What is your favorite kink/fetish (anonymous answers allowed)?

[DontBlameMe]

Please pick the option closest to your preferred fetish/kink if the options aren't exact, but are close enough to be interpreted as similar/interchangeable terms or fetishes. For groping/molesting/frotteurism and similar fetishes (public or private contact of one's sexual organs to another person without their knowledge, or contact of a person in a sexual manner without their knowledge), please select the option for "voyeurism/candid viewing/spying" and state in the comments if your fetish is specifically frotteurism or groping. The poll answer choices limited me to the number of options provided above, so I could not include groping/frotteurism as a separate option. If none of the options are close to what you would consider your favorite fetish/kink, feel free to select "other", but it is highly encouraged that in selecting this option that you also provide why you selected it in the comments.

I read a few large-population surveys recently (thousands or tens of thousands of respondents) that showed some fetishes/kinks to be far more common than what we might have originally thought, and more surprisingly, that the trends for these tended to remain about the same across many studies in various countries, age groups, genders, and other demographic factors.

I thought it would be interesting to see if the results here matched the other studies I was reading, and I can share what those studies found once I have what I think is a significant or sufficient number of replies if everybody is curious about what larger survey sample sizes have shown.

[nightdrot]

Got to admit, the idea of being watched is a turn-on. The fact that it has happened to me a few times adding to that.

My girlfriend and I tend to a very primal sex. Not in a BDSM "chains and whips" sort of way, which we both see as sort of contrived and artificial. Rather in a natural and instinctive way. I tend to be the alpha male and she the submissive female and there is licking and even a bit of biting and scratching. We are like two animals breeding in a field.

Being watched and in public adds to that and it is a serious turn-on. You are reduced to your most base instincts and are in nature. You are being viewed just as any animal would be in nature and that just makes the sex seem that more instinctive and natural.

In fact, my girlfriend and I have been seen two or three times. Once at a resort in the Caribbean after hours by the swimming pool. We didn't realize that the night staff had caught us but found out later.

The other two times were on vacation on a nude beach. Grant we were not right out in the open, but it was not hard for people walking by to see us. That really was a massive turn-on.

Also, with me personally years before I met my girlfriend when I was in college I was at a party, got a bit drunk and a girl and I went upstairs in the frat house. (I was not a member of the fraternity but was just attending a party.) This gal and I got - ahem - involved, went upstairs, got naked and started having sex in one of the rooms. Long story short, someone caught us and a bunch of people ended up coming in and watching us and cheering us on, but we were both too drunk - as was everyone else - to care. (Though I never did find out whose room we were in.)

Long way around, my girlfriend and I do enjoy having sex in nature. In fact, there is a park near our home with a relatively secluded spot where we will sometimes have sex. (I guess we have never been seen as we have never been arrested, That was a joke, sort of.) The idea of being seen in that context - there we are, two animals in nature, doing what our instincts drive us to - just really lights my fire. (We've also had sex in our backyard, but given the trees around us and our fence, the chances we have ever been seen by the neighbors is slight.)

Still, my few misbegotten adventures notwithstanding, while it turns me (and my gf) on, the chance of an indecent exposure and lewd conduct charge - especially now that my girlfriend and I have three children - does nothing for me, so as a general rule, my girlfriend and I "keep it private." Too bad, though. Those few times in public really were hot.

[DontBlameMe]

nightdrot, very well spoken/written response. As a fellow writer and lover of all things literature, I can truly appreciate seeing another person that cares about how to best convey themselves via written composition, and how their message will be perceived by others based on the quality of its composition. +1 from me just for the care you took in composing your response.

[nightdrot]

Thank you so much. I fully agree with you. People on this site have a great opportunity to express their views and they let it slip by. To me, if you get the chance to express your views I think you should count yourself lucky and take the time to spell it out. Though I have to admit that, in the case of this particular answer, I never thought I would be explaining quite that kind of thing. Still I have to say, it brought back a few fond (and sexy) memories. Anyhow, thanks so much for the kind comment. Very generous of you.

[DontBlameMe]

I agree that if someone is going to take the time to reply to something, then it should warrant a more in-depth explanation than a few words. Otherwise, what is the point of leaving a few words in a comment that offer nothing to the overall conversation or allow anyone else reading it any insight into your true views and beliefs? Simply saying, "Yes," or, "Same here," doesn't really do anything to further the conversation, nor does it validate or verify anything or justify the time it took to read or write. Saying, "Same here," is more or less just saying, "I agree with what that other person said in detail before me," in which case I wonder why typing anything at all was necessary when offering a "like" or "upvote" would also inform readers/viewers that there was another person in agreement with the aforementioned comment without requiring them to read another two-word phrase explaining so. Anyway, I write a lot in my free time, regardless, so I always appreciate someone else who can eloquently describe their views and emotions on a subject. That's another reason that I like this site and am glad to have found it recently. It allows me to provide detailed insight on topics that would otherwise be difficult for me to discuss if not for the anonymity of this platform and the format of "Ask question, answer question" that this site thrives on. Anyway, it's good to be able to write about these things in detail, and also good to read about them in detail from other users when that opportunity presents itself.

[nightdrot]

Well, let me just say, a great pleasure and welcome aboard. From what I have read thus far, you are an excellent writer. Suffice to say, we appear to be on the same page. For my part, I write as part of my living. I work in politics and have been printed - either under my name or my boss's - in The Washington Post, the Washington Times, the (now defunct) New York City Tribune, the Orlando Sentinel and a smattering of other smaller papers and journals. (I also, years ago, had a column that appeared in a bunch of papers in the suburban Detroit area _ i grew up in Michigan - though not the Detroit news of Free Press. Though both have printed me a couple of times.) This also not counting Congressional speeches and committee testimony from time to time. Currently I do political consulting work What I like about this site is that it allows me to express my views in anonymity without thereby implicating my clients. Typically I respond to the political category and the "Sexuality" category. The former for obvious reasons, the latter because my girlfriend works in family law and she often brings home a lot of research data on the topic and it interests me. (It also allows me to compare my relationship to my gfd's to others. That is more out of curiosity than anything else.) Anyhow, great to have a fellow writer on board. Hope to see you around the site.

[DanishSaint]

Hmm... roleplay for once.
I have a major fascination of really dark, black woman and their vaginas. It looks SO freaking hot seeing a white dick inside a black pussy!
I like watching- but mostly being watched, exposing me and or my partner... I once was surprised on a beach (classic) having sex and the girl just stood there and watched... like frozen! Then suddenly I made eye contact with her, and she actually maintained it. I could tell the desire in her eyes, and her almost defying gaze at me... that was SO hot!

[EmoKate97]

Color contrast sex is amazing, i fucking LOVE interracial sex. in my opinion there's nothing more beautiful than seeing my pale skin contrasting against dark skin, it makes me feel so beautiful and submissive and dirty. Bonus taboo points, and bonus points for racial dirty talk. I love being called a white bitch or calling my man my big black daddy. I'm probably a racist worst nightmare because my dream is to have a black baby and be a dirty race mixer, but i'm like this way because i was raised by a racist family so go figure.

and before people call me a racist, all the black men iv been with give zero fucks and love it.

[DevikaButts95]

Love sitting on faces, love my feet worshipped, love worshiiping women's feet.

[MonsieurLinguini]

I am a Dom and Sadist, so naturally I picked that option. However, there is the very close second of exhibitionism. I've had quite a bit of experience with both, and I enjoy them thoroughly.

[Onepiece_fan2000]

I am a girl
With an underwear fetish

[TheresaFrei]

Cum on me, lingerie

[ChrisRudd]

What about cum on your bra and boobs?

[TheresaFrei]

@ChrisRudd yes why not

[kennyw87]

Would you like your kink satisfying for a while I ready to blow in 20 mins or ao

[ChrisRudd]

@TheresaFrei some girls don't like it in there clothes/ underwear. Personally i find it quite hot ;)

[20yearsolder]

I'm very voyeuristic. Huge turn on for me. Answer your own question. Any fetishes?

[DontBlameMe]

Honestly, nothing major that I'd really like more of in my life. I like being more dominant, I think, than submissive. An ex of mine wanted to experiment with ruined orgasms a bit, and I enjoyed giving ruined orgasms more than having my own ruined, so there's that, I suppose.

[20yearsolder]

I enjoy being submissive. Most of the time I am expected to take the lead role. It's nice occasionally to be told what to do and when to do it.

[foxrider77]

I’m into wearing thongs and foreplay in them while my wife wears them too. Rear play is nice too.

[SammyC97]

Out of these I'd say group A

[OhmIsTyping]

I have a choker fetish. Can't stand em

[edmcuck]

Cuckolding, and creampies from being cucked.

[FootfetishistBoy]

I love pain on myself, but I also lovet feet.

[OfDeath]

I chose spanking other people. That's the closest thing that turns me on from your list. I have a different fetish but there is something to be said for spanking a girl raw like she was little red riding hood.

[DontBlameMe]

What is your fetish in more detail/specificity, if I might ask? Something like cuckolding, or something more involved and elaborate?

[OfDeath]

No. It's something else. Don't really want to write here

[DontBlameMe]

DontBlameYou if you DontBlameMe. Fair enough, my friend. I too have some things of interest not worth disclosing publicly, or even anonymously.

[AkkiAnj]

Would love to perform in public

[rickybobs8921]

Creampies and pissing

[Kelly6]

Being watched

[Kelly6]

Cuckquean and more

[FrenchyRomain]

B : i'm a dom and a master

[Glen68]

Post orgasm torture

[DontBlameMe]

So did you pick option A or one of the other options?

[Glen68]

I picked option c because I also like that stuff

[Indguy]

I did do public nudity stuff. U can check my profile for pics

[LOGESHKUMAR]

Spanking..

[Anonymous]

I like being dominated by my husband, I have so much going on in my life when it comes to the bed room I want him in full control. Light BDSM

[Anonymous]

For me it’s penectomy/castration play and threats. Heavy genital torture and verbal abuse directed at my bits. This is even better if done for an audience of like minded women. Of course this is all done by a girl who loves and cares for me personally... Other than that I am completely dominant and engage in very normal life and sex habits so I picked A. I think many people fit into a broad spectrum.

[DontBlameMe]

These fetishes are further from the norm than what the majority of respondents would likely fall into if asked this question with an open-ended response format, but since I was trying to see if I could duplicate the results of larger studies on a smaller scale, I had to limit my options to the bigger and more well-defined or prevalent categories. I do much appreciate you sharing, though.

[Opinion Owner]

No problem, hope it helped. Good luck with your study

[Anonymous]

Chicks with Dicks

[DontBlameMe]

I wanted to include transvestism and/or cross-dressing as an option, as well, but didn't have the room to put any more options.

[Opinion Owner]

yeah there is no way i'm the only guy into it nice list though

[DontBlameMe]

Transvestism is quite popular among the groups of fetishes most largely reported, but it just happens to be just outside of the list that I've presented here as options. It's estimated that pedophilia might be one of the most common paraphilias actually present in society, but is so widely non-reported that it's difficult to estimate accurately and with consistent results.