I caught my sister in a very strange situation. Should I tell this to my parents?

[Anonymous]

I saw my sis (24) having a threesome. I'm pretty angry with her about this... What should I do in this situation?

[redpanda_]

No, don't tell your parents! It's not your place to say and I don't think she'd appreciate that! Also, she's 24, so can do what the hell she likes. Fair enough if she didn't consent to it you'd have every right to be angry but she has a right to enjoy sex for what it is, especially a threesome, as a bit of fun..

[Asker]

I'm her big brother. I think I have the right to intervene in this matter.

[magzz]

No you don’t

[redpanda_]

As @magzz said, you may be her brother but you can fuck off if you think you have any right to tell her what she can and can't do!

[Asker]

But she was doing it with her bestie and her bestie's boyfriend.

[redpanda_]

So? It's not like she's forcing them to do it, better that than fucking strangers

[Asker]

What kind of her friendship do they have with their closest girlfriend?

[redpanda_]

My best friends and I, to be honest, are not that way inclined. We don't do threesomes and one of them is still a virgin. If we were, I'd rather it being my best friend rather than a random girl.

[redpanda_]

So it's to do with trust.

[PaigeIn]

What kind of a big brother gets their sisters parents to potentially disown them? Sounds more like a big psychopath. Threesome aside, sounds like you would rather blackmail your sister. If your sister wanted your parents to know she had a threesome, then I'm sure she would have told them. "Hey look everybody, two adults having sex. Better tell their parents". You're not really 25+ years of age are you? Think of your parents themselves and how they would react, as well as your sister if you did that, then after that think of your parents and your sister if you didn't do that. Which one sounds better? A 25+ year old man trying to ask people online something so petty.

[Asker]

@PaigeIn Why is she doing this?

[redpanda_]

Because she's exploring and enjoying sex! You can tell her you saw and it made you uncomfortable to see it but it probably won't stop her but she'll be more mindful of who's around. Leave her be for Christ's sake.

[DiamondQueenOfAce]

She’s an adult. She can decide what she wants to do. You’ll humiliate her by telling your parents. Leave her be.

[Asker]

The moment I saw them, I felt terrible.

[DiamondQueenOfAce]

Yes, but still, you don’t control her or her life.

[Asker]

I want to send you a message.

[DiamondQueenOfAce]

You may

[Jsmithy7427]

Man I understand that you wouldn't feel great about the situation, but at the end of the day she is a grown women and her sexual activities are her business. You can talk to her about what you saw and ask her to make a habit of being more careful, but telling on her to your parents is a no go.

[Asker]

The moment I saw them, I felt terrible.

[Jsmithy7427]

Doesn't change the situation my man, I get it i'm a big brother myself and I know that i'd feel terrible about the situation. All you can do is tell her about it and ask that she be safe.

[wankiam]

good advice

[AustinMan]

Why the hell are you angry? She's a grown woman and her sex life is her business. It's especially none of your parents' business.

[allele1127]

Sorry, you said she's... 24 years old? As in, an adult woman? Who consented to this? ... Unless she's a deadbeat with her priorities out of order, or already in a relationship, I cannot fathom why this should be upsetting and worth going to parents over. Disturbing, maybe, but it's really not any of your business.

[Asker]

Why is she doing this?

[CreativeMumble]

She's 24, so I don't see how it should be your business. She's a grown woman and as long as it's consensual...

[Asker]

Why is he doing this? I can't make sense

[Asker]

'she

[CreativeMumble]

Most likely because she wants to. The reason is up to her.

[coralee]

Nothing! Your sister is a grown-up and if she wants to have threesomes all the more power to her. Neither you or your parents have any say in the matter.

[Asker]

She's still a little girl in my eyes.

[coralee]

Doesn't matter how she appears to you. She's a grown woman and is legally entitled to do what she wants. Her sex life is none of your business. Trust me your parents do not want to know and telling them will undoubtedly ruin your relationship with her. She's an adult you need to let go.

[Mädchen]

why would you be angry? you´re not her boyfriend. mind your business

[Asker]

but i'm her big brother.

[LanaLik]

and what? take threesome too

[Asker]

@LanaLik I'm her big brother. I think I have the right to intervene in this matter.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why do you need to do anything about it?

[Red_Arrow]

She is an adult. Her choices. If you feel a need to do something that you cannot control, talk to her, not your parents.

[fauchelevent]

She's 24. What are your parents going to do about it?

[Asker]

I think they should be mad at her.

[fauchelevent]

And what exactly is that going to help?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Mind your own business bro, she's how old? Talk to her, be like that's fucking weird as dick and you want to forget it happened. And then you'll never have to bring it up with anyone. The heck would you tell your parents for?

[ImSparkly]

She's an adult, what good would it serve to rat her out?

Hopefully she was playing safely...

[Asker]

She was doing it with her bestie and her bestie's boyfriend.

[ImSparkly]

So she was a guest star. It was still her choice. Maybe a bad choice doing it at home, but still her choice.

[Asker]

I can't forget the image at the time.

[ImSparkly]

Can’t forget it as in erotic porn or can’t forget it as in it’s your sister, yuck?

[Asker]

Both !

[ImSparkly]

Does she know you caught a glance? you might want to remind her about public spaces at home and that they are not too private.

[Asker]

What kind of her friendship do they have with their closest girlfriend?

[ImSparkly]

Seems a pretty close relationship with her bestie. I’ve shared and I wouldn’t think much of it.

[Asker]

What did you share?

[ImSparkly]

I’ve shared my boyfriends with gf’s.

[Asker]

What drives you to this?

[ImSparkly]

It was enjoyable, something different to try, it just was. And it was her choice to do so too.

[markscott]

She is 24 years old. It is not your parents business, or your business, to be involved in her sex life. Though I find nothing good about her being involved in a three some, it only does harm to let her parents know about this. The exception is, if she is doing this in their house. Then she needs to understand this does not happen in her parents house, without their at least general approval.

[GuildLegend435]

stay out of her business man. she didn't include you in it to begin with.

the other thing is, sounds like she's a willing participant. if no crime committed = nothing you can do.

besides, do you want to make permanent enemies with your sister? cause this is a great way to completely socially alienate her / character assassinate her with your family. don't do that =p

[EmmaMary]

Mind your own fucking business.

[Asker]

but i'm her big brother.

[EmmaMary]

So fucking what. How would you feel if she was to poke her nose into your fucking sex life?

[Lemia]

What do you expect your parents to do, Ground her, Do you want your sister to hate you then by all means Squel on her but she is fully grown and mature adult.

[juicyjessie]

Nice answer, @EmmaMary!

[BigDog1]

Why were you angry? Get over it she's an adult.

[ShadezMcgee]

This is the part where you shut the hell up and keep it to yourself. She is a grown woman and should be accountable for her own choices.

Bringing this up to your parents will only make your family dynamic weird and hurt it. Plus, you will look weirder for being the one to do it and voicing your anger because you caught her doing something you didn't approve of. You may not like it, but respect her enough to make her own decisions.

[wankiam]

whilst you may have found it shocking and it made you feel bad, its still none of your business

[ActiveSh1tter]

Please stop parroting every single thing women say on every single post! It's demeaning to you! Where is your self respect?

[wankiam]

@ActiveSh1tter how about you go troll someone else. goading a moderator won't get you anywhere now will it

[modeve]

You should not. And where & how did you see her?

[slatyb]

Close the door quietly and pretend it never happened.

Why are you angry with her? Did she allow strange people into your home? I don't see how this affects you in any way.

[slatyb]

She's an adult. Why would you tell your parents? Presumably the understand that adults have sex. Somehow they had the two of you.

[Celtero]

Sure. If she doesn't have the courtesy to keep it private from you, then why should you keep it private from mom and dad?

[Lemia]

This reeks of Jeliously. My 24 yr old sister is having sex and I'm not reee. She is 24 and is able to do what she wants sexually.

You say your her big brother but your acting lke her jelious little brother.

[sapphireruby]

She's an adult, she can make her own decisions. If she wants to have a threesome or do anything kinky its her right and you shouldn't judge her for it.
How did you even find out about this? Dude you should mind your own business.

[Asker]

My sister and I share the same house. One day I came home from work, I saw them. I'm pretty confused about this.