Girls, wives, why did you stop giving head to your husbands?

[Anonymous]

So I have a very serious question for all the wives and girls. Why did you stop giving head to your husband or boyfriend of long-term relationships? also if you hates it hy fool him and do it? I ask this because I have been with my wife for almost 20 years, and over the course of many years it is slowly trickled down to no BJ's or 1 or 2 a year. We rarely have sex and but when we do it's fun and passionate and we both orgasm a lot. I buttry to go down on her but she limits that to. I love blowjobs and I am addicted to them. now like I said I'm also the type of guy that loves too go down on her at the drop of a hat. I am a good husband in the fact that I tend to cook dinner quite often and help with clean up the house, dishes laundry, etc.. I do all the yard work I take care of the cars I make really good money in my profession I spend time with her, take her to concerts, plays and I watch romantic stuff just so I can be with her. I Nowdo have my own hobbies and go off and that that each week and do some freelance week for each $$. I know I've probably gained a bit of weight and I'm not the strapping young boy of a hundred and ninety pounds at 6 foot 1 , but I am working out and trying to get a better body and I am grooming. I'm not overly big in my size, I'm about average girth and I'm just a little over 6 in. I don't beg and I'm not forceful. I ask this question because for quite a few years it has racked my brain on why this is happened she used to do it all the time and she enjoyed it and she swallowed early on. Just so you know this is kind of cause some stress I have questioned if I still I'm attractive or if I'm a good husband if I'm doing enough and honestly it's kind of destroyed a lot of my self-esteem. So I kind of want to get a gauge on why you stopped and perhaps I might find the answers to my questions before I confront her. Thank you ladies🙂

[SueShe]

Well, oral sex is way overrated and I fail to see why people put so much emphasis on something, pardon my expression, so vile and disgusting.

You are basically asking your wife to put a piece of flesh in her mouth where the urine and sperms are evacuated. Those body fluids, also named dejecta, just like feces, vomit, mucus and ear wax are nothing else than an incredible mass of bacteria that one forces his partner to enter in contact with.

Now, how would you react if you would be asked to lick and swallow the mucus off the nose or perhaps the urine and fecal matters? You would probably not like it. So why do you expect a person to like something as disgusting as other body fluids of the same kind?

Your wife probably realized that she is being subjected to something that she abhors and is more than just disgusting. Just think, To take a penis in the mouth that expels urine and sperm. How appetizing is that?

The fact that you are a good husband that cares for his wife does not mean that she has to like that type of treatment. Personally, I find it humiliating and demeaning. Why do people have the need to put everything in their mouth and expect others to like it?

Also, you say that you are addicted to that type of sexual satisfaction. This is a serious issue that you should perhaps look into with a qualified physician. Every addition is potentially dangerous to others. It looks as if you want to impose your addiction to your spouse.

Have you ever considered that she perhaps abhors that type of intimacy? There is nothing natural about it.

I am sure you are a very loving husband but put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself if you would like something that you don't like to be imposed on you. Perhaps that you need counseling to try to solve that issue.

[Asker]

Why I see your point about mucus and other bodily fluids I want to point out for very long time she had no problems with doing this. Nor did a great deal of my exes before that. I've never Forced or beg for it. But I will state that I also go down on her so the bodily fluid thing other than you saying that would I be comfortable swallowing her mucus. Well in some ways when you kiss you swap spit which has mucus in it so I guess not so much. I guess it really doesn't bother me much. Now she didn't want to swallow my sperm then that is okay if it was just hey BJ and foreplay for a little while that's What I'm stating is not that because I'm a good husband and do all the things that it is required that she do these for me nor do I actually have any right or demand for it. My question to a lot of ladies is why did you stop and why did you do it in the first place if you didn't like it. I feel like somebody like you might have done it in the beginning to get a man's attention which I kind of feel is a little bit of fraud. Now granted we all do this we go out we dress a certain way act a certain way heck we probably don't fart in front of each other for quite a while until you get comfortable with them. But I think when it comes to sex and what you want to do should be straight forward when I first started dating her she said I will not do anal. I said that's fine cuz I don't have any intention in doing anal it's just not my thing. Pueblo jobs she said she was fine with and for very long time it was fine I would give advice to other people that if you don't like it and you feel it's disgusting and icky and overrated then don't do it make sure your man knows that you will not do it from the beginning. But from our perspective it feels warm soft and very unique and very very satisfying like any other sex acts. Sometimes you have a certain type that you like

[Asker]

also I noticed that you're 17 and to be frankly honest oral sex is totally natural and if it grosses you out again don't do it and I would definitely say for you and other people like you you should tell people you're with that you won't do it. Don't cop out and compromise your beliefs just so you the guy could like you. You tell him no and if he leaves he leaves and you go on to the next guy that doesn't want this stuff. I just find it funny like sometimes when a girl goes out with a guy

[SueShe]

People change over time and so do their liking for a particular thing. You state that it has been progressive and did not occur abruptly. To me, that is an indicator that her perception of the act itself has changed 180 degrees. You have to ask yourself what could have caused that change and for that, I believe that you need to talk with her openly and without accusing or being angry/upset. I have not experience in oral sex because to me, this is something that is abject. I am trying to see it from a point of view of a change in perception of the entire situation and a possible correlation with something that she experienced during one of your oral experiences.

[Asker]

Well I have never accured her or gotten angry. I mostly think that I was me and she does not want me. You I don't lash out to her I just I must have done something wrong. by the way I get you don't like but honestly you come in with a lot of attacks and yes I am planning on talking to her, again this was to get a better idea of what it could be. Sorry I am a planner so I don't like going into things blindly

[pansy49]

I'm sure it doesn't have anything to do with your attractiveness, you're thinking about it the wrong way. She might just not like doing that because everyone has preferences. Early on, she could have been doing it only to please you. I highly recommend asking her about her feelings on it. Maybe there are things that would make her more comfortable? Maybe there are things holding her back mentally? Just have an open discussion of what you like and see what she says.

[Asker]

Yea I wanted to gauge the question here before going to her and asking so can get a better idea of what other girls reasonings. Thank you

[Kelly6]

Found another lover

[Asker]

Lo that is the hard think, we are happy is almost all aspects your a nerd like me, sweet and kind, funny and treats me great except no clue why BJ's are gone.

[Asker]

But yeah that might be something I need to do if I can't handle not getting anything

[Anonymous]

I tell you why I did. My husband is a porn addict. Loves to watch videos, but doesn't take time to satisfy his own wife who is right in front of him. He also likes to humiliate me in front of my friends. He once said I "sucked" at giving BJs, he was like "get it"? You "suck". I didn't find it funny and neither did the room full of people he said it to. Haven't put his dick near my mouth since. I'm still with him, but am making an exit plan.