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My boyfriend doesn’t seem to care about making me orgasm?

We’ve been dating about 6 months and live together. Our relationship is amazing, we’re best friends, we have sex every day sometimes more than that, and he makes me very happy. However, lately I’ve been a bit frustrated. For me personally, when I have sex I don’t really need to orgasm, I’m perfectly content with just having sex (if it’s good). However, there are times when I am particularly horny and juSt want to orgasm. The past 5 times this has happened after sex I asked him if he could touch me down there for just a minute (all I needed) and he just said he was tired and didn’t do it. Each time he can clearly see I’m irritated and I have to beg him to do it and he still wouldn’t. He also rarely eats me out and if he does it’s not for long. I’m getting frustrated with this, why doesn’t he care about me orgasming? Is it because he already came so he’s not in the mood? Lazy? It’s making me feel sad, insecure, and unappreciated since he cums EVERY time and I give him head most of the time he asks. What should I do? I love him so much but I want him to care about my feelings
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I feel so bad for you, he's selfish and wants to get his rocks off then leave you alone and go to sleep. Personally for me it's a huge turn on for me to cause my girl pleasure. I love to give her oral after a good amount of foreplay. I love giving oral and it makes me get so hard and throbbing to hear her gasps, heavy breathing and soft moans and groans of pleasure. I usually try to give her three or four orgasms orally before slowly entering her vagina with my rock hard, throbbing dick. I pull out and tease her clit hood with my now wet mushroom shaped cock head. Giving her another orgasm or two before I release my load of cum into her, tight, wet, hot throbbing pussy!

    You deserve the same attention!

  • It sounds like he's losing some of the fire. Talk to him but do it in a calm, direct, matter of fact way. No getting emotional, annoyed or any of that.

    How to Talk to Your SO About Sex ↗

Most Helpful Girls

  • Just sit down and talk to him when you aren't in bed. If he doesn't really listen then stop giving him oral sex. Sometimes people don't really understand until they lose out on something that gives them pleasure. It isn't a punishment but a wake up call. Hopefully he'll get the idea from the conversation. If he has no interest giving you pleasure then it would start to reflect itself in the rest of your life outside of the bedroom.

  • It’s time to start getting your orgasm first. You may even want to not let him get off a few times so he can literally feel your pain.

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  • As much as you love him, you might want to step back and take a good hard look at him and if he is the guy you would want to be with forever. If he is that shallow that he does not care about getting you off, then you might reconsider. And ask what else he might not care about. Just a thought.
    Some guys turn out to be real selfish, and either you accept it for life or get out while you are still young. Don't mean to be mean, but reality is...
    Good luck.

  • Don't give what he won't give back. You keep giving him a free meal and so you're enabling him. It doesn't have to be one for one but it does have to be some! If he won't get you off then don't get him off. Or at the very least, make him get you off first.

  • Sounds like he's never been taught or just doesn't care and just wants to please himself

  • That would be a yes to both your questions. I'm not sure what to tell you except that guys can be jerks. Personal I would love to have a girlfriend as caring as you, and I've never had any issues making women orgasm. That being said I don't understand his behavior and I can't really tell you what he's thinking. Best advice I have it to confront him in a non threatening way and be honest with him about it. Hope this helps.

  • Leave him. He’s a self centered ass.

  • Lol. Ya real guy there right. Wrong. You need a new boyfriend. When I fool around with a girl my priority is to make her cum and make sure she feels good. To me that’s a no brainer. Assholes are the ones that fuck to just get off and then they are done. Remember that. All they care about is them selves. They will be that way outside the bedroom too.

  • Some people aren't deep sexual creatures like others.

  • U are totally right..
    He is acting very selfish... I don't want to. Say he just using u... But looks like.. Anyway.. A truly man has always find the way to please a woman... In everything special on sex...

  • He doesn’t seem to respect you. He really should make sure you do it first since once guys are done you don’t feel like it.

  • there's two things here. First, if you expect him to want sex to continue after he cums it won't happen. Hormones are released in men that shut us down completely after we finish. But second, he should be eating you out sufficiently and make you cum first, that's his selfishness there. Any straight guy with any self respect will eat his woman out forever.

    • I don’t expect him to keep having sex with me I just want him to touch my clit for a minute so I can come. I’m not sure why he won’t eat me out a lot

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