Is it normal to wanna have sex with someone you aren’t attracted to because you know that they are good in bed?

[Isabella1100]

[MikeAndMolly]

I mean, that's never really been my experience.

There was a scene in "Yes man" where some old granny-looking woman gave the young adult protagonist a blowjob and it was supposed to be okay even though he kind of didn't want to because she turned out to be like, superhumanly good at it and he even later had a friend come help her out with stuff under the understanding that she would then also make that guy get a bj.

I found the whole sequence of scenes (and the implied jokes) profoundly disturbing. I feel now that what the writers actually had her do was like, sexual assault? And the main character is supposed to like it because of her, like, technique? Like if he'd "only known" how good she was before then he'd have done it without protest?

Not just stupid, but deeply disturbing and not at all okay.

I'm not saying every situation like this is like that, but that scene really reinforced for me that sex, to me, isn't just some contest of skill or any other one thing. Good sex is about chemistry and fire and raw, elemental forces acting between two people.

It doesn't always have to be about love I guess, but it's better when it is, and at the very least, everyone involved should be attracted to each other, and like... I don't know, actually want to have sex together?

Radical idea I know.

[SpurtsLove]

I'd want to ether be attracted or have an emotional connection. Being "good" at sex is a relative term. Everyone has the potential to be "good" at it with the right person. What may seem boring to one person may be amazing to others. I've been told that my sexual preferences are boring and vanilla by some girls who I've talked with that like wild stuff. Other girls on the flip side (who I actually had sex with) said it was amazing because she also prefered natural love making too instead of the wild and crazy stuff. So it's really all about the person. Loving the person first establishes a good base and foundation. Basing sex on sex isn't good but sex based on a personal foundation with the partner wins every time.

[PrudentGuy]

I can't speak for other guys, but definitely not for me because I only enjoy sex with the person I like.

Also, in my country prostitution is legal. So I assume those girls are good in bed. But I never had any before.

So not for me.

[Cactusqueen]

Huh I’ve never heard of this before

[xkildy]

I have this 55 year old call me from time to time just for sex

[cavmanier]

A girl can't be good in bed if I don't find her attractive.. That would be like you telling me to eat dog duu because it will taste good. I'll pass.

[Darius_Kel]

Sorry, but i only can get hard if i find them attractive.

[Passinggas]

Yes, they call or drop over and require servicing. I think of it as they need their tune-up.

[yeeeeeeeet]

Its normal to want to have sex with someone. Dont feel unnatural because you have sexual urges.

[COMMODOREII]

Who would that be? 😮

[bananathunder]

everyone is good in bed if you guide them...

[Cloudsofnevermore]

No, not normal if there is no attraction there is basically nothing

[jpezee]

The thing g that gets me is how could he be good in bed and enjoy if u not attracted to him

[Anonymous]

I’d never have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to.

[Anonymous]

If a person is a great fuck, then a lot of other things just fly out the window.