It should NEVER be painful in the first place. Regardless of if you are a virgin or not.
But logically if she cums beforehand her vagina will relax and expand to more easily allow the penis to go in, plus she will be better lubed and will be more euphoric therefore slightly numbed.
Generally though, if the proper arousal happens and you are mentally relaxed and comfortable, your vagina will expand and relax enough to allow ANY human sized penis to enter without pain or discomfort.
The problem with most females (especially virgins) is that they are lead to expect it and believe it's normal, so it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. You are afraid it will hurt and therefore are not relaxed, therefore not aroused as much as you could be, and the guy likely won't give a fuck so he will try and force it in... which will lead to the pain and damage, proving to you that your fears were right, which you will tell other females and then the cycle will continue.
I have been with many virgins (all tiny females) and I have a larger than average penis length and girth.
NONE of them had any pain during or after sex, because they were properly aroused and made comfortable. They weren't rushed. By the time I put it in, it practically fell in.
I'm pretty certain the more relaxed explanation is widely misunderstood and incorrect. I'm pretty sure that the vagina and penis lengthen in the same ways. The come from the same parts when developing. It's not like a girls vagina gets more and more relaxed until infinity. People don't get this concept because it's inside her body. It's like peoples' subconscious bias to want to control things makes them think the vagina can keep getting longer. I'm pretty certain, that like the penis, it gets longer once aroused and then stops. It won't get any longer. Orgasm won't matter if... she is aroused. It's no different than a guys penis not getting longer after he orgasms. They are made of the same tissues.
It really depends. Generally the more turned on you are the easier it is going to be. That being said sometimes penetration is going to be an issue no matter how turned on you are just by virtue of anatomy. What I mean by this is not everyone's anatomy lines up perfectly. I've had partners where me on top just didn't work. It wasn't painful or anything I just couldn't get us to line up at that angle. We had to switch positions and then were fine.
Sex never has to hurt, even if you are a virgin. First time pain is more often then not do the inexperience and over excitement. Take is slow your first time and make sure you are really turned on. No orgasm needed , though who turns down an orgasm? Your vagina does not become looser. It expands with arousal or labour. Your vagina can push out a 10 pound baby don't let anyone tell you it can't handle a dick.
It really depends. I know for me, after I orgasm I become just a little tighter and when I use my dildo it feels tighter when I put it in and it feels better but I'm already like really tight so like it feels good but at the same time it kinda hurts. But of course it makes me wetter so it goes in easier.
But when I squirt over and over I get super tight so I don't even bother continuing with my dildo after like the fifth time (even then it starts to hurt.)
If that's helpful then cool, but I can't vote since it's not a straight answer
How wet do you get
When I cum I get tight so it's more difficult. I am a one round kind of girl tho. I can cum multiple times by myself but with my partners I can't get aroused again after the first orgasm. However if feels Awsome when I'm close to cumming and he goes in cus I'm turned on and men don't go forever so if I'm close it's less work for him lol. by the way if your aroused enough it's never painful the first time. Or any time. If it's painful u need more foreplay.
Even if you’re super aroused, your first time can still hurt. Every women is built differently and vaginas are different sizes along with dicks. No matter how aroused I am, the beginning will always be a tad painful with my boyfriend because of how big he is. Also, not all girls hymens have ripped by their first time, which shouldn’t always hurt but again, every women is different. Most of the time though, yes, it shouldn’t be painful and usually just a tad uncomfortable at first.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!It's definitely a lot easier your vagina has more lubrication making for an easier entrance
I’d say much easier. I’m fully aroused at that point and wet, both beneficial to penetration
Pussy needs lubrication to enjoy the penetration, and a great foreplay to make her pussy wet is the best thing to do before pushing the dick in her dry hole. So, a guy should wait to make her wet - only then he should put his penis inside to make it easier and more pleasant for both of them.
Yes, a lot easier, because she would definitely be lubricated down there from so much arousal.
Yes, of course.
When women orgasm, they get wet. And then penetration is easier.
But I mean, that's what lube is for? Use lube, ladies.
None of those options relate to experiences I have been involved in.
It's not so much the orgasm that makes things easier, it's the amount of fluids down there which can build up easier with foreplay and especially from oral due to saliva and those vaginal fluids.
Being tight or a gaping maw won't make a lick of difference if it's dry as a bone down there and if it is dry, all that's going to happen is the skin of the penis and vagina are just going to stick in place and if one or the other tries to push things together by force, flesh is going to get stretched for both involved and it isn't very comfortable at all for anyone until some form of lubrication is involved.
Well a woman's orgasm often makes her wetter
Indeed it does, but it is not exactly necessary to have an orgasm prior to intercourse to make things easier. Obviously she can tell when things aren't quite ready down there, but I also can tell if it's not quite ready, as I find it isn't very comfortable for me either so I'd just go back and do a bit more extra work until things felt ready. Though there have been a few occasions where my partner just wanted to jump into intercourse and things weren't all that lube'y down there, and she'd just jam it in there. Wasn't too comfortable for me because doing that when dry is like taking all the skin from the shaft of the penis and yanking it downward and away from the head... Almost feels like it's gonna get ripped or skinned off... Eventually if worked gently and slowly, everything gets the moisture needed and everything is fine after a few seconds, but until then it ain't pleasurable. Becaise of that I tend to make sure foreplay and all that is done effectively before intercourse so nobody is uncomfortable.
Seriously Miss Stixs - if a girl is all wet from foreplay of course it is going to slide in more easily then when dry.
Depends on the woman. Normally yes though
You've already asked me this
As long as she's turned on and wet, penetration is easy. But it's cool when she is already writhing in orgasm and begging to be filled. Then my cock can keep her orgasm going and going and going.
It's not so much the 'looseness' as it is the lubrication resultant of the orgasm that makes penetration easier
That's what fore play is for the wetter the better and fore play is just as or more important as sex
Yeah the vagina gets more relaxed and it's easier to move. Though easier doesn't mean better. I really like the moment when she comes because the vagina gets really thight and throbbing and it's super arousing
Yes it generally does
I remember the first time I did anal sex I was so tight back there that my best friend suggested I drink a glass of wine beforehand to loosen up. It definetly work.
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Thanks.
In my experience it is marginally easier. She'll be slippery, but not yet softened.
It usually helps me tbh
Yes the vagina becomes wetter, warmer and more stretchy after orgasm. But bringing your partner short moment to the brink before she orgasms with foreplay is much better in terms of mutual satisfaction
Just comes down to how wet she is
Depends on the woman. Sometimes it is easier. But sometimes it is not.
Either way it helps greatly to use some forplay and get her warmed up. So she does not have a painfully experience.
B. She's wet and her V is still open from arousal.
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