boyfriend has depression haven’t had sex in 4 months... struggling with what to do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend started a medication for his depression and for 3 months it was a struggle even having sex with him... now it’s been another month starting his medication. He doesn’t even want sex. I’m struggling with being a good girlfriend and just ignoring it until he wants to and debating on leaving we haven’t had sex in 4 months and that’s a really long time... Im there for him though in terms of everything it’s just I’ve never ever gone that long in my life in a relationship.

[Cathy1026]

That’s one of the side affects of depression medicine you got to figure out if you love him enough to stay with him and not have sex. I dated a guy that at first I didn’t know that he had depression and when I helped him through it to figure out what his problem is were give him to go talk to someone he got on medicine and his sex drive went down I didn’t hold that against him at all but he pushed me away so I finally just left but I still care about him and want him to be healthy but right now he wants nothing to do with me I have a very big feeling it’s because of the depression so I’m not overthinking it but that something that you have to look into that if you really truly love this guy you need to be there with him through the ups and downs and right now one downfall is no sex

[integrale77]

First of all if you love him you will stand by him even if your not getting sex. If you where to leave him now think how that's going to affect him while he's already down.

Have you not tried masturbation to get though the lack of sex if do maybe you need to find something more powerfull?

Have you discussed with him how you feel your needs need attending to. If you can't escape the need for sex maybe he would agree a situation you could be with someone else e. g. hiring a male escort for a no strings one off no emotional tie?

[COMMODOREII]

I haven't had sex when i was depressed. It can be hard on a person. You feel like what's the point.

[lyssagirl]

Stop complaining whats going on in his head is more painful than u xan imagine. He can't fucking help it n if u love him ull understand

[Asker]

Do know that I have seasonal depression I’m aware of what happens. Don’t say what you don’t know. You can love someone and be frustrated.

[Asker]

I’m asking for help not your opinion of how I’m complaining.

[lyssagirl]

U asked i answered n seasonal depression stops real depresion doesn't. Its fucking even harder cuz it doesn't stop. Try medication if not that the marijuana. If u love him u try if not ull hit road just dont cheat will make matters worse

[Asker]

Never said I’d cheat that’s just wrong. I’m not a fan of marijuana and neither is he... he has a doctor appointment soon.

[BigDog69000]

Either accept it move on

[loveslongnails]

Hopefully you have a vibrator.

[Anonymous]

Why do you care i thought girls don't get horny or want sex that much.

[Asker]

It’s been 4 months...