I’m in a predicament. I love my boyfriend to death but I can not build the courage to tell him that he does not please me sexually?

I love him to death, he has always been there for me, he takes good care of me, and pretty much does his part 100% in all areas—except sex. Let me put it out there that in referring to penetration. He’s great at oral, but sometimes a girl wants to feel something inside her^_^ when ever we have sex I just... sigh... feel brain dead cause it just feels so BLAH. And he is the type to be hypersensitive to ANY criticism whether if it coming from a good place so I can not tell him that he is not pleasing me, I know he will not take it well. I even joked one time about buying a dildo and he was pissed for like 3 days saying that I was not into him.. or something like that. I feel so hopeless and left in the dark because I feel myself becoming sexually curious about other men... what should I do? Anyone else in this situation?
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  • Get shitfaced before sex. I am not kidding. Your senses will be altered and you may more likely have fun with him in you. At the same time, you will be less inhibited and may blurt out something that will induce some drama.

    • Only problem is, he doesn’t drink. And doesn’t like when I do because of the smell. So, that’s a no go.

    • Weed? Look, you have a choice: 1. Continue as is. A) He's a good guy B) He does oral well So C) You are lacking only in the intercourse department. Ask yourself about marriage vows... "In sickness and in health". What would you do if he got ED or his penis amputated? Would you get a divorce? You need to do some introspection about the value to you of intercourse. I want to be clear though: If intercourse is vital to you, that does not make you shallow. 2. Continue as is, but get your needs met privately with a dildo or vibrator or, if he's open to it, another man. 3. Move on.

    • See if you can find or 'borrow" a Cialis or Viagra pill. I am not saying he has erection problems, but, with an ED pill, his dick will remain good to go after he squirts so he can keep going and maybe meet your needs. You two should also consider different positions or techniques.

  • You need to talk to him about it and get him to let you tactfully and diplomatically coach him. Would he rather you be miserable and ultimately leave him or learn how to please you?

    How to Talk to Your SO About Sex ↗

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  • Is there not a position where you can take controll and try and hit the places you really like? I love being on top and some times my partner doesn't barely at all and i ride it so it hits exactly where i want it to.

  • What if he manually/orally stimulates your clit during intercourse?
    How about researching and trying different sexual positions? Maybe you could be on top (cowgirl)?

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  • If you run because you encounter a problem in a relationship, you will always be running.

    • I wish he would let me have a second boyfriend hahaha

    • You are not prepared for a long term, committed relationship. Do him a favor and break up.

    • I’m sure that would do ME the favor lmao. 😂

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  • Is it just as blah if you are in charge of a ride for example?

    • No matter what position it does not feel good, I guess because he penis is on the short side plus he just is not great at sex.

  • So what's the specific issue? Doesn't last long, not big enough, not rough enough etc?

    It depends on the issue.

    • He has a smaller size and does not know how to use it. When we have sex, it does nothing for me.

    • Really small, or just smaller? Guys aren't magically taught "how to use it" either, you need to COMMUNICATE and talk to him. It can be during sex or outside of sex, can be simple words or an actual conversation. You need to do something to help, he might not even know you aren't enjoying it.

    • Oh gosh. I think you missed the part where i states he’s EXTREMELY hypersensitive! Bringing it up is pretty much out of the question. If I bring it up I might as well be prepared to break up because it will NOT go well.

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  • Ask him to use a strap on to do double penetration. Then tell him to just use the dildo only lol.

    • He would be highly offended if I asked him to do that lol.

    • Maybe buy some butt plugs and see if that spices things up.

  • Whats wrong with his penetration

    • His penis is a bit short so it doesn’t hit my gspot

    • Damn girl time to dump em you said he doesn't make you wet penetration seems important to you

    • Having intercourse in the missonary position isn't going to hit ur g spot. Just have him use his fingers to get 2 ur g spot

  • It's worse for ur relationship not to tell him. Once ur wet during sex have him rub ur clit and tell him u like it when he does that. If ur super shy about breaking the bad news to him, try just telling him what u like during sex.

    • He doesn’t get me wet. Smh.

    • Have him give u an erotic message