What do you think about your boyfriend watching porn/looking at pictures of other girls?

[BeeBoo]

I know that my boyfriend of two years must've watched porn well into our relationship due to the fact that for the first few months we hardly got to see each other, and with long distance i didn't have a problem with it.

However we've been living just down the road from each other for a year now and we see each other every day. He is a very sexual person, and no matter how many times he is satisfied with sex about ten minutes later he will be horny again. Even though i am not that into things like that i go out of my way to carry on as many times as i can to try and make him happy.

Recently i found a bunch of porn on his phone while we were hanging out just looking at photos. He lied to my face about it, and then again a week later when stuff popped up on his Instagram. Finally i got upset and he eventually admitted too it. He cried and said he felt so terrible.
I am mostly over it but i still can't help but feel like he's not quite the person i thought he was before? Girls how do you deal with this? and guys, aha, please help me understand why even though we have sex all the time its still not good enough?

[UnknownReflection]

In direct answer of your question, my girlfriend doesn't care. As the matter of fact, we watch pornography together often.

Now let's analyze your situation based on the description you have given.

-So lies to you about it. There is an incredible chance that he is lying about it because he was anxious and overthinking about your reaction. What will you think, what you would say, will you judge, will you get angry, sad and so on. Being worried about someone's reaction guides us to try to cover-up a subject in order to avoid the conflict sometimes. This whole emotional conflict is also a result of lack of proper communication. If you guys would've talk it out beforehand, he wouldn't be in an unknown state regarding your reaction. And you wouldn't even end up being shocked and surprised to begin with.

-You also got upset. Which is normal. You've been lied to while you have the evidence. The situation you're in leaves you feeling betrayed. But still, the whole thing could've been avoided by proper conversations before any of these happens.

-Then we reach the two final important statements: [ i still can't help but feel like he's not quite the person i thought he was before? ] and [ please help me understand why even though we have sex all the time its still not good enough ].

Every word you have expressed in these two statements which i have highlighted is a result of your belief system and understanding.

So you are feeling that your boyfriend is not the same person. Why? because he watches porn? to me, that's the most unreasonable measurement. But that's me and my belief system. Your statement shows you most likely have certain restrictions with pornography content and the context of [being in a relationship]. That's fine. But you shouldn't allow your feelings to fly around too quickly. You can still find agreements with your partner and settle everything from now on.

Moreover, you ask the second question and statement, which you are linking watching porn with sexual satisfaction. Why would you think that? so people or men watch porn only when they are horny or sexually unsatisfied? See, this is nothing but your own personal assumption based on your belief system and the width of your understanding regarding the subject. If watching pornography and sexual satisfaction are linked for your boyfriend, that's a different story and you can figure it out, yet; by communication. However, this is not the case for everybody and i will hold myself as an example.

I do watch porn because porn industry is the safest, private and secure way in order to observe human nudity. I watch porn because i'm in love with the art of the nudity and the appreciation i have for human body and the sensation of sexuality. I watch porn because it's an opportunity to observe different body types, colors, sizes, shapes, voices, positions, moves, kinks, fetishes, tools, equipment, themes, costumes and so on. I watch it because it's meditating for me, not because i have some sexual displeasure with my partner.

Nevertheless, the core of your issue is lack of communication. You have your belief and understanding, he's got his. Both of you have your share of fault for where the situation is now. So my suggestion would be to try to forget this one incident, sit together, make a conversation, you share your feelings, how you feel about he watching porn, and ask for his feelings about the topic. Communicate with each other and then reach an understanding and make a final reasonable agreement where both of you can agree on and continue.

[tomasr]

Men don't watch porn because they like it whenever they feel horny they just have a quick wank, it's not a sign of cheating or betrayal of your relationship

[SALIM28]

He's addicted to porn doesn't matter if u have regular sex or not