Might be quite a rare combination there. I'm very monogamous and test 97% "dominant" according to some test someone asked about on here, but I'm not "dominant" in the sense that I like to be controlling of others. It's more like I just want to be in control of myself. I don't like others to control me.
For example, I would hate to be handcuffed to a bed. That would drive me crazy and I might get so frustrated that I'd risk breaking the bed to free myself to regain control over the situation. Yet I wouldn't want to handcuff a girl to a bed either. My general attitude outside the bedroom is similar. It's like I don't want others to tell me what to do, but I also don't want to tell others what to do either (treat others as you would like to be treated, that sort of thing).
It's kind of difficult for me to imagine how a kind and empathetic type would want to degrade in the bedroom. If such a type exists, it might be a guy who needs to be assured that you really enjoy being degraded in the bedroom so that it becomes a sort of "role-playing" thing for the two of you.
I'm a two in one kind of person. Out of bed, I treat my ladies like princesses, doting on them and doing what I can to make their life better. That said, when the clothes start coming off, her ass is MINE!! I'm rough and moderately sadistic but only when it comes to sex. How would you feel about moderate erotic pain?
These types are few and far between
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Probably someone who just got out of the marines/ army would be best.
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Girls are pretty retarded in how they want a guy to basically embody polar opposite traits in the same persona. Somehow you want a guy who's kind, respectful and monogamous, but also want a guy who's violent, degrading and treats you like an inferior object.
Maybe learn how to not want contradictory things?
It’s really not that hard to separate your sex life from your day to day life. I just him to be degrading in bed not outside the bedroom. Jheeze
You even made a note to point out that guys who have the qualities you desire are sadistic and polyamorous, which means that what people enjoy in and out the bedroom are NOT separate. "I want him to treat me like dirt sometimes but I still want him to be a good life-long partner". You seriously don't see how illogical you sound?
Have you never heard of sexual fantasies?
Well, if that's what you want then my best advice is to find a nice guy and train him to give you the sex you want. That's a lot easier than starting with a controlling asshole and trying to get him to be nicer outside the bedroom.
I'm not saying a nice guy wouldn't know how to give rough sex, but he's not likely to want to do it unless you request it because he cares about you and he doesn't want to hurt you.
That is great advice. Do that, asker. Be wary of the other.
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That sounds like it would be amazing honestly.
In your heart
If you only knew me or lived close to me I bet you wouldn't be looking for another. There is plenty of those guys but prefer to stay single than fall in a relationship trap.
It's so possible. I can't be the only one out there
So, what you're looking for is a man with a very dominant and aggressive personality who will only allow his personality to manifest in the bedroom, but nowhere else?
Good luck with that.
I know, right
And they wonder why the guy turns out abusive lol
@aa180 Exactly. It's one of the biggest issues I see with today's women. They are still attracted to masculine, dominant men (and always will be), but they don't want them to actually be dominant... except in bed. Huh?
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