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My husband is jealous because I blew 2 of his friends?

I just met my husband over a year back, got married just a week ago. He wanted to do that as early as possible. Now just yesterday he is suddenly angry at me because apparently there are two guys at his job that I have given a blowjob before I met him. These guys saw the wedding picture, recognised me and this went around at his workplace. I had a long relationship, then let myself go for two years, then met him. It's bad luck that two of these guys from that bar I visited often when single, happened to work at the same place as him.

Why is it so bad to him that this happened with these guys? It was just a typical drunk toilet bj. I didn't even take these guys home or went all the way with them. Why is he so angry about something so stupid?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Well, you can't blame him for being angry. He's probably getting a lot of shit from everyone else in his workplace. There's only so much of "Do you know xxx's wife blew yyyy and zzzz previously? Feel sorry for him for marrying such a xxxx" that he could take. He must have been the butt of all jokes, with no one respecting him anymore at work. Every task, topic, gossip would ultimately end up as a reference to you blowing these two guys from his work.
    Of course, it's easy for you to say they are just jokes and he should just ignore them. Because you are not the one being made fun of, he is. So is it fair that he has to endure all this bullying for something he never done and was unaware of?

  • What you see as a typical drunk toilet bj may be seen to others as sluty behaviour who is seen as easy and willing to sleep or suck any guys dick not saying this is you but maybe your husband is having a hard time with knowing that you gave a guy a random bj to some guy when you were drunk it could also be because these guys could be giving him shit at work and bragging about their experience with his wife

  • Why are most guys such hypocrites regarding sex? You people act like you don't sleep around yourself or had sexual relations before getting married or a girlfriend. Grow the fuck up. How is she a slut for expressing her right to sex as a previous single woman. You people are so frustrating. Nothing pleases you all I bet

Most Helpful Guys

  • Why is it so bad?

    Wait till he is working and someone makes an off color joke about how good his wife's bjs are. Where I him he would take it back before we both lost our jobs. And or I would have to girl do the deed to me in the parking lot so I could caveman style mark my territory in front of them.

    So your at work and 2 of your co workers talk about how great your hubby was with them. How do you feel? If your like me
    You either cat fight in the stairway with a butter filled sock, or do the other. I prefer butter socks to the death.

    Maybe I'm just over thinking it.

    • I don't understand half you are saying. caveman style mark your territory? What does that have to do with this?

    • It was a poor attempt at humor. I'll never have a husband so I can't really relate, but if I had a wife and 2 guys I worked with had been with her I would be unnerved. If your you worked with 2 women your husband had been with his would you feel towards them?

  • No normal guy wants his friends to have had sex, or a bj, with his wife. All the worse, they are where he works, so he's around them every day. He also must work with a couple of real jerks, as a guy with any class at all, would never say anything about having a bj with you, when they realized you were his wife.

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  • He feels emasculated because his so-called friends are teasing him about it and he's letting them get to him. The past needs to stay right there: in the past.

  • It may be stupid when you did that, but it is certainly not the case now as you are hiw wife. How would he feel when he hears nasty things about his wife. Do you think that he should not care when the guys in office mocks about you and your blowjobs. Would he feel great when he heard them saying, "This man's wife sucked my dick" or "what a bitch his wife was" or "I fucked her mouth" - do you want him to ignore such things - then its you who is stupid - if you feel it a 'let it go' thing.

  • You don't shop for love at where you work When things go bad it can get awkward, like what you are saying.

  • I wouldn't go out with someone who gave drunk toilet BJs. His fault for marrying to too soon to really know you.

  • Haha 😂
    You suck person

  • Some men are like that... ideally the guys who are friends are the jerks really for telling him.. what you did in your past is your past it has no baring on your relationship with him

  • It's because he has to work with these dudes, and anytime anybody says anything those guys can be like "dude does your wife still give good head? I haven't been sucked off that good in a while."

    • they're still just jokes.

    • Yeah but they're also not because you actually did blow them. It's a rough situation, it's probably worse of their not even his friends and just his coworkers. He probably doesn't like working with them if that's the case

  • He’s embarrassed. He’s insecure and it hurt his ego. But I blame his friends

  • Every day, women give more reasons not only to never get married, but also to not even bother with relationshits at all.

  • You should have moved to a bigger town.

  • Pride- he's married to the office slut.
    Not that you are a slut, but thats how is co-workers see you, at least those two.

    Also, you didn't even know him a year before getting married? Yikes.

    • so every girl that gives a guy a blowjob is a slut to them?

    • No, but the fact you’ve now been with 3 guys in the same office is a telling tale.

  • I can't imagine why.

  • Maybe because he’s found out his wife is a trashy slut that gives drunken toilet bj’s to random strangers

  • It is just awkward and embarrassing.

  • Great, now I have one more reason to not marry too hastely.

    • His choice, not mine

    • Wow Asker, what an answer! It seems he has good reason to wonder about your behavior. I'd lay even odds that you'll be back giving restroom BJs in less than two years with that attitude.

  • "A typical drunk toilet bj" doesn't exactly help your case here; he's angry because he's embarrassed. You're someone who he's really proud of, and now his asshole coworkers are running around telling people that his bride sucked their dicks.

  • ... He's not jealous.

  • Probably because he just found out. it's kind of like when you find out a day ago that one of your friends passed away, but they passed away seven years ago. It makes it feel like it was just yesterday. Explain to him that this was a long time ago before you ever met him, and then reassure him that you are a different person back then that you love him, and that you are loyal to him. Remind him that you are the one that said yes and agreed to marry him.

  • You are a despicable person. You're not even aware how many ways 'til Sunday you've done wrong. I hope he serves divorce papers because a permanent split is coming soon to a misreading of life near you.

  • He should have asked about that before he married you. Sorry, but that's on him. Not your problem. Just make sure he knows that it was nothing serious and you don't care about those guys at all.

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