My boyfriend is attracted to older women, can he leave me for one of them?

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I’m 20 and I’ve been dating this 21 years old guy for 3 weeks, but I can’t help but notice how he get flirty with my mom, and the worse is that all his exes were 10-15 years older than me! He told me that he was attracted to me cause I’m very mature for my age, and that I’m the first girl his age he’s attracted to, but when I saw his historic I found many porn involving milfs, and older women, his friends even told me that his first love was 10 years older but she broke his heart, so they were shock to see him with a girl the my age.
I became paranoid cause I notice how he sometimes check women in their late thirties. And I even found a meme in his phone that talk about his attraction to older women ( the one I posted) I don’t understand and i feel so bad right now, that I want to break up because of this but I know it sound silly.
But I hate that he commented in a pic of Sofia vergara that he would leave his girlfriend in a heartbeat of this milf!
I feel like I’m ugly and unnatractive and my anxiety is getting bigger day by day.

My boyfriend is attracted to older women, can he leave me for one of them?

ShadowofRegret · Accepted Answer

I think it would be best if you find someone else, he sounds like he would not be loyal, and for him to say such a thing, it would suggest that he thought of you as someone to "settle for", rather than really just wanting to be with you.

It's probably going to go badly for you if you try to stay with him, but that is only my opinion.

Somethingwittty · Accepted Answer

If he has a history with older women and his friends back him up. He mustve put in a lot of work into himself for his age if it's actually true. And I mean a lot. If a guy has a history like that already then he's more than likely to stick with what he likes im afraid.

VioletStardust · Accepted Answer

That comment is such a dick move. He sounds like a milf chaser. You can do better

xenros · Answer

I dont usually say this but there are a lot of redflags and consider talking about this problem or breaking up.

Insomnia72 · Answer

Older women are, generally, more mature and sexually experienced. This can put guys at ease. Even in my twenties I was attracted to them because I was an old soul, beyond my psychological years.

wkozak · Answer

I see that your boyfriend is a jojo fan.. but seriously he maybe prefer older women but he chooses you in the end.. so try to stay calm and don't worry too much about that

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

Try not to become emotional atracted to him and/or give him an ultimatum about how he make you feel and ask hem serious if he is in to you. You don't have time to waste. I olso like older girls but i can't betraid the one i get in a relationship.