My boyfriend sucked a dick 12 years ago. Is he gay?

[Anonymous]

I found out through my friends ( He told one of my girls when they were drunk) my boyfriend sucked a dick when he was in high school. He was in a poly relationship with this couple when he was 18, he said they manipulated him to have sex with them and he was depressed and vulnerable. But he didn’t fuck him just sucked his dick. My girls always joking that he is really gay because his voice and his appearance. He gets lots of attention from gays every time we go out. But he told me he is not bi and we have been dating almost a year he has been really nice with me and love me really much. But last night I heard he sucked a dick before I was really sad and I hanged up on him. I don’t know what to do.

[SueShe]

There are a number of behaviors that would lead others to believe that a guy is possibly homosexual or at least bisexual.

The way some of them behave, talk and keep their posture is what is actually "giving them away" to others.

Now, people do a lot of strange things under pressure or in a depression. The fact that he assures you he is not gay may be a move to protect you and your relation from being hurt by a mistake of the past.

He is the only one to really know for sure but at this time, he is keeping it a secret, perhaps because he thinks that your reaction may be so negative that it would sever the relation.

A lot of people also take this truth or dare challenge when drunk.

I would recommend that you seek a conversation with him on this subject and tell him that you expect the truth because for you there is no room for lies in your relation.

[Aisha122323]

Sorry, but I could never stay with a man who sucked a dick. I would feel disgusted of such guy.

[waidesays]

We don't know your boyfriend, so we can't tell you if he's gay. If all he did was sucked a dick one time as a teenager then he's probably not gay. It's not uncommon for boys to experiment at that age and it sounds as if he was coerced. That being said, if the one blowjob he gave over ten years ago is going to bother you this badly, then you should not be with him. Just know that your next boyfriend probably sucked a dick too. Especially if he denies it. The more adamantly they deny, the more loads they swallowed.
by the way even if he is closet gay, blasting him online like this makes you seem like a real cunt

[aangelena]

she's anonymous so she’s literally not blasting anybody.. if he is a closet gay at 30+ anyway then that’s on him and he should thank her for pushing him to finally come out even though an anonymous question on this app literally does nothing

[waidesays]

You don't get to tell him how he should feel.

[aangelena]

@waidesays what are you even on about?

[Frankiealaplaaja]

Appearance/voice/favorite color being pink/being a lefty/even liking to wear dresses have NOTHING to do with being gay or not.
When I was underage I did some stuff with other guys... Just for intel's sake.
When I was finally (b) old enough to not freak out and do stuff with my first girlfriend that only helped to know for sure I'm not attracted to men.
Give him a ring. Sounds like the poor chap is traumatized by all that what you describe.

[laurieluvsit]

If it's been that long ago than it was just an aberration, I wouldn't worry about it at all.

[justanotherlookalike]

no. It's called experimenting, everyone does it. calm down

[chrissykerdock]

i'd have to say he's gay if he sucked a dick

[Daniela1982]

If it quacks like a duck and looks like a duck...

[Amyth20]

No he isn't gay. There are many boys out there who have either have been trapped or forced to do so.
Stay with him and just believe him

[Stellargasm]

That’s just experimenting, have you never kissed or fooled around with a girl? It seems a lot more common with women. You have no real reason to be upset though. It sounds like there’s no real chance he got an STD or something, you should just talk to him about it and try to be more open minded. I can’t imagine how horrible he must’ve felt when you hung up on him, I would be devastated.

[nerms123]

Just trust him for now

[TsundereMatrix]

I think at that point he was just experimenting

[foxrider77]

He could have been gay in the past. If not now than move on. You should bring a strap on to his house and make him enjoy women with another side.

[madgoat]

Once, twelve years ago. And you've had a nice relationship with him for a year.

[MustachePenguin]

If he says he isn't gay then he isn't gay! Leave the poor chap alone.

[Sarahplus2]

How about grow up? You don't act like someone who is 25 to 29, but 18 right out of high school. I have a different perspective cause I am bi. Not everyone knows they are straight right out of the womb. I think he needs a supportive girlfriend.

[FunkyMonkee]

if he still chases after guys, yeah, he's probably a shirt lifter. If he does it and still goes after girls, he's at least bi. If he just did it that once and never did it again, I seriously doubt he's gay.

[pigoat]

He's bisexual he just doesn't like sucking dick

There are straight women who don't like sucking dick, nuff said

[AynonOMouse]

I don't see how you could think of him the same way anymore. It will never be the same now.

[Texaskid1]

Yes he is gay.

[Walrus_au]

Why? poor fucker has to put up with such a judgmental jerk. He'd be better off without you.

[aangelena]

Jesus you sound offended, hit you a little close to home?

[Walrus_au]

@aangelena. Should we not be offended when someone is being abused? If that doesn't cause offense, then what does?

[aangelena]

@Walrus_au I’d have to read the question again to be sure but last I checked he’s not really being abused; she’s just asking if it’s normal for guys to have done this while still being straight.

[Walrus_au]

@aangelena sounds to me more like she's dumping his ass while shoving her fingers down her throat in disgust.

[munichguy]

If it was only that time, would say not necessarily. Just a test, a different experience.

[Ericthebarberic]

Probably bisexual but i wouldn't worry too much about it

[blondfrog]

No he is straight.