Fire Fetish: Girls, Can you give me your honest opinions on my fetish?

[Anonymous]

So this is a little embarrassing for me but I really want to get some girls honest opinion on this. I'm a successful, decent looking (normal acting) guy but I have a really unique fetish. I get really turned on by the idea of a girl burning material possessions that mean a lot to me. Things from my collections, childhood mementos etc. I honestly think this came when when I was a child and was super afraid of a house fire and my toys getting burned up. I guess its kind of a pain/pleasure type of thing. Some guys get turned on by physical pain, I get turned on by more of a mental pain of the idea of seeing something I like get burnt to nothing but ash by a beautiful girl. The only girl I have ever had the courage to tell about this is my current girlfriend and she has not been too interested in exploring it with me. She has basically told me that no one would be interested in that and I should forget about it but I can't its the nature of a fetish. My mind comes up with all kinds of fantasies and games we could play with this. I like the idea of being restrained while a girl goes through my favorite thing and decides what to burn. I'm not talking about crazy stuff like burning down the house or cars or anything like that just little things of mine. I guess I am just wondering what other girls think of this? Please don't tell me there is someone for everyone etc. I am interested in what you think personally. Is it something you could have fun with or even be a turn on for you?

[Wonderer89]

This seems so wasteful lol I wouldn’t like this. I’ve done some fire play with flash cotton and got a massive high off it but I wouldn’t like burning possessions... I think there is a big potential for regret too and I’d hate for my partner to later be angry/upset when the afterglow wore off

[Asker]

I don't think that would be the case for me. I'm actually not materialistic at all these days. I have actually collected things for the sole purpose that maybe someday a girl will want to play this kind of stuff with me.

[Shortyyyyyy0928]

It is very weird, interesting. But i understand where your coming from i have weird fetishes and kinks as well, if it makes you happy then yeah ill burn your shit for you. I think its kinda hot tbh ngl.

[Asker]

That's awesome! I wish I could find a girl with your kind of attitude! It would so cool to find someone who could actually have some fun with it.

[Shortyyyyyy0928]

agreed : )

[Asker]

So here's an interesting follow up question. If we were dating, how often would you want to entertain this fetish. Obviously not every time we were intimate (unless it turned you on too). But how often do you think is reasonable?

[Shortyyyyyy0928]

hm once in a while, just to turn the crave for it on and make the crave for it unbearable for you to the point your begging me

[devilish-cutie]

i think you should explore reasons behind this and maybe go to therapy to uncover why you are like that
i dont think thats something you really want to do but its like psychological issue you should resolve

[Justacatlady]

It’s a very unique kink but nothing awful. Your current girlfriend might not be interested because if the way you described it to her. Maybe if you had a conversation about it being more of control/pleasurable torture she may be more into exploring

[happyxzmeal]

So basically you're some kind of masochist. I totally understand your fetish.

[Asker]

Yeah I guess you are right. Is it something you think you would be able to get into and have fun with a partner?

[happyxzmeal]

Honestly yeah. That whole pain into pleasure thing, I get it. It's going to take time to get a girl who is reeaally into it, but not every person is into such. I feel like get yourself a girl who is a Dom, because then she'll be into it. Subs won't see the pleasure in it.

[Asker]

Thanks that's really helpful actually. How do you even going about finding a girl who is a dom in normal dating situations?

[happyxzmeal]

That's the difficult part, unfortunately. People don't show off their sexual personalities on a first time basis

[Asker]

It's a shame there not a way to figure out if you are sexually compatible with someone early on without seeming like a freak. Too bad there's not like a BDSM match. com. lol.

[Asker]

So here's an interesting follow up question. If we were dating, how often would you want to entertain this fetish. Obviously not every time we were intimate (unless it turned you on too). But how often do you think is reasonable?

[happyxzmeal]

I don't know how to answer that, it depends on the mood and the girls mood. I feel like for it to really work, it shouldn't be felt like she has to do it, but at the same time I feel like for maximum pleasure she should try to kinda entertain it a bit as much as she can. I hope that makes sense. But you too should be willing to the same for her if she has any.

[unscrupulous]

Id play. I think you should embrace it and enjoy it however possible. Your girl dont wanna partake get a new one. She sounds inconsiderate of your needs.

[Asker]

Thanks that's super encouraging. Is that something you could actually have fun with or more just doing it to please a partner?

[unscrupulous]

I think it would be fun, a good learning experience about myself and my partner and also to please my partner

[unscrupulous]

Also your welcome👍🏻

[Asker]

So here's an interesting follow up question. If we were dating, how often would you want to entertain this fetish. Obviously not every time we were intimate (unless it turned you on too). But how often do you think is reasonable?

[unscrupulous]

Hard to say as I've never been in that situation.

[demurefaithe]

Have you ever thought about wax play instead or lighting candles? Its really wasteful to burn all those things lol I wouldn't do that either.. but if thats what you like uh maybe she should use a lighter and flick it in front of you I don't know

[Asker]

For me the main part is actually about the destruction of my things. Fire is just my favorite means as its the most complete destruction. Most of the stuff I am talking about doesn't have much monetary value. For example it would do nothing for me for a girl to burn my ps4 or something like that. Its more about small sentimental things.

[Majito]

I reaallly dont think it is a bad fetish, it just has a little of background and maybe you could kind of deal with at terapy BUT i think if it was the case exploring interesting fetishes are fascinating you get to know the raw person, you shouldn't be afraid to tell it to someone else, trust me we are all a little bit twisted

[Sheyhoney]

Woah I’ve never heard of this before but if I was in a relationship w a guy w that fetish I would do anything to please him 🥰it’s all mutual yk

[Asker]

So here's an interesting follow up question. If we were dating, how often would you want to entertain this fetish. Obviously not every time we were intimate (unless it turned you on too). But how often do you think is reasonable?

[Sheyhoney]

I dk I feel like it could be random or maybe he’s feeling it a little more some days I’d just ask him I guess 😂

[NhxiePixie]

I wouldn't like it. I second your gf's opinion.

[Angel_123]

It is werid tbf😱

[koolbeanz]

Not gonna lie, its really odd... but if i really liked the guy id at least try it if thats what he really wanted but it would take time to ease me into it.

[Asker]

Thanks. Any advice on how to tactfully ease someone into it?

[koolbeanz]

If you're with someone, you already hooked them. Just playfully ask if they have any fetishes if the opportunity arises, in the sex dept try to explore different things and get her started with the tying up and/or role play.