Am I completely out of touch sexually speaking in today's world?
SpurtsLoveXper 2
After reading so many topics on GAG in the past few days that I've been a member, most ideas sound completely foreign to me. I don't get the "ass 2 mouth" stuff, the cumming on her face, the anal sex or "play", the choking her, making her shave pubic hair, and all the other things that don't even sound remotely connecting, romantic, pleasurable, or loving.
This is what I do get...A man who is respectful and gives his woman his all so she feels cherishedI grew up thinking that a man and woman fell in love, went out on dates, he held her hand, opened the door for her, and at some point when the flames of love were burning bright enough, they found a private place away from the world and made love, aka sex where he sticks his penis inside her vagina and they both take it slow, where he holds her tight, kisses her, tells her he loves her, makes her orgasm, and he finally ejaculates inside her (his love for her spills over) after which they continue to stay connected physically and share all the wonderful connecting kisses, loving touch, until both are satisfied.
It seems that sex should convey adoration through gentle loving & soothing touch. That can mean a stimulating or relaxing touching of each other's genitals (fingering or parting labia, rubbing clit/penis/breasts) during foreplay or post orgasm as well as the caressing of each other's face, hands, back, and buttocks during the act, which causes a relaxing and euphoric feeling for both.
Treating a woman with respect during sex and letting her know you still love her afterword is what making love to me is about and how I was taught growing up. Making her comfort top priority is where it's at. It seems to me that if all men could learn these most basic and simple things of women needing to feel genuine love, men would have more sex than they could ever deal with.
So where am I going wrong here? If I'm remotely ringing a bell with anyone on GAG, where am I going right, if at all?
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scandiblondeXper 5
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You describled pretty well how I see and would like to experience making love as well - I believe most of us would like to. Of course, people have different taste preferences and some get turned on when the sex is more rough or dirty. I think it's great that nowadays you are free to have your kinks and be able to express yourself and get pleasure from different ways and styles. As in life overall, you can't always please everyone: people like different things and that is such a richness.
I absolutely love the way you think about sex, you seem such a gentleman and there is nothing wrong with your thoughts. There is many of us who think and see sex as you do. I'm mostly into exactly that kind of sex, which includes a lot of loving, caring, sensuality and intimacy, cuddling and cherishing each other after making love is important for me as well. However, I do have a little wilder and darker side which can flame if I meet a right person and the atmosphere and chemistry clicks, althought I need to know I'm perfectly safe with the person to try something maybe new and exciting. Overall I think variety in sex just makes it more interesting and fun, but I think safety, trust and caring should always be top priority, whether the sex is soft or rough.
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SpurtsLove
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I 100% agree with you. And I'm also open to some exploratory and wild stuff too. It's perfectly natural for a couple to get caught up in the heat of the moment when their hormones and love are raging. Sometimes you literally want to explode or melt into the other person and into a million little bits and in a million different directions haha. But I completely agree and I'm just trying to emphasize the need for respect and like you say, safety and trust too. In the end, making love should be, well, loving :)
scandiblonde
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Absolutely, I definitely agree with you! Well said :)
Roxxy99Master
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I think people today are just more open sexually and are able to enjoy things that were once considered taboo. I think everything you mentioned sounds wonderful. We all desire those same things but sometimes it’s nice to mix it up and be nasty in the bedroom too. Sometimes I want to make love and sometimes I want to straight up f@ck. When there’s a foundation of love and respect, you can have both worlds in your relationship.
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TCredo
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well said :)
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Anonymous
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First of all, no one is making anyone shave pubic hair.
You just a very vanilla dude. Nothing wrong with that, but most people will not be satisfied with that for long and sex will get boring for the really quickly. There are sooooo any things that an make sex enjoyable and keep it exciting. Why always eat vanilla?
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