Do some guys actually prefer GIVING oral sex to a girl rather than receiving it?

[Anonymous]

This is really puzzling me. My boyfriend jokes sometimes and says “hey baby, sit on my face?” But I know he’s actually serious. He says this seriously but with a joking manner. I thought guys wanted to receive oral sex more than to give it. And it seems that my boyfriend is very much the opposite. I don’t mind it however. I ablige because it’s quite nice actually. But I just can’t understand why he likes for me to sit on his face so much! Isn’t it uncomfortable? Or laborious? He says it makes him so happy, but I want to know the specific reasons why he does. What about it makes it so fulfilling? If there are any guys here who are like this too, can you please explain why you love it? Or if there are girls here who have partners like this, what was their reasoning for liking it? I’m way too shy to ask my boyfriend this question personally...

[mistixs]

Obviously I'm not a guy, but I think there's an evolutionary reason why many men prefer giving oral sex to receiving it.
Receiving oral sex has absolutely no effect on a man's reproductive success.
But giving oral sex greatly increases the woman's chance of orgasm, & if a woman has orgasms, then she's more likely to be sexually satisfied & continue having sex with him (thereby increasing his chances of reproduction) & more likely to tell other women that he's good in bed, which continues to increase his chances of reproduction.
So I think that men evolved to enjoy giving oral sex because it increases their chances of reproduction.

Obviously that's not the conscious reason why your boyfriend enjoys it, but it's probably the reason why his brain evolved to enjoy it. Same as how, when I eat food, the reason I'm enjoying it isn't because I'm CONSCIOUSLY thinking "omg this is making sure I survive" - I'm not thinking about that at all. I'm just taking pleasure in the taste. But why did I evolve to enjoy the taste of food? Because it makes sure I survive.

[Asker]

Hmm that is an interesting take to this. Didn’t even consider this!

[mistixs]

Remember that even with unprotected sex, chances of impregnation in a single sexual session are pretty slim, so men evolved the desire to satisfy a woman so that she would keep having sex with him.

[Jamie05rhs]

Evolution is fine and all. But I don't want a woman to keep having sex with me so I can get her pregnant. I want her to keep having sex with me so I can keep having sex with her. But regarding the food thing, eating pussy is also enjoyable in and of itself.

[Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over]

Yes, some men absolutely love love love giving oral sex, and pleasing the woman in bed gives them tremendous satisfaction. These men are generally the keepers because it is indicative of an overall giving personality. If you’re a constant taker, tho, leave these guys alone. Don’t ruin them for the giving women.

[Asker]

Yes! That is exactly what I thought too. His personality tends to be that way. I consider myself quite lucky. He’s great. And I’m giving to him too, no ruining here :)

[Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over]

Think about how sexy that makes the man who truly loves it. Now that’s a real man to me.

[Asker]

I agree! I’m so proud to call him my boyfriend. He’s everything I never had

[God_of_Thunder]

I would much, much rather give, than receive.

I think it's just a particular mindset, more than anything, really. I'm always much more focused on giving my partner pleasure, because I find that to be the most fulfilling aspect of sex. I want my girl to enjoy herself, and being able to give that to her is an incredible feeling.

I also find it extremely erotic, visually, to see her reactions, and watch her enjoying herself. A woman in the midst of passion is the most beautiful sight in the world. I get to be responsible for that, and if I want to see more, all I have to do is keep going. Plus, seeing her from that angle, looking up from between her legs, is incredible.

It just gives me an incredible feeling of satisfaction, knowing that I've satisfied her. Giving a girl oral is just so deceptively simple, but produces the most amazing results. I can't get enough of it, personally.

[Asker]

What an awesome thing that is! There should definitely be more men like you out there. That’s sometimes how I go about it too. I just want him to be pleased. I guess he wants the same for me too

[God_of_Thunder]

Exactly; if you can understand it from your point of view, then you can likely imagine how he feels. Hopefully it makes a bit more sense, now. I also appreciate the compliment. ☺️

[Asker]

Thank you very much for the insight! Certainly helpful And you’re welcome. I think that’s a great thing

[Frankiealaplaaja]

I much prefer giving OS than receiving it.
I can only tell you why I like more. As for any other (guy) that may very well be different.

- It's a way to come close to physically immerse myself into / merge with my partner
- I prefer to give pleasure more than receive pleasure altogether
- I prefer to save my stamina until a 'base' farther down.

Tip: Get over your shyness and open up to your partner. Telling them (after a bit of exploration) what you like best/not at all will GREATLY improve your experience.
I can pretty much guarantee he'll love knowing what you like the best.

[Asker]

Yes, it indeed becomes a very intimate experience. I enjoy all aspects of it. And I do open up to him, but initiating the conversations is still something I’m working on. If he brings something up and asks me what I like etc, I will say and thats no problem. But being the initiator gets me shy haha

[19magic]

I don't like receiving all that much, I enjoy it but don't tend to orgasm or get much out of it. I however love to give and like the power feeling and the fact that I give him this pleasure not anyone else

[Asker]

Yes, like the idea of give him pleasure is exciting and a turn on. Perhaps he feels the same way about it with me

[Red_Arrow]

You really should ask him. He would probably love to explain it to you.
For many, it is a combination of many factors. Seeing the woman's genitals is very sexy, especially up close and spread. Extremely arousing! And the feel of the labia between my lips is very arousing. As long as she is a normally clean woman, the scent and the taste is fantastic. The pheromones excite men very much. Stay on as long as you wish and enjoy it, then when you have had your fill you can finish him off. It will be heavenly for him.

[Asker]

There’s so many different factors that could make a guy like doing this. Whichever it is, I feel pretty lucky to even have a man do this for me. I’ll probably try to ask more about it the next time he asks me to

[Red_Arrow]

Yes, you are enjoying his interest! And it appears you are overcoming part of your shyness to ask him about it. Good for you!

[Asker]

Thank you very much :)

[godfatherfan]

For me to be completely satisfied, I need to get up close and personal time with the pussy. If I had a choice and could only have one or the other, I would rather give oral. But I very very much love receiving... just sayin..

[Asker]

Well that’s good to hear! I’ve always been under the impression that it’s all about the blowjobs and girls get neglected on oral. So that’s nice :)

[nerms123]

He just likes it. Guys are weird 😂😂

[Asker]

I know he likes it, but I’m just unsure what exactly it is that makes him like it

[scooogy]

@nerms123 I like it because I like to please her and see her happy :)

[TaureanBull81]

I absolutely lurve eating pussy @nerms123 😉👅💦😈👌

[integrale77]

I love it for me receiving oral to completion can be a bit of a waste as if time is limited recovery time could limit having proper sex.
Giving oral is about focusing your attention on giving the girl an orgasm (which is beautiful to see) and being sat on is about being deeply immersed in that pleasure.
Also after giving a woman an orgasm from oral I can move onto sex and satisfying my own needs possibly getting her to orgasm again.

[Asker]

I like the way you think! More guys should be like this. Many guys focus on their pleasure and leave the girl forced to finish herself later 🙁

[integrale77]

I just whish I could find myself a girlfriend to take advantage of my way of thinking.

[Asker]

It’s a shame you haven’t. I think many women would love that

[neurolove]

Yes, some really love it. Smells and taste help. And knowing he's pleasuring you are making him happy to do it. It takes great physical chemistry between you to too.

[Asker]

That’s sometimes how I see it. I like to know that my boyfriend is enjoying what I’m doing. That he’s satisfied and pleased. So I guess he maybe sees it the same way

[BuckWild]

Receiving oral sex can get me started but it will never make me come. However, when I give oral sex to a woman I can make her scream. I really enjoy that because I like to please in bed. It's also a fantastic warm up the main event when I make her scream again. Guys that don't like going down on chicks are pretty lame in my opinion.

[Asker]

I agree! They are quite lame for refusing to give a girl some head. Guys always expect a blowjob but won’t give back. So it’s nice to hear that guys enjoy giving. There should be more men like that

[BuckWild]

I sure hope I'm not in the minority. I can imagine a lot of guys not being good at it, but they all should be trying. And if they're not good at it, that's when a woman has to show him. Every guy needs to be taught. I was with a woman 20 years ago and she basically told me I didn't know what I was doing and proceeded to guide me to all of her spots. After that I was a pro. All women are different and I knew that with future women if I couldn't get her going then I needed to ask her to guide me exactly to her most happy spots. Communication is key. Guys need to know that if they can go down on a chick like a master then they will be the guy that sets her new standard for good sex. They will be the guy that all of her future boyfriends will be jealous of. :)

[Asker]

That’s true. I remember my boyfriend used to ask me if he liked what I did. He’d ask after sex if there was anything I liked and anything he could improve on. We have talks like that after every time we have sex. But he learned quick! Haha I think I’m pretty lucky

[BuckWild]

That's awesome! Hopefully he doesn't have any problems with going down on you. If so, make sure you school him! :-)

[Asker]

No he doesn’t. He loves doing it 😩

[Capnjaques]

I like 69 because it's the best of both worlds, and really for me it's my favorite position for eating pussy because it's right there in my face an perfect for grabbing her ass.

Otherwise I like to be on my knees with her on the bed and legs spread wide and pretending I'm at a pie eating contest. I get off more from a womans pleasure than me being stimulated

[Asker]

A pie eating contest! Lol that’s a good way to describe it. So you get turned on knowing she’s being pleasured. I tend to think the same way when I perform oral too. I like knowing that what I’m doing is making him feel good, so maybe he thinks the same towards me?

[Capnjaques]

Probably. I think a lot of us are just hardwired that way.

[Asker]

Thats makes sense though. Thank you very much for the insight on this :)

[Kurαȷ]

For me it depends on what the sexual dynamic in my relationship is and what my partner enjoys more.

If my partner is unenthusiastic about giving oral because they see it as too much of a dominant thing, but they are very enthusiastic about receiving oral while bent over and blindfolded, because it's something they enjoy that makes them sob uncontrollably.
Well, then, I would obviously prefer to give them oral.

Likewise, if my partner was unenthusiastic about receiving oral, but they are enthusiastic about giving it, then I would prefer to receive it.

[Asker]

Hmm so you don’t really enjoy it nor dislike it. You simply adjust to what she’s into/not into doing

[Kurαȷ]

Well, for me it is about the emotional aspect, not the physical. I don't really care for a blowjob, for me it doesn't even feel better than masturbation. It's really all about how exciting you can make it. If my partner makes it exciting for me to give them oral, I'll prefer it, if they make it more exciting for me to receive it, I'll prefer that. And if they aren't comfortable with either giving nor receiving, then no big deal.

[Asker]

This is very true. And the more intimate the better!

[TremorJay]

1. It tastes so goddamn good sometimes.

2. I think it's the best way to show my love and appreciation because it's all about her.

3. Aside form that, nothing turns me on more than making a girl cum. I want her to be weak with pleasure and crave me again later.

4. I've never cum from oral and I quickly become overstimulated, which prevents me from cumming period.

[Asker]

So you just like to please her and make sure she enjoys herself?

[TremorJay]

Yes, it's the gift of giving

[Asker]

Well that’s really nice to hear actually. Because you hear all the time about men receiving but never wanting to reciprocate that. So that’s awesome! Just one more thing: does the position you’re in matter? Does having her sit on your face feel better/worse than her laying on her back for example?

[TremorJay]

This part is more validation that you like what he does to you. Guys (at least guys like me) want to know that they're performing well and actions speak louder than words. Best case scenario is that the girl lies me on my back and takes a seat without me asking. I think it's more comfortable for the girl if she's laying down. You should let him know what you prefer.

[Asker]

To be fair I like them both. He’s gotten quite good at it and I’d say I’ve had wilder experiences with myself on top. So it’s good too :) thank you very much for the insight!

[TremorJay]

Glad I could help

[Asker]

You absolutely did. Thanks again

[waidesays]

I wish my wife would sit on my face, but she somehow convinced herself that she would suffocate me or something. I can't explain why it's so hot, it just is. He's not weird. As for the ratio, I love eating pussy and would have it for dinner every night if I could, but I don't really like getting blowjob that much. Don't get me wrong, it feels amazing. But for some reason, I rarely cum from getting sucked. My wife is the only woman who has ever been able to finish me off, but it takes nearly an hour every time. So I prefer to just fuck her instead. Hope this helped

[Asker]

Hmm perhaps she’s not a fan of face sitting. Maybe telling you “you’ll suffocate” is her nice way of saying it’s not her favorite thing? So knowing you’re giving her pleasure is what turns you on?

[Bad_Man55]

I love giving oral, it is such a turn on and so sexy.. pleasing a woman orally and feeling the orgasm so intimately is super arousing. It is even hotter when she let's go and just gets really into it.

[Asker]

How do you usually perform oral? Is she lying on her back? For my boyfriend, he likes if I sit on his face. I’m not sure if that makes a difference in his reasons though

[Bad_Man55]

The techniques vary as i know variation increases pleasure for her.. sitting on my face is good bc it gives her some control and also allows my hands access to the breasts.. her on her back is good too as it allows for a wider spread and allows me to use my my fingers or toy more but def have to put a pillow under her hips/ass as this helps.. her on her knees ass in the air this is great as again I can use fingers and or toy and allows for a great view and possible ass play also presents the tongue at a new angle.. her standing also is good with 1 leg propped up, especially when she controls my head which is hot.

[Asker]

This is very true. Personally I like to lay down because it’s more comfortable but he prefers if I sit down on him. To each his own! :)

[Bad_Man55]

Yup.. but if 1 position is more enjoyable for you he should want to be all about that

[Asker]

Oh sitting on him is certainly enjoyable. I have “let go” a lot more sitting on him. He’s quite good at

[Bad_Man55]

Good.. too many women are self conscious I find about a guy being down there and dont allow themselves to enjoy it all the way.. I find it take a few times before a girl will let go and allow herself to go wild

[Asker]

Yes it did take me a little while to relax too in the beginning.

[Bad_Man55]

That's good some girls give up too early or never get there

[Asker]

I trust him so it wasn’t so bad. It’s only gotten better after that

[Bad_Man55]

That makes a huge difference

[Asker]

I really has. I’m quite lucky to have him

[Bad_Man55]

Hell yea.. appreciate it.. I hear from a lot of women that their man won't do oral or is reluctant

[Asker]

Yeah it’s a shame honestly. I think woman deserve a little better when it comes to that

[Pamina]

I don't really understand why that surprises you.

[Asker]

Well as I said, generally guys want the focus of oral on THEM

[Pamina]

That's not really true. There are such and such. There's TONS of guys obsessed with eating pussy.

[Asker]

Well that’s the impression I was always given

[Pamina]

Yeah, a lot of people have that impression. It's a stereotype.

[Asker]

I’m pretty lucky my boyfriend is part of that stereotype 😅

[Pamina]

You mean *not* part of the stereotype, since he doesn't only care about receiving! ;)

[Asker]

Oh yeah lol typo sorry

[Insomnia72]

You obviously know how to clean your butt or he just likes the smell of the inside of a baseball glove.

[Asker]

Haha I means I definitely keep clean down there

[DorkVader]

Count your blessings and quit questioning your good fortune!

[Asker]

Haha I’m not trying to jinx it! I just couldn’t help but wonder why 😅

[WhiteShoulder]

Some guys are like that. There are more comfortable ways to get oral than facesitting, though.

[Asker]

That’s true yes. But he really like facesitting more than the others. And he’s quite good at giving in that position.

[WhiteShoulder]

Cool. Glad he makes u cum hard.

[face4sit]

I don't feel i have right to talk bout it. I have no right to talk period!!! I'm busy lol love

[Asker]

Haha what? 😅

[face4sit]

Busy line call back later. U second in line approximate time is 18 min

[face4sit]

Work side

[Asker]

Ohh haha I see 😅

[face4sit]

Now we have two options, either you sit on my face and squirt either I die under your ass, by the way u won't take my ass eating lol

[Asker]

You’re not grossed out or turned off if a woman accidentally squirts on your face?

[rtlm368]

As for myself, sex for me is her pleasure not my orgasm. her orgasm is not the end of the session it's the start. I can only last so long before i explode. so it also extends the funIf she gets off , I get off. I love the female body it's living art. I love to explore and i usually spend much more time pleasing her orally then she spends on me. Also its foreplay to intercourse. Actually I really enjoy it, everything about giving oral aroma taste looks. many different posistions to explore. I can say i enjoy when she rides my face like a cow girl. its just a man thing. He just really enjoys / loves you.
I would only please a woman this way that I truly.

[Asker]

You should definitely set the standard for other guys!

[sapphireruby]

I prefer giving than receiving, but if my man wanted to give me oral, I would do it with out hesitation

[Asker]

I guess we both think the same way. Both like to give but enjoy receiving just as much :)

[reptocarl]

Yes I do

[Asker]

What about it makes you prefer giving over receiving?

[reptocarl]

It’s hard for me to cum that way and just isn’t that big of a deal. I much prefer giving it

[Asker]

Ah I see :) thank you very much