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Ever tried to help someone and it backfired? What happened?

So i literally used to want to be a sex therapist and it still crosses my mind sometimes but i didn't major in psychology or anything so there goes that. Anyways, i still like helping couples with their sex life. I don't know why i went down this one specific route again, considering it backfired in a similar way 2 years ago. So this couple yesterday told me how theyre trying to make a baby and stuff but the spark is going out. She wants an open relationship and he just wants a baby. He doesn't find her attractive anymore and i told him that maybe its not the greatest idea to go for a kid with someone you love YET no longer find yourself attracted to. Anyways, they still wanna try. So i guided them on ways to focus on pleasuring eachother and not so much focus on just conceiving. Turns out this led to some of the best sex they had in a long time. Glad i could help but the Problem now, he keeps contacting me, calling me baby, saying he loves me, and that he came like crazy because he thought of doing me the whole time. He also says he regrets that i know he's taken because he’d have me hadn't he introduced me to his girl. This is worse than that couple from two years ago who said the sex only got good because they imagined i was ina threesome with them the whole time. And yea i kinda fcked up and said some things to entertain the idea once. But Yea should i retire from sex therapy before i even truly begin? 🤦‍♀️😂😅🙈 #FeelFreeToList #StoryTime
Ever tried to help someone and it backfired? What happened?
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  • for the most part any advice i have given over the years i haven't had anyone come back and say it didn't work, however i have had a couple of people who i gave advice to who ignored said advice and tried to claim that i advised them completely the opposite to what i actually advised them to do/say etc...
    even blamed me for their relationship breaking down... funnily enough when they came to me they were thinking of cheating on their partner or doing something which would undoubtedly land them in total crap... I advised against those things and gave them examples and reasons why what they were planning was a bad thing...
    some how they interpreted that as a "oh great I'll go do it then, nothing bad would happen!"

    came back to me and accused me of being the reason why their life just went from oh yay to ffs you bastard!

    i had to go back over everything i stated to them and explain slowed down and in more detail what i actually said before i just told them to piss off and they reaped what they sowed

    • Yea break it down for em ig

    • yeah tbh though i had already been quite clear when i was advising them, but i believe their mind was already made up so they heard nothing of what they didn't wanna hear :( sad really cos they threw what they had right down the pan

  • Oh boy... Too many to list... One that comes to mind. Years back, I had a friend in my circle, who became addicted to drugs, I e. Heroin, sedatives, etc. He got worse over time. We dragged him to rehabs countless times. But he was never "responded" to the rehabs. You can bring a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. Nevertheless... His condition continued to worsen. And, we were afraid the day was coming. ... and that day eventually came... A crying hysterical call from his mother in the middle of January 2015, at the age of 29, he was gone. How family had no money for a funeral. We all gathered together quickly and chipped in, and gave him a proper funeral and burial. Then, I would come by his mom with food and stuff once/twice a week. Ended up finding out... The mother and father got their all their kids hooked on drugs... And mother was trying to steal me away from my woman to be with her.

    • What... the actual... fck

    • Oh... You don't know... I've had so many backfires in my life lol

    • In fact... There have been a number of times women tried to steal me away. I don't know why lol. CraZy people

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  • If you want to be a therapist I repeat , YOU DO NOT GIVE YOUR PRIVATE CONTACT. As a woman you have to draw a line and let them know where you stand. You cannot entertain the thoughts of patients due to this so many therapist have lost their professional license. For me, I am not a therapist so I dont get into anyone's relationship business and not for free. Unless its gag ofcourse then I answer.

    • He ain't got my number number lmao

    • You said he kept contacting you.

    • Yes i have a way for him to call without it being my personal number. Its business

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  • If you want to be any kind of therapist, you cannot entertain ANY ideas with them. You can't even hint that you enjoy the idea of what he's saying to you.
    Glad you were able to help though. I'm a little worried about these two trying to conceive a baby together.

    • Yea i advised him to not have a kid with her but they said they just want it at this point. And yea i kept telling him to stop whenever he hit on me. I told him to just think of his girl but clearly he didn't

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  • Whatever you do, hold on to your daytime job!

    • Lmao hey i didn't fail them. I just got more of a reaction than i bargained for 😂

    • Did ytou counsel them about the dangers of getting pregnant when she is not committed to the relationship and he is not attracted to her? This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

    • I did and they both said they dont care that they just want to conceive

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  • No good deed goes unpunished. And stay away from thirsty guys who just want to talk about sex.

    • He literally came forth genuine and innocent seeking advice for both of them. But he changed once he got it

  • Yeah I pretty much regret trying to help anyone ever lol

  • All the time unfortunately 🤦

  • One time I have a friend of mine a handjob and he shot it in my eye.

    • Yea i dont fck with friends

    • I wasn't expecting it to shoot like that.

  • My girlfriend and I tried to help out a common friend in boosting her confidence to date a guy she liked. Everything we tried failed and she became a very annoying third wheel for us.

    • Damn

  • So far it never backfired, but I'm careful to be helpful, not being Santa :o
    I have this gut feeling for what is suspicious. Some years moderating on here and being on dating sites learned me how to recognize catfishes, scammers or just people playing games with me 8)

    • Oh u were a moderator?

    • I'm a supermod today (S next to my username). Trying to get some unwanted posts off the site :o I've been asked to become a mod after 6 months or so, that's over 4 years back :D

  • It sounds like you're really able to help people with their sex lives. That's good. But if you're gonna help you gotta set "professional" boundaries. Like being off limits to the people you're helping. They're gonna listen to you talking explicitly about sex and maybe get turned on and want to fuck you.

    • Yea he def want it lmao

  • If that's your passion go for it, but get away from that guy though bad news 😂

    • Lol its not my passion haha. More so a side hobby. But yea he asked me to block him so he couod stop contacting me 😂

  • To he honest, you probably aren't the best person for the job.

    • I think im good with sexual topics

    • Cool 🤷🏾‍♀️

  • I like to think every bit of advice I give makes situations worse. Happens almost every time.

    And I just gave out more advice last night, so who knows what will happen.

    • Hopefully something good

  • That's men and no dont I can totally relate in your field sex therapist and psychology right up my alley.

    • Haha nice

  • You need to cut this guy off. He's really not handling this well.

    as for whether or not you should give advice in the future, I think it's okay. as long as it's clear that you are not interested in being involved emotionally.

    • Yea he and his girl kept tryna get at me last night. Im about ro ghost em 😂

    • @DizzyDesii how are you?

    • @justcurious2019 im ok. At work

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  • i think you should retire from it can i pm you?

    • Why retire

    • i mean no disrespect now he wants you that could wreck the girls reationship

    • Oh yea. I don't know if maybe its just cause she wants an open relationship and he feels he should do the same. I don't know

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  • Of course.. It's inevitable for this eventually... Think doing a favor. An it ruins things or try fix something an everything falls apart.. Many ways

  • Set clear boundaries.

  • That's crazy

    • Extremely

  • I would look into what sex therapists actually say and do. Maybe you are missing something that makes them realize you are not apart of their success.

    • I mean i am part of their success. I just am not trying to be part of the action if u know what i mean

    • That's what i mean. There are so many sex therapists out there but they don't take apart of it. It's like a psychologist they make you tell them how you feel and you think you should do. They don't tell you what to do.

  • I put the happiness of other people before mine. It backfired horrible and still live with the consequences

    • Yea i used to do that. Took 2019 for me to say fck em

  • As a therapist or psychologist there is of course the risk of something going wrong. Especially when it concerns couples, there could come truths out the partner might not be amused about or, and who is the scapegoat? Of course the therapist

    • Wym?

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