Are there really guys who pretend to be virgins?

I've heard some girls say they knew some guy who pretended that he was a virgin when he really wasn't, but I have never ever heard of this as a common occurance. Why would a guy pretend to be a virgin when male virginity is stigmatized? That doesn't make much sense.
Are there really guys who pretend to be virgins?
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I am utterly surprised by people saying they've actually known these guys. I've only heard about it once or twice, and even now I find it still hard to believe. Since male virginity is usually frowned on and joked about it, I cannot understand how a guy could even take a risk of pretending that for sympathy sex. I would imagine a woman he told that to would reject him before sleeping with him.
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  • On western cultures I find it difficult to believe.

    And I find a card really difficult to use.

    Let's say, I fake being rich or I fake being virgin, which would be more productive?

    I think it's difficult to fit on a situation to be an advantage, the worst it can happen is that her to believe it.

    Other thing is to play to be for fun, to introduce the question on her... Would he be? But on that case he isn't pretending anything, he is playing to get her sexually interested.

    And not, it isn't a manipulation, it's a game, one of the things most attractive on a man is being playful.
    (If you are sexually interested in a girl you must show it to her at some time, so you can show playing these games.)

  • Its fun😊 its not as backwards thinking as you might think. Some gals pref to not be with someone (very) experienced because they themselves are not, by thinking they are with someone who is just as insecure as them they feel more secure, let more loose and hence both parties are better off. Then there are gals who are (very) experienced, maybe even so much that a virgin/inexperienced guy is refreshing or even preferred. I've never gone as far as say im a virgin but i have quite underplayed my experience a very few times. Ofc there's a limit to how low you can take it without it before its just bad. Simply put, it makes them feel more special sometimes.

    • UPDATE: Its a brand new world man🙂 gals are finally starting to get the male attitude and even apply it themselves, and they can get quite feisty if you let them take the wheel. I mean im not saying that they can't otherwise ofc, but with that attitude a gal you're still getting to know may shine a lot more, especially if its one of those that act really secure but are actually insecure when you get up close. Many of them will get intimidated by "(very) experienced" but act as if not.

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  • Maybe they hope that some sweet innocent girl, possibly another virgin, would be more willing to have sex with them. My ex kinda did something similar when he hid his sexual history from me knowing that I wouldn't wanna be with him if I knew in the first place that he has done all that, because I personally don't even like anything more than a brief handshake with the opposite gender, not even hugs, and don't even want any of that outside of marriage. My ex was aware of it that's why he never told me he gave blowjob to women before. He even admitted he was willing to hide it from me forever.

    • Makes sense.

  • I'm sure there are guys who have lied about being a virgin.

    Perhaps, they had a girlfriend who possessed a kink for pure and untouched men, so in wanting to keep her happy... they just lied! Seeing as there isn't really an effective way of gauging if men are truly virgins, this was a simple way to go with hardly any consequences.

    There could be a number of reasons though.

  • Probably. Guys use A lot of different tactics to get women into bed by pretending to be feminists, a friend, millionaires, doctors, pilots, footballers etc They will lie about anything in hopes of sex from here, usually pretending they share certain things in common like music or politics. In some cases the cocky Jack the lad routine is attractive in others it's just sad and pathetic.

    • Where I'm from (East Coast USA) we call 'em fuckbois.

    • @Boppy Hey, I'm on the East Coast too. What part are you from? I'm in the Greater D. C. area.

    • I'm from over in Delaware.

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  • people think my second ex lied. Oh well, it turned me on 🤷‍♀️

    • Mine also but later I come to know he was too experienced

    • @ashwini_opentalk i believe him that he was a virgin. But he thrusted too damn good. Porn mustve taught him well

    • Mine was not virgin.. He fucked me very hard at our first night..

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  • Some play the virginity card to cover up poor technique or even in the hope of a pity fuck

    • Would you pity fuck me 🙏

    • I could def see that bc I was with a man my age, I never pitied him, but I assumed he was less experienced with women bc his technique was so bad... and we are not young soooo..

  • There are people who have a cannibalism fetish, so probably there are guys pretending to be virgins too. I've never met any, but then again in my area religion isn't such a big deal. I know maybe 3 Christians and one muslim girl but, they're all not really practising.

  • I am sure there are a few, but most men probably want to seem more experienced than innocent. I know some girls like innocent, but there is a reason that girls date up.

  • So a girl will think he's not a player and trick her into having sex with him because he seems to be waiting for that special someone. Thus, making the girl feel special. Its very manipulative and i say this from experience I've had it happen once

    • It takes a real pizza shit to mislead a girl into thinking she's special to him. If I were going to lie about being a virgin, I'd say "I'm just trying to ditch the status and would be very grateful for your assistance." Then go HAM and let her put 2 and 2 together.

    • @Lord_Ateag exactly. Like if you dont want to seem like a player dont be one. Its that simple

  • Maybe they're trying attract female virgins with some kind of sympathy ploy.

    • Yeah, possibly.

  • The girls already gave some great answers. I am a 29 year-old kissless virgin. I don't mind telling the truth. I actually enjoy telling others because it's always interesting how they react. I do know that most girls (especially my age and above) don't want virgin guys. They automatically see it as a yellow flag. They think it's suspicious. And some just don't want to teach a guy. They want a pornstar f*ck.

  • If a guy can pretend to be a virgin, he can make himself seem more innocent, more desirable to a girl who wants to 'be good.' He's also hoping it will lead to the girl letting her guard down against someone just using her, and then going on to the next girl.

  • Well that's a rarity.

  • If a guy thought that pretending to be a virgin would help get him laid, he would pretend to be one. Or if he actually was a virgin but didn't want anyone to know it he might loudly declare that he was "pretending" to be a virgin. Or if he only had sex a handful of times and still didn't seem to know what to do, he might pretend to be a virgin just so the girl would take charge.

  • Yeah, I've never heard of that either. I can't think of a good reason they'd lie.

  • Yes there are, usually they do it to play the sympathy card.

  • Yeah there are, usually they are players that do that

    • there are guys and women out there who prey on those who are seeking a genuine commitment, those tend to say and do whatever they do to ensure the most sympathy for achieving their goals... I understand the logic behind it, i dont agree with it though but understand it... for example: if someone says they are a virgin... guy saying they are a virgin, some women dont want anyone who's slept around, and usually if you are a virgin there are less chances of you having STD's/STI's but sometimes it could be the attraction or promise of innocence... woman saying they are a virgin, similar reasoning but most cases it's down to the fact that who they are trying to lure is attracted by them being their first, and the whole teaching about sex sometimes it can also be a case where they aren't very good at sex and a potential virgin can lessen expectations... but the many out there who do this, often leave or ditch those they have gotten their own way with... leaving an empty space and a lot of questions and mistrust... most the times that mistrust can spill out on future relationships leading to doubt and misjudgment

  • I’ve never lied or pretended to be someone I wasn’t to get a girl in bed. Every single one at least had a good idea of who I was and what I was about.

    I’m kinda proud of that now that I’m thinking about it.

  • I do as a joke cause it's a lot funnier being a virgin than having sex that one time near that oak tree with that hard 4 outta 10 girl

  • I've never known one. What would be the point of it?

  • Yes they do, I know from experience

    • Wow, this is so weird.

    • I just read some comments, in my experience, he didn't play the sympathy card, I myself was a virgin at the time, so he said it to gain my trust, only to find out from a friend that he was several other girls.

  • I fail to see the benefit of such a lie.

    • Hey, could one of you dumb broads who downvoted me explain the point that I'm apparently missing? Like, yeah, downvote me, I love it, but explain to me how I'm wrong also. Fucking chicks, man. I swear.

  • Technically I pretended to be a virgin till I was 17 or so.
    In truth I had had a fair amount of experience when I was much younger but there was a several years gap. I considered myself a different person, and considered the sex I had to be naive. I still do. It wasn't the same experience, it wasn't the same type of experience.

    Although it is when I learned that I enjoy giving pleasure and being close to people in general. Sexual or otherwise. It's the best part about life in my opinion.

  • That just doesn’t make sense I would be afraid to get with a guy who’s a virgin

    • If your mine is closed you can't experience the things life has to offer! Open your mind your young not dumb

    • @Ashleyarn123987 What's scary about virgin guys?

    • @SkipStop I tthink I'd be nervous too, because if he does something wrong it could be painful.

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