Not sure that you can break it down like that. It is a bit of both.
The first time my girlfriend and I had sex, it just clicked. We both tended to a more primal kind of sex. Not BDSM, but a kind of sex with licking and even a bit of biting and scratching. She was the submissive female and I the dominant male and we were just two animals breeding in a field.
For my part, I was just doing what came naturally to me and it was, in that sense, talent. It worked in part because I followed my instincts and we got lucky. We are, as the saying goes, sexually compatible.
However, over time, we got to know more of what we liked. We tried different things. (Oh boy did we try different things! We didn't call our early days our "Wild and Crazy Days" for nothing. I'll spare you the details.) We are giving our bodies to each other for the other to use we tried different things.
Funny example. As I say, we tend to a very raw sex, but for some reason I never breast fed from her. The first time I did, it was strange. I didn't feel aggressive. I felt loved and wanted and I just laid there in her arms, sucking her nipples and feeling safe and in love.
Who knew? The aggressive alpha male was suddenly my gfd's little child. We did not know that, we learned that through time and experience. In a word, practice. Suffice to add that I could point to other more conspicuous examples.
So I am cheating your test, but I have to say both. The best part being that either way, the one thing that we both learned through experience is that the sex we enjoy the most - as aggressive as it tends to be - is the sex we share with each other.
Great sharing
Thank you. Very kind of you to say.
It's funny to see so many people say it's all about "practice". Sex is like anything else you practice... "practice makes perfect" is potentially true ONLY if the practicing is perfect ! It's just my opinion, but I've always been able to tell if a girl has simply learned some techniques, or she's really got a talent for it. One indicator is affection. In my experience, unaffectionate girls are horrible at sex. Another is... dancing !! If a girl can move well on the floor, she seems to move REALLY well in bed.
I like your last sentence. Great!!
It's proven to be true in my experience !!
Practice and Communication. Talk about it and learn from it. I was very unexperienced as I meet my boyfriend now I'm more experienced and way better in bed
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Totally both. And porn is fun to get off to, but it does NOT educate you.
Agreed 💕
porn is all acting so you are so right in this... sadening if people say they can learn from porn
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I feel like it is practice but also willing to learn and be open-minded. If you are close-minded and the type who gives up easily, you won't learn shit and always be bad at it. If I compare myself to my first few times to now, practice definetely made me waaay better. And me wanting to learn new techniques and knowing how my partner loves to be pleased also helped as well. Lots of things I couldn't do before that I can do now because of practice as well. But I still think some stuff come naturally though, I mean, sex is a natural act :)
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Talent is a huge part of it. Most guys from I understand hate any criticism when it comes to sex. Women may get better as guys communicate what they can improve on.
But women fake orgasms as to protect the male ego. So we do what we learn from porn. A lot of women seem to enjoy it though tbh. Not like all the brutal stuff but like the more carnal aspects of passion.
Wow nice
It's all about practice. That's why waiting until marriage is a huge mistake.
Yeah lol then on the honeymoney they struggle
I've always have said if u want to know something u have to experience it over and over to be good at it ,,, But here's the deal or at least for me I don't care how good I think I am how much I think I know there is always a better way ,,, and each person is different and likes different things different ways different touches her eyes the color of her cheek her moan the way she moves her body will tell u with out 1 word so for me it's all the above
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It comes from practice but requires enough security to admit someone ma be more experienced than you. I'd love to exchange skills sometime
Anybody who is willing to learn, experiment some, and explore, and seek to please their partner as well as themselves, largely through practice, can be good at sex. As you say, some people with a lot of experience can be poor at sex. That's most often a matter of being too selfish, just getting what they want, and not being willing to learn how to please their partner. And poor is a very poor way to learn about sex.
Technically you can practice ANYTHING for AS LONG as you want and not be "successful".
There's a mix of actual talent and practice/experience with everything.
Natural talent can only get so far, the same as practice can only get you so far.
So which one is the strongest in your opinion
Probably practice.
I think it's all about practice. Practice makes perfect
Not everyone tho
That is an amazing thing to hear I guess it gives me a chance :)
Both some people are just know how to please other
Maybe you with someone new you might have to practice different ways to get them off since they could be tougher to get off then like others you had
Don't forget I'm in my personal context here (just too lazy to mention it in every sentence), also from male perspective only. But here we go:
Maybe it's just me, but I think that talent is nothing more than the strong will to do something on a high level because you fully enjoy it while also being able to do so. Means.. Not only are you really interested in playing the guitar but your fingers, patience and intelligence allow for some amazing music too.
So if I were to put all this into love making, I'd say the talent is a big part of it. Knowing how to hold your girl or touch in general. And I'm talking about the innocent kind of touch for the start. Gently caressing her arm when you're next to her, teasing her in a playful way or holding her so she feels safe and supported. All of these are good, but only at the right time. I think you can see how well guy understands that when he's giving his girl a massage.
Some guys can make a girl melt just by touching her, others can't even with practice. Might be hard to explain why that is, but maybe it's about understanding what her body is telling you. Because oh boy is it screaming.. She doesn't put her hair aside and open up her neck for a no reason just to see the world under a tilted angle. She doesn't close her eyes because she simply loves black and her butt doesn't lift itself against your hand when you're massaging her right above it.
And let's say you are able to graps the above. You need to enjoy the process yourself without rushing. Her body doesn't stop screaming at you, it just communicates different things over time. Responding to those is a very sexy thing to do. For both sides. You get invited to do certain things to her. Things she most likely won't tell you.
So in my opinion having/understanding/being able to do the above things is what makes you "talented". And that's the foreplay play only so far. Don't wanna make this post too long. But yeah, I think practice is the thing that comes on top of the talent.
It doesn't take talent for a guy to stick his dick in a whole! It takes experience and doing it a lot.
It's talent connected with motivation
I had the worst sex with "high experienced" girls, zero real affection and sensuality. I just nailed them in a brutal way like a peace of filthy meat, because this gave me at least some kind of questionable enjoyment. A thick girl who took me home as I was completely drunk was very good, despite I don't think she had high dick millage. She enjoyed the time with me, she sought her pleasure and gave it back.
I longer relationships is mutual experience beneficial for sex quality. Finding mutual satisfaction can become a team game, but it's nearly useless outside the relationship because people are very different.
It takes lots of open explicit communication
It’s primarily about enthusiasm and second about communication and practice.
It's a combination of being naturally horny, watching porn, getting lots and lots of hands on experience in relationships and having a decent coordinated body.
It can also help if your desires match up with your partner's.
That's just sex.
Being a good lover is something else entirely that certain people have and others don't.
You have to be a giving person for that.
I'd probably say communication, practice and whether or not you have natural sexual chemistry with the person your with.
2 words.
Practice & Devotion..
Now which little Girls want to practice with Daddy!..
i think its experience
Not always but yeh
I believe it comes with practice nobody is perfect at sex at first
True but still need to have a talent. Just as singing, someone who sucks at it can sing as much as he wants, he will never be a singer.
Yeah it’s both really
Because the one with the talent still needs to know what they are doing
Simply having a sex act is mostly instinctual. Making love with the sex act as part of the whole takes communications and practice.
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