How far into a blowjob is it okay to stop if he hasn’t cummed?

Question

Like what’s a reasonable amount of time to wait for a guy to cum during oral.

I’ve been wondering about this for a long time, and I also wonder if people of a different sex have different opinions.

MikeAndMolly · Accepted Answer

You should only go until you no are no longer comfortable continuing.

To be clear, I'd love a blowjob that lasted 30 minutes, but I don't expect to get one because that's gonna hurt your jaw and tire you out.

Like I'll be excited about any oral my fiancee wants to give, but I don't ever want to feel like she's just counting down the seconds until she can safely stop. I want her to want it.

Like for me, I get a kind of satisfaction from pushing myself, even to the point of pain, while trying to please my girl. When doing clitoral stimulation or fingering her, I've frequently pushed WAY past the point of my muscles cramping up and hurting, trying to keep going faster and harder for her. I get the same sort of satisfaction as you might get from pushing yourself during a workout, but better because it's sex.

I love that feeling, but it's not always for everyone. My girlfriend does that sort of thing sometimes too, but she also knows she can call off a blowjob (or anything else) at any time without judgement or pressure or disappointment from me if she gets uncomfortable or even just stops being into it.

I don't expect her to make me cum with her mouth alone. Honestly you can't really get the right rhythm and pace going with a mouth in my experience. I only really came once or twice from a blowjob at the start of the relationship, when the novelty was so intense that it overcame the lack of speed and pressure that I usually need to come.

So don't expect to finish him, just use it as a tool for making him feel good, and only do it for as long as you want to.

If he has a problem with that, that's a bad sign.

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

A big reason that the male orgasm happens (best) from head is when there is a very steady rhythm stimulating the tip. "Deep throating" is not such a big deal because all that does is simulate the experience of being in the warm wet snug vagina. During intercourse, it is the tip being touched and stimulated that causes excitement and orgasm.

Keep in mind, all the best BJs are also a bit of a hand job as well so don't be afraid to give your mouth a break.

And don't forget the balls! They get lonely and are STARVING for female attention. So, sometimes use your fingers or hand such as cupping or teasing testicles or the penis.

Google "Fellucia Blow" and STUDY those videos. Those women are experts at fellatio and genuinely love it. The sensuous BJ really is best both for the guy and for the woman. Watch and notice how easily they do it yet aren't choking or getting sick. And watch how they switch between mouth and fingers.

Also, look into videos for:

A) lingam massage (tantric massage for the male genitalia)
B) yoni massage (tantric massage for the female genitalia - he should return the favor).

That said, consider studying good hand-job videos. All you then have to do is imagine doing what the woman is doing with her hands and fingers, but instead replace with lips, tongue, and mouth.
I'd upload a video, but it is not safe for G@G. PM if you want the links to two such videos.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If he hasn't blown his load in five minutes, then I lay him on his back and lower my pussy to his face. Then just lean forward and take his cock in your mouth. You'll have a mouthful of cum in no time. It's a scientific fact that the scent of a woman is a powerful aphrodisiac.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Depends on whether or not he's soft. Sometimes if my guy seems to be taking forever to cum I get horny myself and have to have him. Try masturbating yourself while blowing him to spur him on quicker

SpurtsLove · Answer

I think communication is best here. There are too many variables to assume anything. Maybe if a blow job isn't doing it then switch things up. If you are into intercourse, switch to that. I know for me, vaginal intercourse will make me ejaculate 100 to 1 over a blow job. But that's just me and every guy is a bit different.

Jasmin0701 · Answer

I've never had to give up. I don't look at the clock, but think that my boyfriend usually cums within a maximum of 5 to 7 minutes.

xkildy · Answer

By 5 mins your mouth and Jaws are going to be very sore

Apple1996 · Answer

Stop after 10 or 15 mintues unless he's close

markscott · Answer

You can stop any time your want to.

MyLastRemnant · Answer

Just ask the dude if he's getting close lmfao. Dont ruin the fun and power though. He should do the same for you.

DeshawnMGTOW · Answer

u dont stop

WhiteShoulder · Answer

Give it fifteen minutes. Most guys I've done that with cum within ten minutes, but some take longer.

LoU_Hades · Answer

I don't know, I lose the the feeling for time while sex. but oral is very intense and it's the fastest way to bring a guy to orgasm. I think if he doesn't cum in 20 minutes, he won't cum at all.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Any time you want to stop! And, the word is, "cum".

TCredo · Answer

Think there are some variables involved depending on the situation and objective. If I am getting a bj and reaching orgasm is taking awhile and it's not foreplay then if she starts to mix in a good handjob while sucking, usually does the trick ha. But... if it is part of foreplay then just move to having fucking her.
When I'm giving a bj to my transgender friends with benefits, it can sometimes take her awhile to cum from the meds she takes so will mix in some rimming and fingering - or if it's part of foreplay, switch to fucking her while either she or I jerks her off.

thebettyshow · Answer

My guy cums in less than a minute

KatherineJ · Answer

If your jaw starts hurting, or you get bored, stop.

buttcrackjoe · Answer

Give your jaw a rest and let him enter you from behind

JKingOff · Answer

Keep going till he does. And keep the change. 😉

outside_Toronto · Answer

What if the roles are reversed? What's a reasonable amount of time for him to give you to cum? When should he stop?

jb12358 · Answer

Should tell you if he’s not going to cum but you should keep going until he tells you to stop, it’s awful to just leave it half done

ErikKantor · Answer

Till you get tired or just doesn’t want to anymore...🙄🙄 Some girls are able to do it forever, others only 5 mins, if he doesn’t cum then he doesn’t. What the diddelydoo?