If I am a crossdresser or a sissy what should I do to cope?

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I'm obsessed with cross dressing and looking like a girl. Yet I'm not gay I've been told this could be cross dreaming. I am curious though what I can even do about it and how do I get it out of my head? Do I need to indulge it and just crossdress? The issue is I can't do it on my own and will need a salon or a girl.
However I bet it helps me release pent up stress from it.

On the other hand is it better to keep reading crossdressing stories/porn and hope it holds back my desire to crossdress, so I dont go to a salon for a total makeover. Unfortunatley if that route fails then I'm crossdressing and watching porn.

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I was using match but got literally zero lol. Tried okcupid but nothing doing. haven't tried anything else. I refuse to do tinder because it seems like crap. I got a good job and a good career as an electrical engineer I'm in a weird industry for most folks though. I work construction so I'm always doing something new ever year or 2 so I'm all over the place. I did exactly as you said in regards to describing my job and tried to show passion. Only want sex with a girl but I enjoy huniliation.

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rozequarts Xper 7
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Do I want to tell you to do whatever you want? Yes. Yes I do.
Am I a bigot? No I am not, I am very pro-do whatever tf you want as long as you won't harm someone.

BUT here's the thing. If you are absolutely sure you are a straight male, dont cross dress. Straight women really want a guy who looks and acts like a guy. If I wanted to date my girl I would date her and I wouldn't be a boy crossdresser then either.
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- Asker
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  That's fair and I agree the truth doesn't make you a bigot. I dont need women to share or accept my kink I am just trying to understand it. It would be maybe cool of they would though and some do. My issue is I can't seem to shake it.
- rozequarts
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  Ah so it is only a kink. Hmm Explain - is this something you would do in public or only behind closed doors.
- Asker
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  Closed doors its sexual (humilation) I dont wanna be a girl. I could see doing it in public but it would be rare and mostly as a joke or if it's under the right humiliation circumstances.
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- Asker
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  Well I guess I should I obviously dont 100% agree otherwise I wouldn't have asked if I should lol. I am thinking back to the old binge and purge cycle so you binge one day and crossdress then all your built up crap goes away and you feel normal and you go on a purge with no crossdressing. That's why I think it might help control it so I'm not out of control. It's like an addiction to when myself off I might have to ease out of it. Or that could be BS that was my thought though.
- rozequarts
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  If its a kink then thats not so bad. You just have to find a girl who really likes dominating and would be willing to let u live that out
zollo Xper 7
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Well first off are you only into cross dressing for the sexual aspect of it like domination and what not or do you like to imagine your self as a girl 24/7\? If it's just a sexual thing then I don't see why not just indulging in it because it only stays in the bed room.
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- Asker
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  See my previous question for a bit of detail more. So to answer directly it is both I can't get it out my head 24/7 and it creates sexual stimulation so it is both in that it happens all the time even outside the bedroom and in that it seems to be driven by some form of BDSM.
- zollo
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  Honestly i'd try dressing up in girly clothes at least once, you can always just go to a store and get an outfit that you think would fit your and it would just seem like your getting it for your girlfriend. you can also get a cheap makeup palette just about anywhere and it's fairly simple to put on basic makeup. You seem into cross dressing or what ever this may be enough that trying to suppress it probably won't work and it'll only make you unhappy, i'd say try to take little steps into embracing who you are and how you feel. you mentioned something about being a sissy, Usually a sissy is not seen as gay because they're with a female partner but it's still about domination and humiliating he"Man" or lack there of. It's kinda cute.
- Asker
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  Thanks yeah I think it's worth just to see how I react. At the same time I want a girlfriend so I dont want it to affect a relationship. Also I have a beard lol so I am gonna have to take that off with the downside looking like I'm 12. I would put my pic up as the profile pic but all my pictures are on my old phone I can add it later which I'm going to do anyway. Not that you need to see anyway but I'm betting I ain't passable I have a decently manly face it will be funny in the least lol. I was just hoping to get a gal that enjoys helping I met a lot back in high school and 1 in college and 1 last year. So I know they exist it's just I never let them do it in school was too scared and then last year she bailed. Anyway thanks for your post as much as I appreciate your answer I fear your answer.
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- zollo
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  I'm sure there's girls out there that are into that stuff, I think it's just about being upfront about it before getting into a relationship. I mean a lot of amateur porn that has to do with cross dressing and sissy's are done by people who are in relationships.
- Asker
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  Finding them online is quite hard lol when your out of high school, college, and not in any groups and women at work are a no go its online or bust essentially outside of random meetup that just sparks something. I dunno dont get it with me my pictures were not great but not awful and I'm about a 7-9 depending on the girl evaluating I've only got a 9 once my average is about 7.5. So I dont think looks were the issue the profile was written okay just no bites. I think it's a combo of women getting inundated with garbage and my messages not striking the right chord with them. I thought it might have been cuz I'm skinny so I've started trying to build muscle but that got delayed because my trainer I hired wasn't the best and I didn't lift heavy enough but I'm currently rectfying that. However that is a year or more out. I just dont get it maybe my clothes sucked and they thought I was poor? The ironic thing is money is the one thing I dont have an issue with so my social status should be good enough dunno maybe online the ladies only target 9-10 range. What is your opinion because this is how I'm approaching online which is related inherently with me to crossdressing?
- zollo
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  Well first off I think it's really interesting that your into building muscle but still into cross dressing. Finding someone online in general for a relationship can in general be hard but having a "weird" or uncommon interest can make it even harder. What dating apps/ sites are you using? For me personally if i'm looking for a guy through an app some things that I look for is that he has a job and is going somewhere, because regardless of if you have money it's also about making money and being able to be stable. Unless your clothes look really out of style or have holes and stains on it I don't think they'd be the problem. Also you don't have to explicitly say "I have a job and make good money" but just kind of insinuate it I guess, like "I work as blank and I'm really interested in blank". Personally wouldn't even go for 9-10 guys because most of them seem like douches anyway and I like nerdy guys way better but that's just me. But the thing about compromising on looks is that you need to have a good personality and I feel like it could be similar to having a certain kink. I'm honestly no entirely sure how you would put "I like cross dressing" in your bio without Attracting weirdos, possibly getting hate, or scaring potential people off with how blunt that is. I mean you want a person to know before you get too deep what your into but at the same time for someone who isn't as familiar with that community that can be an uneasy territory. If you don't mind me asking, what exactly are the sexual aspects that you like about cross dressing? Like are you interested in just dressing up but still having sex with a girl or do you want to be humiliated and degraded (more like a sissy)?
- Asker
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  I workout for physical health and because I've heard the ladies like it. It is a bit if a odd juxtaposition though.
- Asker
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  Okcupid and match but I quit okcupid and found nothing on match so I'm using none. My job is steady I work as an electrical engineer I wrote it similar to how you say but tried to make passion come through. The downside to my job is I work construction so I'm all over the place year to year. My clothes dont have that but they aren't fashionable. I am a nice guy and can be funny on occasion so personality I think I'm okay just depends on if she meshes with it. I like humiliation and degradation but I only want sex with women.