Why do guys stop being affectionate after they cum?

[Anonymous]

I dunno maybe it's just me and my choice of men, but almost every guy I've been with (either a long term boyfriend, a friends with benefits or just a one time time hookup) was like sooo affectionate and romantic BEFORE and during sex, and then when they finally get it and cum, they pull back right away and were not affectionate any more. They are just... normal. Like friends. And this no-affection thing can last for hours, sometimes days, until they get horny again.

[Passinggas]

It is instinctive for a major reason, which is to stop sex immediately to avoid removing his own cum for mating success. The other is, that there even though the guy is ecstatic for some great sex, there is still a slight depression caused by brain biochemistry due to the body’s loss of such of an abundance of nutrients in the semen that is a signal to start producing more now. Non-“affectionate” is a form of recovery sometimes as little as 10-20min, but days, age? Couldn't say.. One female exception is, that an ex didn’t want to have another round because she said “I like feeling it moving it me” and she wanted to leave it where it was.

[AustinMan]

Have you ever talked to any of them and just asked them to cuddle with you in the afterglow. I love to cuddle after and usually get round 2 started.

Are you good for round 2 shortly?

[MissKittyz]

Yup, it is definetely your choice of men lol I only had that problem with my ex friends with benefits or with guys that didn't really care about our relationship much but just cared about the sex part. They just want sex, and that's it. Someone who truly loves you and cares about you will still give you affection after he cums. My fiancé always does. Doesn't matter how tired he is, he will always give me affection after he is done. So, I think you need to find yourself a better man.

[teamvic]

It happens to a lot of dudes

Like for some reason like that release just causes you to not be horny or affectionate anymore

That happens to me

[teamvic]

But it wares off

[Optymistyk]

I don't know, I like to cuddle after sex.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

He's probably just got cognitive dissonance. Sex is over, but... you're still there. It makes no sense!

[Buckzor]

I think it's probably something somewhat biological, it is a function of men to want to reproduce, so probably subconsciously we "change" to do what we must.

[Cj_Shway]

the romance is probably just them spittin game. OORR it's just that post nut clarity. after nutting in a chick, whatever you want to do, you shall do. sleep, watch a movie, write a book (exaggeration) but post nut, they just wanna do what they wanna do. the more serious the relationship is the shorter the time frame should be before they are back on that romance shitt generally.

[Loving_Husband]

Perhaps that's one reason my wife keeps me in chastity. She says I'm more obedient, affectionate and attentive when I don't cum.

[MrGentleman94]

Prolly guilty. And you're not?

[SilentWatchman]

With some guys (not all), they use affection as a way to get sex. They only get affectionate when they get horny.

[IWannaKnowAlso]

Because they got what they wanted.

[alex_x988]

And that slut still didn't lol... Obviously guys just fuck sluts don't love. All men fucked you casually took you as just a slut with a cunt hole

[SearchingTheSoul]

I like to be affectionate all the time, but I know even some girls that pull a way after sex and don’t want affection.

[Usernamesrdumb]

there's studies on this. Has to do with hormones and chemical releases.

[jirwin7979]

i become more affectionate after i cum

[jimboy]

I dnt I love to cuddle