Cheating ex asked me to hang out?

[Anonymous]

So my ex who cheated on me recently asked to hang out. I care a lot for him and everything so I said sure. We haven't seen each other in two years, when he first started to date her. And to clarify they've been living together for six months. I have no idea why he wants to hang out or anything but I'm excited to see him. So one of my friends suggested not even going and another suggested to dress very sexily. Since me and him broke up I've lost a decent amount of weight and have gotten a lot skinnier. So she wanted me to basically dress in some tight jeans with a little top that ties in the front with a bra under it. It's actually pretty similar to what I wore when I first met him and how I dressed before I gained too much weight and stopped wearing that kinda stuff. I like the idea of doing this a little. Kinda show him what he missed out on. But I'm not sure if it's too mean or anything.

The outfit is close to that but the jeans are darker and the top is a crop one and of course I'd have a bra on under it.

[AmandaYVR]

If you wear what you are proposing then it will send a message. Maybe:
1. You want him back and are trying to look your best for him
2. You don't necessarily want him back but you want to make him want you
Either way, the effort will be seen. Do you want that? You chose a pic with a girl not wearing a bra, high heels, particularly ripped jeans, which is all very sexy and not at all an average, typical outfit. But you say of course you'd wear a bra. But basically you're being clear you're going to amp up the sexuality. It will feel obvious, no? You say you used to dress like that, but your example is not 'typical' clothing. So we can't decide for you what image you want to portray. Sounds like kick back, casual, cool, doesn't care, is not what you're going for. "I don't want him back. I just want him to see everything he lost." Well then do that, as you seem to want to. But you then can't pretend that it happened by accident, or that you don't care what he thinks. It will show pretty clearly that you do still care what he thinks. That's the thing you need to decide if you are ok with conveying.

[jennifer_bloom]

I wouldn’t go. He could be doing it to make his girl jealous and not be into you at all since his feelings have been distracted for the last 2 years.

[Asker]

I don't care really if he's into me or not. This isn't about getting him back at all for me.

[nachosaresexy]

I feel like if you dress with an obvious sexy vibe like that it'll give him the impression that you're wanting to hook up. And I don't mean to judge - if y'all feel the connection again in the moment then you should go with the flow and do whatever you're comfortable with (especially if you find out he's no longer dating the other girl).

But yeah, my main point is that you can kinda control how much of a sexy vibe there is and whether it'll increase the chances of something sexual happen when y'all are hanging out. Does that make sense?

[Somethingwittty]

Once a cheater always a cheater. If he is living with another woman then odds are you will be the other woman in this scenario. If that's okay with you then so what you want but just remember he has someone at home waiting for him like you were at home waiting on him.

[AustinMan]

If you dress like that, and I'm not opposed, are you ready to follow through. Is it possible he cheated because you got so heavy?

[Asker]

I wasn't that heavy. Just about fifteen more pounds then I normally weigh. Which was only like one hundred and ten pounds. I just for my liking had a little bit of a tummy and hated it. I wasn't obese or anything.

[AustinMan]

Sorry. First part of the question still stands. Are you ready to follow through if he wants to fuck you?

[nerms123]

That’s a cute outfit. Just wear some type of top to cover your boobs so you don’t look desperate

[Asker]

It's how I used to dress before. I like how my body looks and have never minded dressing to show it off at points. So it's not really desperate as I don't want him back. I just want him to see everything he lost.

[nerms123]

I think you’ll look great! Wear something you love 😊

[Berethor]

You think that he don't notice that he do it on purpose? and as someone who is a well known cheater it's not harder to guess way did he decided to contact you again, while he in a relationship.

[-LeonidasHoffman-]

No, he had broken the chain of love that he had promised forever in the proposal of marriage, it is no longer worth it anymore.

[DDlgNoShame]

My goodness... Don't give him the pleasure.

[Asker]

I kinda want to though. As a way to let him see what he threw away.

[DDlgNoShame]

Find another man, and show him you're happy with him. That's the best revenge.

[GreatnessBack]

He's probably on a 12 step redemption program and is on the step, "right you wrongs" or something.

[COMMODOREII]

Yeah go for it. Lol show him what he screwed up between you two. 😎

[Twalli]

If you want guys to stare do that, otherwise I wouldn't.

[GreenGold1992]

why would you wanna hang out with someone you know who can't be trusted?

[Cannuck22]

I think that was stupid for you to see him. And who gives a shit on your outfit. You seem to want to try to win him back by dressing like a whore.

[Exorcist_Rampage]

Cheating is only possible during marriages. A boyfriend/girlfriend relationship can't be cheating since they are not recognizable by God to be having sex yet anyways and God's opinion trumps human opinions.

[berserk945]

Nah do it! Show him what he missed!

[gdianat]

No. Don't go back to him.

[Anonymous]

People who settle for ex's, are losers

[Anonymous]

Are you looking to hang out or to have sex? To just hang out I would not do that but if you want to get back with, or have sex with him than I would do it.

[Asker]

I'd love that but I don't plan to sleep with him if he's still with his girlfriend. I don't do that stuff. But I just wanted to rub in his face a little on what he lost out on.

[Opinion Owner]

Then by all means rub it in face, but I would stay away from friendship with someone who cheated