Blow job in exchange for drugs?

My ex boyfriend is a drug addict. We parted way because of his addiction.( he is addicted to spice. Its cheap) We remained friends. Im his only remaining friend. And yesterday he told me that someone offered him money in exchange of oral sex. The dude is around 60 and my ex is 18. Is this a common practice? Giving oral in exchange of money for drugs ( i mean only in male cases. I know plenty of women do that). What should i do? He has no family so i cannot contact them. I wanna help. Im afraid he might rape him, not just oral, even thought he promissed its just that.
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  • This is a very hard and harsh thing to say, but it's true, and if you ask anyone who works with addiction, they'll tell you the same: you can't help someone until THEY want help. That usually means they have to not only HIT rock bottom, but they have to live there a while before they realize that they need help. And, yes, many won't survive the process, and many that do will be forever damaged by it.

    A lot of people have a very romantic view of drugs, and there are some people who can use them recreationally on occasion, but most people get addicted, and the addiction can sneak up on you before you know it, and then it's too late.

    But NOTHING you do to try to help him will do any good until he's ready to be helped. The ONLY thing you can do is to create consequences for him, which usually involves telling him that if he's ever ready to quit, he can seek you out for help, but until then, he's on his own.

    One of my closest friends lost 25 years to booze, and even though he no longer drinks, he's still, 10 years sober, suffering from those years of drinking. But he's lucky, because his own father drank himself to death at 33 years old, and he's 50 and still alive.

    Do NOT do anything to enable him. You're going to have to cut him off until he's ready to quit, which is going to be hard, but it's honestly the best thing you can do for him.

  • Yes, it's common among male drug addicts. There really is not much of anything you can do. If you give him money, it won't last, he'll just buy drugs and do oral anyway, to get more drugs. Yes, when drug addicts do this they are vulnerable to harm. But again, there is nothing in practical terms you can do to stop him or to make him safe. Normally I'd say something like give him a place to stay, etc. But then he would just rob you for drug money. In the end, he has to want the help bad enough to stick with treatment, and only he can do that.

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  • There isn’t a whole lot you can do. What you’re seeing is the dark side of addiction. The craving for the high can be so powerful that addicts will steal or prostitute themselves to get it. You can’t protect him from himself. Right now, the offer of money for a blowjob sounds reasonable to him because it enables him in feeding his addiction, which is his biggest need. All you can do is encourage him to seek help and support any efforts he makes to get clean. Unfortunately, he’ll probably keep making decisions that are detrimental to himself until he hits rock bottom and decides to change.

  • Really sad. Other than putting him in contact with someone who could help him get into treatment there isn't much you can do. You might suggest he take someone with him that can intervene if things go badly like he doesn't come back outside within so many minutes. Really this is horrible really.

  • You need to convince him to get help. Unfortunately there isn't really a whole lot you can do unless he wants to but if the dude's gonna suck a dick for money its time to try and help. Search online for resources.

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  • Pretty common among addicts of any gender, from what I understand.

  • help him if he doesn't want it leave him Trust me you'll thank me later. You'll never know what contacts those people that sell drugs have. Best thing you can do in my mind is pray for him from a distance.

  • People marry other guys so should be ok.. just make sure he make him put on a condom before

  • is ur ex gonna suck it?

  • Thats soo disgusting.
    Some people take real advantage of vulnerable or needy people!

    Its not normal, get him out of there or leave him.