Why do most virgins feel like they’re not experienced enough to answer even a simple sexual question?

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I’ve seen it a lot on GAG bt in person many showed confidence in the skills they’d use in future sex life. A lot of virgins are good at sexting, kissing, fingering, cuddling, oral and should continue to use their words/actions to show thats also considered experience. My ex was a virgin bt porn taught him a lot. We were nervous our first time in the sack bt we fcked like porn stars because we were confident in our freaky sides. Virgins, take pride in what porn has taught you (and if you dont watch porn then take pride in the advice given from others) and put it to good use when its time to get down/dirty, whether physically or verbally. Use your imagination for goodness sake. Dont get cocky with it but show virgins and nonvirgins that you believe in your skillset when the time comes. When i was a virgin, my mind ran wild and i did lots of research. When it came down to blowjobs, my two exes felt i was a pro. When it came down to handjobs, my 2 crushes felt i was a pro. When it came down to sex with the 2 exes, i was def not a pro at all lmao but i took that dck like a pro and went numerous rounds like a pro 😂👌 Yea i still dont feel experienced at times in terms of sex cause everytime feels new all over again and nerves return bt i dont let the guy see that. Thanks to porn and advice, I eventually learned how to rock that shit. Either way, I love learning together and thats one thing that turns me on about virgins or those who’ve had few sex partners. Get you someone willing to not only teach you but grow with you. Honestly, I’m not into super experienced men because i dont feel they’d learn anything from me (that they haven't already done before) and plus they often come across as cocky having done it with numerous others. Also, i was never one to say confidence matters in a man in general, but for me, it def matters when it comes to the sex life. So start reading/watching BOYS!! 👌 #FeelFreeToList #ConfidentVirgins #PepTalk

MaximisPryme · Accepted Answer

Would you feel experienced in martial arts, if you have never tried it? That's how we feel. We do not know what feels best for us, and we only had 'theoretical' experience... You can learn how to cook in a class lecture, but until you get down to the kitchen, and know how to properly cook a dark roux, or fry an egg, you would feel so inexperienced.

As for the porn thing, yes, you can learn some basics from it, but do not expect it to be the same... It is like watching a Bruce Lee film, and learning Kung Fu... Yes, you can try to imitate what he does, but you lack the knowledge and discipline behind it. Martial arts takes years of dedication, and discipline to properly respect the art (I had dome martial arts for 6 years... Gave up on it, because it became very boring, as well as stressful)

This is coming from a virgin. I am no way experienced, nor do I claim to be. All I know, is what sex isn't like, as to how it is REALLY like... I know it isn't much like porn, but that's really what I know... I know you cannot do sex without foreplay. But to really know how to have good foreplay skills, I totally lack that, as much I do believe it is quite important... Just never had a woman give me the time to figure it out.

Just my thoughts on the matter.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Good points. I think a lot of virgins feel like they're not in a position to answer anything about sex since they haven't had it, and because if they already announce that they're a virgin then people are going to treat them like one and feel like they shouldn't be having anything to say about sex when they haven't done it.

ultimega · Accepted Answer

Not a virgin but there's definitely much more I would like to experience and learn.  However I will only with someone I love and trust.  Then my nympho side will come out... that's for sure.

ashley1996 · Accepted Answer

I've noticed that a lot. I also like virgins, train them how you want them 😛

Lliam · Answer

That was absolutely brilliant, DizzyDesii! Kudos! This isn't exactly related, but I was reminded of the scene in Woody Allen's Love and Death when he says "Well, I practice a lot when I'm alone."

Ceasar97 · Answer

I think for me personally, it is more that I don't want to force myself into a certain mindset before having sex. I do watch/read porn, lot of it lol, but I won't know how it feels until I actually have sex. I might think that I love to eat a girl out, but when I actually lick her I might not like it. I try to use what little I know to help people, but on somethings I just don't think I know enough about myself and what I like to answer somethings.

Hans222 · Answer

Voted A Desi, did my homework but never did "it"...

SirRexington · Answer

Im not a virgin but I don't much experience. I've only slept with two people. The last time was years ago.

Ronald_25 · Answer

I have HSD (Hypersexualty Disorder) which means lack of regular sex will cause mood swings, stress, depression and suicidal thoughts. Unfortunately, it is just how I'm wired 🤷🏽‍♂️.

This also means losing my virginity at 15 by a 17 year old girl, I've been having sex for 11 years now. There is so much to sex that the more experienced you become, the more it'll blow your mind.

But virgins should be able to speculate the basics. But when asked questions about the karma sutra etc, best leave those to sexual guidance advisors like myself 👍🏼

Phoenix98 · Answer

I don't feel that way at all, I answer those kinds of questions all the time.

Titanic1912 · Answer

I voted A.

Grond21 · Answer

That's good advice. I am relatively confident that my skills would be enough to make her happy, or be a decent foundation to start on as we learn to be sex experts together

TyPilot · Answer

Thank you so much, @DizzyDesii! Although I'm a Virgin, I often impress myself with how much I know! You're absolutely right! It's all thanks to... Um... "Research". Yes, porn.

poneglyphs · Answer

As a virgin a myself I think that watching porn and reading guides are not making become amazing at sex. The guides are good points that I should know, and see if they work or not in practice. There is a difference between the real thing and watching it. I think i can be confident doing oral or moving positions.

justcurious2019 · Answer

i dont know why most virgins feel like they’re not experienced enough answer even a simple sexual question i'm a virgin but i would answer any sexual questions

JKingOff · Answer

Because they're not.

morganlove · Answer

What questions won't they answer?

DWornock · Answer

Experience is over-rated. If you are young attractive and inexperienced, it doesn't matter what you, it will all be fun. and, learning something for the first time is exciting.

Belfast34 · Answer

Most guys like a girl who's a virgin but these days not many about

COMMODOREII · Answer

Porn worked for me on my first time. My lover had no idea i was a virgin till i told her after a few nights of trying all sorts of positions and making her multiorgasm. 😎👌

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Yea I guess porn taught me a lot too

Gsm24diecast · Answer

I'm glad I'm a virgin, and its from choice and medical issues as well. (: I could care less about sex, or what people think of me lol. never had a date, never will get married, that my choice, I could care less of what society thinks, and I understand your question, but I had to say where I'm coming from.

Bismarck_96 · Answer

Shit._. Ik im late but...

School counselor: you need sexed in order to graduate

Me: no I don’t i took that class already

School counselor: when?

Me: yesterday

School counselor: what teacher?

Me: Porn hub._.

farhaan7 · Answer

Exactly but am an opposite case

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