Has anyone ever tried to persuade or pressure you to get sexual when you didn’t want to?

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Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Oh yeah, many times... and probably the reason I'm still single, lol.
I had a guy last year that wanted to sleep with me the first time we met up!!!

Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I prefer to know something about my date or the guy I'm with before being sexual with him. The problem is, most (not all) guys assume if you don't sleep with them after x amount of dates or meetings, you're not interested in them and they lose interest.
Which to me says they are more concerned with their hormones than getting to know me anyway so no real loss I guess...

desperatelyhungry · Accepted Answer

Yes. I used to mess around with some football players at a local college. I have to say they were always very respectful when I said no or didn't want to do something but they would try to persuade and ask me to do things I didn't want to do. But they never forced themselves on me when I said no and after a couple times of me saying no they'd drop it

DanOh2018 · Accepted Answer

I've been on both sides of the conversation, but if someone doesn't value you enough to participate freely ultimately what's the point? Being persuasive is tiring, I don't bother unless I really like someone.

Persuading is about breaking the ice, or try or averting a crisis. If that's all that there is in a relationship it's not worth saving.

As for pressure, most pressure is just a trick of our own imaginations. Probably means that there's a bit of self conflict and unresolved wanting at play.

webelong2yehovah · Accepted Answer

I've known a manager of mine to, in a very direct way involving physical contact with her more intimate regions. It was much more a lustful insistance than it was any expression of desire to love or to be loved, so I didn't respond. Thereafter, because of my lack of reciprocity, I was made to look as though stealing and let go.

VIVANT · Answer

No one who was not a stranger. People who know me, know better.

Koala21 · Answer

Yes, it wasn't bad, but it didn't feel right.

PondyPand · Answer

Plenty.

Duckysback · Answer

Tried, sure. Succeeded? No chance.

coralee · Answer

Yes, pretty often. When I was younger I sometimes agreed because it was easier then having to say no constantly. Now, I'm far more likely to double down. Annoying me does not make me want to have sex with anyone.

Cactusqueen · Answer

Sure, it’s not rare I don’t think. But I feel like many don’t want to admit to that since often they just give in even though they don’t want to.

MrHopper · Answer

My mentor as a teenager once told me that you should never make any one do anything they don't want to do... And it's always stuck with me... She did also used to say if you stick something out you should use it 🤷‍♀️

Somethingwittty · Answer

Tried to lol. If I dont want to then you gotta be super convincing for me to change my mind.

Skyrim5346 · Answer

TBH I'm actually a victim of female on male sexual assault so yes very much so please don't be afraid to ask me questions you can feel free to PM as but please don't be insensitive my current girlfriend will have words with you we are hear to be helped and help 🕊🕊🕊

nerms123 · Answer

Yeah that’s pretty normal I guess but of course many guys are very ethical and won’t do that. However I think it may have calmed down because of the metoo movement.

Apple1996 · Answer

Yeah a few times

Hamsteroids · Answer

Of course

BuckWild · Answer

I'm sorry but as a man I have just say that your question doesn't make any sense. That's not possible. Not possible at all. And I definitely have never dropped the soap.

bonniebaby19 · Answer

Yes Almost every guy I have dated by the 2nd date is on my boobs and tries to shove his hand down my pants to touch my "holy of holies" I hate it...

InfobotsMom · Answer

Yep. This happens to guys too 😔

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

Yes, my ex would try often try to. My current girlfriend as well has the mindset that sometimes I need a little convincing, when she's aroused enough.

Insomnia72 · Answer

Yeah. My neighbors dog. The bastard tried to rub his red dick all over me. Disgusting animals, trying to go bestiality on my ass. And yet people think dogs are intelligent (facepalm).