Guys, if your girlfriend had loose skin, is it acceptable for her to wear a shirt during sex?

Question

I’m 24 and don’t have the normal body that most 24 year old women have. I lost 150 pounds which means I obviously have loose skin on my stomach. I personally prefer to wear a shirt during sex because loose skin isn’t an everyday insecurity women have, it’s completely out of the ordinary and not something men expect to see. I have saggy boobs as well considering I lost fat in them as well. It’s just shameful and embarrassing, plus I don’t expect men to find it attractive, but I know it can be a dealbreaker which is why I want to keep a shirt on. Surgery is the only way to remove it, which is something I can’t afford and is not covered through insurance because it’s cosmetic. I know men will want to have sex with women because they find them attractive with clothes on, but for me taking off mine, it’s deceitful because you can’t see loose skin through clothing. Is this an acceptable circumstance?

Berethor · Accepted Answer

I am not sure but I understand your reasons, that's why losing weight is more complicated than it seems, and it can have some negative effects look-wise. I also don't think that losing a 150 pounds so fact is common, and yea it's sound more significant than minor look issues that girls tend to be insecure about. It would be more honest if you tell the guy about it before he had sex with you, maybe he would prefer for you to keep your shirt on or maybe he would want you to take your shirt anyway, you really want to be with a guy who see it as a dealbreaker? sure you don’t expect him to find it attractive but you still hide an important information from him. There is two main type of guys who would not want to be your boyfriends, guys who find sex with a girl who is not fully naked a turn-off, and guys your fully revealed looks as a turn-off, if a guy can accept those things then it's not a dealbreaker for him.

Cusiousandwierd · Accepted Answer

For me it would be cause sex needs to be comfy and safe but after during cuddling if make you know that I love every inch of your body even your saggy skin while it heals after your hard earned loss.
That body is your victory and id want to fully admire it.

Lydia08 · Accepted Answer

First of that’s awesome that you lost so much weight. Second if a guy really loves you he’ll accept you how you are and if he doesn’t he isn’t worth your time

bangyourhead · Answer

I want your shirt off.

CHLYH2O · Answer

If you're just getting laid, then leave a shirt on. If you are sleeping with someone that really cares about you then your loose skin will not be a factor for them.