Girls, have you ended a relationship with a guy because his penis was too small?

[AmandaYVR]

Prompted by another question I saw from a guy asking about the relative importance of penis size, I pose this question. I searched the site thoroughly, and this particular question does not exist. Also, I think this phrasing could cut to the chase, and be more informative for guys. This matters greatly to men. Does it matter greatly to women?

This is not 'does size matter?', which is too vague, and, let's be honest, of course there are preferences. And forget about "it depends how he uses it". That is a given. It is so obvious, it is not relevant to discuss, nor will add anything new to the topic. Of course a person's skill and methods, knowledge, and passion as a lover all matter. And of course their personality, who they are as a person matters. But if you met a great guy that you really liked or loved, would you break up with him over his penis being too small?

* 'Breaking up' can also include ghosting, where you avoided, or never contacted the guy back.

* I realize there are situations whether penis size, being small, could be a contributing factor, but not the MAIN reason for breaking up. In order to simplify the results, try and answer based on if it was the PRIMARY reason or not.

* Size is also relative to your experience, and to vagina size.

* Is size more of a priority in short-term situations? Would it matter more or less in long-term situations? Do your priorities change based on length of time spent with the person?

* Did you ever tell a guy it was the primary reason you were breaking up with him, when in fact it was for other reasons? What were the real reasons? Did you ever tell this to a guy to be vindictive because you were upset at him for how he treated you?

* If you have broken up over this, how many times?

* If you have ever broken up with a guy because he was too *big*, pls mention this specifically as a comment, but answer "No" in poll.

[NickiB]

I have never broken up with someone for having a small penis.

I think a lot of people forget is even with an active sex life sex makes up a tiny % of their life and really is not a big factor.

Even my current is female so obviously she has no penis and we don't use toys but satisfies me more then the previous 2 other exes i had sex with (both guys with above avg penis) morale of the story is if someone takes time to understand what pleases their lover they can satisfy them with what they got.

[AmandaYVR]

You rock Nicki.

[NickiB]

Lol. Thank you.🙂

[NickiB]

Thank you for mho.

[Baobei]

I've never done that, that's so shallow and absurd. Why lose a prince over a dick? Pun intended.

[roxy_362]

I would have liked to say no, but I did. Honestly, that was not the only reason, as there were a few other comparably important reasons in addition to my lack of satisfaction during sex, which resulted in my decision to call it quits.

However, if this gets taken to the extreme and I am asked if I would end a relationship solely because of the small penis of a partner, then I'm not sure. If everything else is great (also an idealization which may not exist), then I might want to keep him regardless. But, since that has not happened in real life, I don't know for sure.

[AmandaYVR]

That's a fair answer. Life is not black & white, it is nuanced and complex, like this.

[Screenwriter]

Never ended one because too small or too big. Only was in one where he was very small, but liked him so much at time, didn't matter. I've had mediums...

[devilish-cutie]

personally no, but my friend have. But in her case it was really abnormally small. I didn't thought size would ever be the matter until she told me her story.

[VIVANT]

Never ever have I nor would I, leave a person for that reason.

[BlackRoseFairy]

No, I haven't... but it was a contributing factor when taking a decision.
To be more specific, some things had preceded that I decided to overlook for the sake of getting to know him better. The one time we had sex, it was not something special, but I was more annoyed by the fact that he treated me like a sex doll, no interest whatsoever about how I feel or if I get any pleasure... after all if a guy cares he can give you pleasure in other ways too, but not him...
And afterwards he was an even greater asshole, by eating the whole food I had brought to share with him, without even bothering to ask me if I was hungry, which just pointed out even more how inconsiderate the guy was, and made me draw the line.

[IfYoureGoingCrazy]

Okay well I may not be the best person to answer but the way i look at it you can get off by yourself why would it really be a relationship ending thing...
People are more than the pleasure they give you.
Putting my 2 cents in in anyway cause try and stop meeeeee

[mistixs]

Virgin, but I wouldn't. Tongues and fingers exist.

[AmandaYVR]

Yes there are many fun options!

[nerms123]

No I have not. However after we broke up then I would think “oh well his dick was too small anyway” as a way to console myself lol

[AmandaYVR]

Thank you, Nerms. That's honest and makes sense. And is this something that you might say to others, as well? Like to girlfriends?

[nerms123]

I don’t really talk about dick size with anyone unless they explicitly ask and usually that’s only guys I’m actually having sex with.

[AmandaYVR]

Yeah, I think guys talk about it much more than girls do. I'm sure many gay men are 'size queens' but not as many women. But it's understandable they're so worried about it. With the prevalence of porn (with unrealistic, uncommon examples of size), more individuality, separateness, less children being born therefore less dependence on men, I suppose this had led to more open objectification of men - they feel that they're not 'measuring up'. I hope some of the comments on this question will help elucidate the situation.

[nerms123]

Well I would say it’s similar to boob size where some like big, some like small and some don’t care lol

[AmandaYVR]

Yeah, I thought about that. I did have it in my write-up, up top, but think I ran out of characters again. I wonder though... penises do go inside, and can stimulate different areas depending on size and create 'the big o', whereas it's a bit harder to measure the pleasure of breasts, isn't it? I laugh thinking about how some guys would describe bigger boobs as being more 'full featured' (they can motor boat bigger ones, as an example I read, and I won't even list the other thing that comes to mind). I think they're pretty on par, since they're both visual and physical features, though perhaps one may have a slightly greater... impact?

[nerms123]

That’s true. It’s not as though it’s completely unimportant. Just not THAT important to most.

[Paulaanderson]

Yes I have in my 20s

[AmandaYVR]

So do you think it is more important to younger girls, but less important to older? Or was it that you happened across this small guy in your 20s?

[Paulaanderson]

It was my choice sex with him did nothing for me For me my age had nothing too with it

[5_AM_Oracle]

I have not, I've gotten lucky in that faction ;)