People interested in bdsm how did you start initiating it with your partner?

Question

First what interested you in starting. 2nd, how did you convince your partner to try. I am curious about exploring it just a bit to spice things up🙊

Nik1hil · Accepted Answer

Honestly I was curious if for a girl at some point pleasure and pain merges..

And I looked up and found all that..

Been studying it..
Loving it..
Understanding BDSM is like understanding 20% of female sexual psychology..

Just wait for a little girl to practice it with..

InfobotsMom · Accepted Answer

I chose my first partner carefully following them in my car for a good amount of time. They were initially reluctant to be tied up but after I used the chloroform they were much more compliant.

I'm writing to you from my prison cell. Big Bubba says hi 🤨

A_Bell · Accepted Answer

Hints, hints and more hints.

Leaving your handcuffs in a visible part of your purse or leaving a handcuff key on your key ring or on a night stand.

Also if you've had enough liquid courage, just say "would you f*ck me while I wear these." While giving him your cuffs.

_uck_uckGoose · Accepted Answer

I got started because I like rough sex and started looking up porn to help create fantasies. Lol my partner noticed/became involved when I started asking for a harder ass smacking, choking, and when he noticed I was being more submissive in bed.

JustADude5253 · Answer

Well I'm the Dom in my relationship, however she initiated it, how? Suggestion, always giving hints here and there, teasing a bit that she was a subm till eventually my thick head got the memo and decided to play along, teasing back, till finally we had our little bdsm relationship... Though I would say, it helps if you were good friends with the person, then you both admitted feelings to one another, because after that we started the hints, then came bdsm, then we became official.

JustRollTheDice · Answer

Kinda just start it or suggest it and lead into it

HikerDude · Answer

I just took charge and did what I wanted. Most girls accept dominance if it's authentic.

pigoat · Answer

Don't plan to

Oram52 · Answer

Need to find a partner that's into it. Talk to them and see if anything piques their interest. Remember safe, sane and consensual. Start slow. Try some bondage first for example, light spanking, rough sex, choking etc.

Only way to know what your interests are by diving into it, when you explore. Talk to her first, you might be surprised. She already might be fantasizing about it.

Also read up on it, there is A LOT of information available.

Noodle_fan · Answer

i usually just bluntly say it , to not scare her , i will suggest to try a light restraints , like , tying her hands behind her back with soft fabric

Tomsta · Answer

What interested me was the dominating and controlling aspect of it, it really gets my gears going as for how to start it

My girlfriend is fairly new so i'm starting off light with just cuffs and blindfolds. But just ask your SO

scooogy · Answer

Started by playing Britney Spears' "Hit me baby one more time"

Dolemite510 · Answer

I’ll toss a girl around the bed, spank her ass a lot, and maybe a little choking if she wants it aside from the I don’t like how weird people get with bdsm 😂

Exorcist_Rampage · Answer

They likely met here:

fett253 · Answer

Well, I just found partners who were into it. :3

ilovesluts6 · Answer

I love sloppy seconds. So I would ask you to get laid by whomever you want and let him cum in you. Then come tell me all about it as I slowly lick you out.