Long ago, I became expert at "fingering and cunnilingus. Neither requires libido or passion and can be provided as with any other type of massage; with skill and patience. If you understand how a vulva is arrayed and what to do, you can deliver a strong orgasm quickly from fingering, just as she can for herself. Cunnilingus is higher energy and the psychological effect of being down there and giving her your best seems (to me) more intense for her and makes her feel loved in a way that a dick or fingers cannot. Orgasms are longer and stronger than from fingering.
You don't have to be ambivalent if you understand that sexual relations are a show of love and not primarily for your need or pleasure. You do not have to need sex to pleasure her. You just have to want to pleasure her.
Sounds like normal relationship stuff to me! Relationships, sex, etc all have an eb and flow to them.
I have strong desires, but I make them low priority because I understand my own sexuality as God energy. And I direct my God energy into creative expression. It’s one of the reasons I’m so successful in my ambitions.
But that’s just how I operate and not everyone shares the same spirituality as me so I get it if this comes off as crazy.
It's not crazy.
Thank you ☺️
After someone truly learns you sexually, ABSOLUTELY.
Some people have only ever had shitty sex so maybe not for them.
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Sometimes I just find sex gross in general, it actually is.
Maybe you should see a therapist about that then, because I don't think most people feel that way. That sounds like something someone would say after being sexually abused.
Okay but I didn't get abused, I just received a very strict education in merit. I'm already seeing a therapist for some things, but those are irrelevant.
Maybe...
I have somewhat ambivalent feelings about sex in general. Of course I enjoy sex, but it's not like a mind-blowing revelation for me, either.
Im guessing she doesn't know that, why the ambivalence do you think.
Because sex can be very repulsing for me, it's normal.
Wow im sorry to hear that , for both of you
Don't.
Wow i never had those feelings. Are you unsure about your relationship?
No, I'm just telling it like it is. Sometimes I find sex gross in general.
Wow really? It always turned me on more lol
I live like that my entire life.
Having control over yourself is nothing to be ashamed of, on the contrary.
Ya, always
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