How to overcome penis size insecurity so it does not affect my relationships or my mental health? (Story for context) Penile dysmorphic disorder?

[Anonymous]

Im a grower in penis size: very small when flaccid (soft) and average when hard, at best. This has always been my most crippling insecurity, especially when in a relationship. If I ever felt the girl said something about penis size in general, or made me feel even more insecure about my size somehow (directly or indirectly), I would find myself growing resentful towards her. And I would always feel way to embarrassed and emasculated by these insecure thoughts, so I never brought up how I felt about my size, as I felt I could never bounce back.

However, 2 months ago we were on the phone and she was asking me if I was satisfied with my body and if I would change anything. She went from body part to body part, and finally asked if I was satisfied with my penis. Mortified, I initially said I was satisfied and she seemed so eager about me sending her a picture of my penis and body and calling me boring for not wanting to. But eventually, I bring up the question again and say I'm actually not satisfied with my size... to which she replied,"why would you tell me that?" As if she was offended. But went with the flow and asked,"thinner, thicker? Shorter, longer?" And I just said bigger... to which she said "oh well I think every guy wants that. I've had bigger and it can hurt."

The topic has never come up again, and we've had lots of sexy talks over the phone and text since. However, this question and subject has been like poison for my mind. I still can't shake this off, and I find myself becoming very distant and resentful towards her sometimes, to where it actually affects her as well. Though she doesn't know the real reason behind it.

Lets be mature about this.
I am hoping other girls or guys can give some input on the subject. Maybe their own experiences, or similiar feelings felt in this manner, or advice on how to accept myself more and be ok with my size. Perhaps this is penile dysmorphic disorder?

[JackSmy]

Ok, if we are going to be mature, it sounds like you need to move on, and find another that isn't so angry, and so judgmental. Maybe she doesn't say it, openly, but the questions, and the way you felt, why would you want to be with someone like that?
I've been with a few women, and not bragging, but none EVER asked, or said anything like that!! I would have dumped them, in a heartbeat, with that degrading, judgmental crap!
Size doesn't really matter, with someone you love, and she loves you! You find a way to play, and satisfy each other, maybe better than just penis in vagina, which doesn't really bring the majority of women to orgasm anyway!
I know her, and take the time to make it about HER, and playing, discovering how she likes parts of her own body teased, and tugged, and kissed and licked, like she didn't even know!! Isn't that the point of foreplay, and getting to know each other? Some love simple things, like whispering in their ear, and tugging on their lips, while holding close. Others, like a guy with a beard, going down there, and the prickle, and the duality of him teasing parts, with a soft tongue, can be amazing!
Every woman is different, and wonderful!!
Get rid of this one, find one that really likes you, and play, and be close, and just enjoy being together!!
Relationships are about wanting to be together, and feeling good, together, and like watching the clock, waiting, until you can get together, because you feel so much!

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply and advice! Perhaps I should have made some of the details more clear though... other than these "judgemental" questions, she's expressed how much she cares about me and how much she wants me. she's expressed to me numerous times how she wants loving and emotional sex from me. And that she can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation anyway. Her question really through me off the rails in my head, mainly because of my own preconceived notions of myself. In all fairness, I think she was just curious about how I looked and wanted a better idea for herself. But I want to try and build up my self esteem so something like this doesn't bother me as much as it does

[D3P0PowPow]

if she didn't like you she wouldn't have even thought about your penis think about it. Mines not that big, and my guy friends have teased me before. I always say "Wow thanks for noticing my penis! I'm flattered you think about it." it has an amazing effect. Remember, women that are always talking about big penises often have big vaginas. Also if size was REALLY that important, we would all have big dicks by now ya? Most of us are actually not big, I've seen a lot of them trust me. Some are gigantic, and some are like microscopic almost. Again if big penis size was the solution to women's problems we would all have huge cocks no? Just send her a picture of your penis, and tell her she turned you on.