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How do I deal with a boyfriend that's into cuckolding?

My whole adult life, my friends always laughed that I would never, ever get a relationship because, well, when I drink a little, I mostly end up in bed with a random guy. I might have a slight sex addiction as well. Although about a year ago a miracle happened and I found a guy who fell in love with me, we didn't even have sex before we were together, and now we are a couple for a year already.

The sex was the only thing that didn't go well between us. I thought it was because I was too much into casual sex after all those years of new guys coming and going and never relating sex to emotions. But after a while I found out that he was into something weird as well. He prefers cuckolding to actual sex, meaning he wants other guys to have sex with me and he gets off on that image or even videos or pictures. probably declares why he fell for a slutty woman like me lol. I'm openminded, we talked about it and that was an amazing solution to our sex problem. I could have sex again the way I used to and like it, and he gets his fantasies fulfilled.

Only problem is: he doesn't want anyone to know he's into cuckolding and prefers me to have sex with guys he knows. So basically I "cheat" on him in other peoples eyes. To us it's just a kink, to them it's real. I haven't had one guy who kept his promise to keep quiet about it. And you can imagine every guy in that situation, that fucks someone else wife, feel entitled and takes the advantage to fuck you like a cheap whore. More degrading and they all love to "dirty talk" and laugh at my boyfriend while fucking me. Love it for the kink during, but not afterward.

So after a year we start noticing that this situation is giving both of us a bad name and it's not 'just for sex" in the outside world. It damages both our images (his more than mine, since I kinda made a name before) but it would be stupid to stop this since it's an almost perfect solution to our sex problem.

What do you guys think?
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  • "he doesn't want anyone to know he's into cuckolding and prefers me to have sex with guys he knows."
    "the fact that those guys know him and really think I'm betraying my boyfriend just to let them fuck me, is what turns him on most. He even loves it when they talk degrading about him and me while they're doing it."
    The two of you are making absolutely sure that people think you are cheating on him! Yet you refer to videos and images, so he must be recording some of these and people have to know that he knows. And at this point there is no putting the genie back in the bottle. Everyone knows. It appears the only thing you can do is continue with everyone knowing he is into that (and so are you). You will lose some friends, but you will enjoy your sex and emotional life with him.
    What you do depends on what you are willing and want to do. But base it on people already knowing.

  • I am not the one who should say it but dump this guy already. Every woman, especially woman who are clean, decent and wants only true love from their partners deserve a real man who protects his woman and shows respect to his woman. Your partner's fetish isn't something respectable moreover it isn't manly at all, I wonder why would someone else be humiliated by other males while they are fucking his wife infront of his eyes, that's stupid and abnormal and I think it's a very big problem in your relationship even when you want to have sex with him he will deny it or won't show great performance since he is into that stupid fetish. Good luck.

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  • I think you should figure out a way to effectively swear your lovers to secrecy. At the risk of being a bit forward, objectively how good a lover are you? That'll make a big difference in the strategy.

  • That you are both stupid for doing it in circles that know you ofc you would get a name for yourselfs lol

  • My wife and I are in a cuckold marriage and I love that she gets sexually satisfied by other men. And you are correct in saying that other men love having sex with another man's wife. However she is with guys of her own choosing and not my circle of friends. It works great for us!

    • Thanks for answering. I know that would solve it, but it just seems like the fact that those guys know him and really think I'm betraying my boyfriend just to let them fuck me, is what turns him on most. He even loves it when they talk degrading about him and me while they're doing it. It's like the extremes are important to him, and even a little to me as well.

    • I like it when the guys she is with degrade me too but I don't know them as a friend, it's just a guy she is having sex with.

    • But is it as degrading if the guy simply doesn't know you? And if you know it's just all play?

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  • It’s simple. Are you into what he is or not? If not then you’re not sexually compatible and your relationship is doomed

    • I am. That's what this is about. It's like we both found each other, we're very specific and we match perfectly. But the rest of the world seems to have an opinion about other people's sex life and it ruins an otherwise perfect situation. It's win win win. My husband get's his fantasy fulfilled, I get to have the same amount of casual sex as before, and the other guys still have me for a good quick ballsack-emptying on a drunk night without any further problems.

    • What others think doesn’t matter

  • That is why you find middle ground. This isn't some erotic novel, it's real life. It either can't be guys he knows or interacts with regularly, or you have to tell them the truth.

  • I think you would be better playing away from home, the less people know the better,

  • If it wasn't for blue-pilled cucks such as this guy around half the female population would be either single or homeless. I say all is fair in love and war. You found your cuck. Take all of his money if you can and keep fucking around since this is what you do best. Whatever.

  • I agree! Just dont tell people his name.. or act like it's a one time thing.

  • Ok so he is into it, and you are into it, and you have a problem with people you know accepting this, then the solution in obvious, you only do strangers that you might never meet again

  • Though one, I'm sure you can find a swingers club of sorts that could keep things quiet. Your man just needs to get past the whole thing of people he knows fucking you and rather go with more anonymous cocks...

  • My wife and I have been into cuckolding for more than 20 years, there maybe are half a dozen guys in our town that we have played with, the balance are from out of town usually random, she rarely sees the same guy more than once, and then it is spread out of months. That keeps the reputation untarnished as well as nobody getting too close emotionally.

  • just leave him

  • Ya me an my girlfriend do the same thing except she chooses her guys

  • Is there a way I can ask you some questions aboit the life style?

    • of course

    • I'm curious of it but am scared to let her do it

    • Like I'm really jealous

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  • Your boyfriend doesn't want the social reputation of being a cuckold and yet he's ok with being known as the guy with a cheating girlfriend. Those two positions seem to be in conflict with each other. What is his motivation for choosing guys he knows? Whatever this need is seems to be the root cause of the trouble and can hopefully be accommodated in safer ways.

    If you become intimate with people in your social circle, you have next to no control over what is being said when you're not around. If you sleep with complete strangers, the risk is incredibly high on a variety of fronts. A nice compromise is developing a few good random, safe f-friends that aren't in your circle. Hook up often enough to fully satisfy your inner slut but infrequently enough to prevent too much emotional attachment. Tease your boyfriend with all the details to keep him happy.

  • I would suggest you to do it outside your circle or make a new circle who happens to love this kind of things. I am also in to cuckold but we have 6 people circle , we have our fantasy to fulfill its our own small world but is great solution to deal with outside shity world

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