasm feel good or bad, then? Like, did you enjoy it? Or were you more or less indifferent about it and enjoyed it more so because of the fact that she enjoyed it and you liked making her feel amused and aroused? I did have a boyfriend once that was kind of into ruined orgasms, but not entirely a fan. He would sometimes ask me stop jerking him off as soon as I saw him start cumming, but then he liked for me to start jerking again before he had entirely came... If that makes sense. Like, you know how when you ejaculate it's several, like, spurts? He liked me to stop when he started cumming but to continue before he was done cumming, which I found oddly specific, and he didn't always ask for me to do it. I didn't ask a lot about the motivation behind it, but he said he sort of enjoyed the feeling of a lack of control and putting his trust in me to continue and finish him off just before he was totally finished, which was also kind of romantic in a way, I guess, that he was aroused by trusting me? I don't know, but he also said he just likes to cum sometimes so, whatever, can't blame the guy... I just wanna get off sometimes without all the frills, too.

[nudeNhorny]

Yeah I can say I kinda enjoyed the control she has on my orgasm and the look of amusement on her face, so I wouldn't say it was bad at all, off course it's not very comfortable to experience a ruined orgasm, but it's a mix of pain and pleasure, now sometimes I even apply it on my self.

[Anonymous]

Short simple answer, things happen. The more times and longer you're together, you get to know each other better and it should improve. Usually not a big deal, maybe slightly disappointed, but things happen. Sometimes it's lack of communication, sometimes it's our bodies. Example sometimes for myself, there's very little time to react from when I feel it coming on, and when it happens. Sometimes we misjudge it.

[Asker]

I like that you're so understanding. That's very sweet and insightful of you. I always felt bad when something like this happens, or even if I do something that sort of partially ruins any part of my boyfriends' orgasm, but I think that's just because I cared about them (at least at that time) and I was happiest when I could make them happy, too, so knowing that I did something that didn't feel good for them made me feel, well, not like a bad girlfriend or sexual partner or anything, but just sort of guilty and less happy, in general. The first time it happened, when I was jerking a guy off for the first time, I was SOO embarrassed... I must have looked so silly when I realized what was happening. The guy was quite a bit older than me and was attracted to how little I knew about sex at the time, as he often told me that he enjoyed the process of watching me learn new things and being able to teach me and guide me through stuff, so I don't know why I was so embarrassed. He even told me after the fact that, while he was really disappointed at the very moment that it happened, he quickly realized that it was actually sort of "cute" that I had reacted so violently and with so much surprise and utter confusion. That's why I said that, in retrospect, that story is pretty funny to me now, and even one that the two of us still laugh about today (as we're both still friends and in different relationships now). I was curious to know what other guys might have done or if they get mad or just laugh... It's funny how different guys react to things like that, and girls, too, I guess.

[Opinion Owner]

It is funny I agree (how people react). I never understood guys getting angry over things like that. I mean, depending on the situation, yeah it might be a bit disappointing, but no reason to get angry over it. Unless it keeps happening lol, then it could be frustrating and more annoying.

[Asker]

Yeah, and I think intent matters a lot, too. Like, if a guy was fucking me and I said I was on the edge of an orgasm, then I'd be pretty pissed if he intentionally pulled out and laughed at me or found some sick pleasure in seeing me struggle against my will while trying to orgasm, but if a guy slips out or pulls out on accident or because he didn't know I was about to orgasm, then it's totally different since he didn't really know what he was doing and what was about to happen. I do think, though, that having my orgasm ruined on purpose might be something interesting to try, because I do tend to be more sensitive afterwards if I don't fully climax, which might lead to some interesting and lengthier/kinkier sessions on a Saturday evening when neither of us are busy or something. I think it'd be interesting to see how different a ruined orgasm felt when I sort of knew it was coming instead of if it happened spontaneously. I wonder if there's a different reaction or sensation since it's not surprising or shocking, but just a focused deprivation of stimulation... Like, I bet if you just focused on cumming knowing that it was going to be ruined when you finally got to that point, it'd probably be pretty hard to orgasm, anyway, so it'd probably feel totally different than if you were totally expecting an orgasm up until the last second before it was taken away from you.