Do you find erotic spankings fun to give or receive?

Question

Do you like giving or receiving erotic sensual spankings? Do you like them hard, soft or medium?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Yes, I love spanking girls.

When I was in high school, having just started finding my confidence at the very end of Junior High but still very much in the "figuring it out" stage, I was at a band party, and people were drinking and laughing and dancing and we were all having fun, and one of the girls plops down next to me on the couch, and after a bit, starts poking me in the ribs. Being too socially stupid to interpret this properly (it's obvious to me now that she wanted attention, but I didn't really get it then), I brushed it off a couple of times, and then started telling her to knock it off. Of course, she kept poking me as I'm listening to someone else's story. Finally, she pokes me again, and out of nowhere, and totally without thinking about it, I said "if you don't knock that off, I'm gonna pull you over my knee and spank you." Did I mention how uncharacteristic these words were coming from my mouth at the time?

Naturally, everyone around says "oooooooo" and starts laughing at my obviously empty threat (or so I thought), and I realized that I had painted myself into a corner. Of course, the girl pokes me again, and I remember thinking "if I don't do this, I'll never be taken seriously again by anyone here" and so I grabbed her arm, pulled her over my knee, and have her about 10 good swats on the ass. Part of me was waiting for people to be upset that I'd spanked her (residual fear from growing up being TOO goodie-goodie), but everyone, even some of the girls, were high-fiving me and hooting it up. And the girl I spanked and this little smirk on her face that I'll never forget. Oh, if I knew then what I know now...

So, a few weeks later, there's another party. I had figured that most people had forgotten the previous incident, but not too long into the party, one of the girls playfully mocks me, and I said something back to her, and she says "ooooo, you gonna spank me now?" Of course, this quickly led to me spanking her, and then a couple other girls decided they wanted a turn.

After that, it had become a thing that happened at parties, and I even had a couple of guys bring their girlfriends to be spanked at the parties, with high-fives afterwards. And, yet, it was at least a year before I figured out that this could get me laid (now naive I was!).

Since then, spanking has been a regular part of my repertoire. And as I have friends in the BDSM scene and am peripherally involved it it myself, it's seen as a more normal thing - to me especially, compared to then.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Giving is super erotic. It's a fun thing to do during doggy-style. But having her bend obediently over the arm of a sofa or some other furniture, increasing the anticipation by methodically raising her skirt and pulling down her panties is hotter than hot. Or throwing her over my knee like a naughty little girl, then holding her arm behind her back and hooking one of my legs over hers to keep her from wriggling free while I give her the punishment she wants and deserves, taking time out to finger her wet pussy.

A woman's soft, bouncy, jiggly ass is just so spankable. It just fits in my hand so nicely. Seeing her white flesh turn pink is erotic. And so is the way she wriggles and makes high pitched cries, squeals and pleas for mercy.
A safe word is a good idea, though, to insure that she is enjoying herself and not exceeding her limits.

Sexual dominance and submissiveness between men and women are interesting dynamics. I'm awed by the idea that women put themselves willingly and trustingly in situations of complete helplessness and find it erotic. That's a topic for an entire conversation.

MissKittyz · Accepted Answer

I find erotic spankings fun to receive more. I've given my fiancé some spankings for fun but doesn't feel sexy lol just feels funny for the both of us. But when he spanks me, that's when I get really wet and turned on. And he gets horny too lol I love the hard ones that makes my butt sting.

GeanieJ78 · Accepted Answer

Fun to receive. I like moderate force spankings.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I had enough spankings as a child. I don't really need them as an adult because it just brings me back to those spankings I got in the past as a child.

ClothoZero · Answer

Nah. I’m a soft dom.

mooky06 · Answer

I like being spanked a lot more then spanking someone. A nice firm spank or a playful one is nice.

1stranger · Answer

If i receive it, i will give it. That's why i prefer erotic rubbing 🤪

1231prncss · Answer

Soft or medium and playful.  I'm not into torture or people using other devices for spanking. If my boyfriend spanks my ass playfully to be sexy or during sex i love it

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Typically, I like receiving soft playful spankings but also enjoy getting some hard ones too. :)

akobun · Answer

It’s a fetish of mine to be spanked. I like not doing as I’m told deliberately just to get a good spanking 😍

MsLexiD · Answer

I'm all for receiving in the right situation/mood. I answered "A", but really I prefer something in between "A" and "B" - hard enough to feel it, but not so hard that it leaves marks, bruises, etc.

ChewMi · Answer

Those bastards!

Elliegirl · Answer

I don’t mind a playful slap on the butt every now and then. Just not too hard. I’m more of a squeeze my butt kind of girl. I like that better.

Paulaanderson · Answer

Oh yes when in right mood
Had them as a kid and in teens got so turned on on couple of occasions
Given a few as well. But for me erotic hardish and soft and Fingered getting horny now writing about it whilst in car

Insomnia72 · Answer

It's a sexual intensity thing where aggression can feel good. Even as a guy, I like it when a woman grabs my balls hard. Some women like their hair pulled and butts slapped at one point. It's just nature. You see this also in the animal kingdom.

Jjpayne · Answer

That just sounds like fun. I'd say bare hand on bare skin but gentle, just enough to feel the grip and feel your butt jiggle for both the guy and the girl but then again I think it depends on the guy or girl, what they want to feel I've never tried it before but it sounds like fun and they do have spanking cream for that :)

R4vedave · Answer

I absolutely love spankings, both giving and receiving tbh, but I tend to enjoy giving more. I especially love it if I can mix in some dirty talk.

Finchie40 · Answer

I think it's hot to give to a girl to let her know i am dominate. to her and she will do what I tell her , most Girls love receiving it

rex1636 · Answer

I refuse to hit a girl but if she wants to spank me I don't really care. I am not into that submissive BDSM shit though. That stuffs gets weird fast. However, if the girl wants to playfully slap me during the act or something I am okay with that.

roland77 · Answer

We both dislike pain in any way, so spanking is on our NOGO list, period. And yes, I see them commenting already: boring sex. Yeah, we love our "boring sex" so much!