Can a petite, fragile-looking woman be dominant in bed?

Question

Normally women who are smaller and physically weaker are not expected to be sexually dominant in bed, especially if it adds up with a shy kinda personality.

But can a woman who is really short, and shy in personality be dominant in bed? Have you ever experienced anything like that?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Sure, to an extent. For example, she can ride the guy, grind her clit against him while stirring his cock inside her, using him as her dildo to gain maximum pleasure for herself. She can even pin his wrists against the mattress while doing it. It's totally hot when she is that ravenous, especially when she achieves her goal of orgasm.

But the larger, more powerful guy has to play along. In reality, he could escape any time unless he had agreed ahead of time to be physically restrained.

There is also the idea that a woman can be dominant in a sense by simply participating equally in the act of sex. She can clutch him while he is fucking her; she can hump as hard as he does; she can kick her legs or wrap them around him. She can be a tiger.

But, in reality, a woman can't dominate a man in the same way a man can dominate her. It's the nature of sex for a woman to open herself, to make herself vulnerable, to submit to penetration. She is the one being impaled. A man can forcefully restrain her, position her, hold her steady, pin her arms or legs. In reality, there's nothing that she can do to stop him. And women love that.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Aiden Starr is 4'11", and she does just fine when she wants to, though I wouldn't really call her shy. LOL. You can find her on Kink. com or on the Evil Angel label, where she both stars and directs. Aiden Starr in 9" platform heels

mistixs · Accepted Answer

I'm very petite and fragile-looking with a shy personality. I'm a virgin, & being dominant doesn't interest me.
However, I've noticed that many of the guys who have been interested in me have expressed a desire for me to be dominant and willing to humiliate them etc. One of my sister's friends is similar to me in size & she makes money as a dominatrix.
I was curious if this was a pattern, so I did a poll & most submissive men (who had a size preference) said they would prefer a petite domme. Are you aroused by the idea of being dominated? & If so, do you prefer for your dom/domme to have a certain body size?

I suppose it's because submissive guys want to be humiliated, & it's more humiliating if the person domming you is small and fragile-looking. That's my guess.

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

Totally  dominance in bed is a frame of mind not About physical strength.. S/D is based on a relational agreement the other person submits it doesn’t matter how big you are ❄️❄️

northerngal · Answer

Absolutely... a woman being dominant is all about attitude not how tall she is.

CreativeMumble · Answer

Why not? The way you act and what you like is not determined by your body type.

DevilsAdvocator · Answer

Absolutely. It's one of the foremost, most cliche examples of 'Gap Moe'.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

yes, I am petite and often I ride my man cowgirl and he says if I dont slow down, i am gonna snap off his manhood!

cheapshotbob · Answer

you would be very dumb to think they can't be ,.

ohshee · Answer

Yes it can happen i mean anyone can be. If you like your self and not afraid to show your true feelings then yes

JackSmy · Answer

Her physical size has nothing to do with sex and the positions and how you enjoy being together! I have really loved a few, rather small, and 'frail' LOOKING, but not at all!! When I am with the smaller, petite ones, I actually prefer her, on top, because I am a bigger guy, and don't have to worry about squishing her!!
Also, if she is on top, I can see her smile and her reactions, and when her perfect little breasts kind of 'bounce' as we...
"Dominant" maybe, or maybe not, but why does one need to be 'dominant' and the other, 'submissive'? Why can't it just be loving, and enjoy how you like it together?

ticketshirtboy · Answer

Oh yes! I have been Dominated by more than one petite, frail Woman! It is such a turn on for me!

Apple1996 · Answer

Yes definitely I am dominant and short/shy. I'm not necessarily fragile looking tho

akobun · Answer

In person I’m pretty shy and I’m naturally quite petite, but there are occasions where I love to take the lead in bed!

Berethor · Answer

Well the guy is clearly holding back, the guy is likely a dragon in chief. :)

kamiljano · Answer

One of my exes was 155cm tall and was super skinny. Sometimes I was using her like a fleshlight :P it's difficult to be dominant when you cannot even touch the ground :P

Insomnia72 · Answer

She can dominate if she is sitting on a guys dick and shooting off civil war pistols

WhiteShoulder · Answer

She definitely can be

foxrider77 · Answer

She can, give her the plug, remote and strap on and she owns the bedroom now.

Requ1m · Answer

Yeah, I see no reason to say that shy petite woman cannot be sexually dominant. And they certainly exist. Mainly because there's enough people on earth to make sure it happens.