Hi girl,
The guys seemed to like this question, and they gave you good, specific advice. I will just add one thing - good sex is often about confidence. I'm not going to tell you to "just be confident" - that kind of trite advice means nothing, as it's not something you just will yourself to conjure up. But confidence is quite often at the root of something like this. As supermaniac said, sex is best when both people are in the moment, mentally/emotionally present. A lot of things may have to come together for that to happen, but it's key. Also, the older and more experienced you get, the more familiar everything will be (familiarity is both a blessing and a curse in life), the more you will learn about the mechanics, you'll develop skill and knowledge, and find out your own and your partners' preferences. That's when it really gets good.
In the mean time, you say you're "not exactly sexually informed" and that's ok. All in due time. Don't have sex until you're ready, and until you want to, and then when you do, just go for it. It's meant to be fun. The point is to get to a place in your mind where anything that pops into it, you can do, you can act on, it is spontaneous and you have no inhibitions. You also need the right partner for that, but most guys will feel like the luckiest guy alive in that moment. It's what they all want - girls to want it as much as they do. Find someone who likes/loves/respects you, as much as you do him, and then blow the roof off the place.
This is a great opinion and advice.
@TadCurious Thank you, Tad.
Moan. Move around a little. Get really wet. Some guys like it when you play with your boobs while he's fucking you.
Nothing wrong laying still during aggressive intercourse. It's almost impossible to synchronize thrusting and compensating for the mismatch messes up the run to orgasm. It is better she brace herself and remain motionless as she can. This could be a reason some guys prefer doggy. She just bends over and takes it. The same problem exists for a bed with a box spring. Too much bounce. It's why my bed (s) are all king size platform beds. You won't hear this anywhere else.
Do things like:
- look him in the eyes
- moan, gasp, nod, talk dirty, etc.
- use your hands: rub his arms or back or butt, play with his hair, squeeze or pull on your boobs, etc.
- take his hand and put it on your body wherever you enjoy being touched.
- Enthusiastically give him some oral while switching positions.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!The biggest problem for me with what I called starfish in the past is the lack of cues that she enjoyed it. In fact, I was almost certain she didn't, like she was just trying to make me happy. And I'm not the type to be happy if she's not.
So for me at least, it's not like you gotta be some sexual master. Your mind just has to be there, participate in any way possible.
Like, don't be a sex robot/doll. I hear some guys excited about these sexbots/dolls. I'm not. It sounds like the ultimate starfish. Just be a few notches above that and you're already good. Show feeling, desire, like/dislike, these sorts of things. Just be a human being instead of a corpse.
1) Wrap your legs around him
2) Thrust back, hard
3) Talk dirty to him: fuck me, stud. Harder, baby!!
Take control and show him exactly how you like it. Their are so so many people out there that are afraid to be vocal about their likes and dislikes and just roll with whatever happens. It's your moment too, not just his. Experiment and find out what you like then be assertive but open to new ideas.
Maybe their isn't a lot you can do in that position but personally I want to know you're enjoying it. If I feel like you're just laying their waiting for me to finish I'll just stop (and probably leave). Find a way to show that you're actually enjoying it..
Tell him what feels good, act enthusiastic, let him know you are aroused, and be willing to do what turns him on. Act like it is something that you WANT to do, not just something that you are WILLING to do.
Pretend there is a wrestling match going on in bed.
Put your hands on his chest and push him away, then switch it up and pull him by holding the back of his neck and kiss him.
And don't forget the classic things, moaning and touching your boobs for example.
Also don't always let him be on top it's more fun to switch it up sometimes.
Do anything really. Wrap your legs around him if you can, touch him, grab him, scratch him, kiss him, bite him, do something! Don't just lay there and not engage at all. Convince us that you actually want us, even if he's on top.
At the very least you can't thrust your hips upward to meet his thrusts, wrap your legs around him and put your hands on his back and stroke his back and pull him into you deeper. There are ways to move your body when you're on your back in the missionary position. Hopefully though those movements are spontaneous and in the moment.
Wrap your legs around him and jump away. Starfish is another name for an anus
Run your hands over him, rub his shoulders or scratch his back, put your hands under your butt and play w his balls, if you are tall enough reach around and grab his ass. And of course don't forget some dirty talk
Not a dumb question! Describes my marriage. If he's on top you still have 2 free hands. I'm sure there's something you can play with. Try everything and note his reaction. Repeat as necessary. Oh, don't forget about your mouth!
I prefer her to let me do all the work personally. That allows me to have my way and favorite positions. All I recommend is while he takes you doggy lick your hand and grab his balls and rub them. Also if you see he gets tired politely and slowly grind up and down on him until he gets his stamina back.
Most women learn it. Stats show only 5 to 10% of women are capable of having real orgasm. The rest fake it. If you want to keep him around a long time you better be a grade-a actress.
Just be yourself my dear
But possibly the reason is that the girl is so use to just being there as a prop for his sexual, she hasn't any desires.. very sad...
Rub your hands over his body.
What if that's the star fishes fantasy? To be dominated, used, fucked and flipped around? Their way of submission?
Use your hands, moan, talk dirty. Tell him how much you love it or what you'd like him to do to you. Eg. Deeper/shallower/faster. If you just lie there and do nothing its glorified masturbation. You can even move your vagina up and down his penis and f@ck him back.
Play with your clit and boobs, grab his ass and scratch his back also try reach round and rub his balls last one (put a finger up his bum) I don't like it but some do lol
Be more involved and responsive, put your hards on his butt
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