Advice pls, boyfriend has somewhat obsession with porn star?

[lisamw22]

I don't have anything against porn, it's a normal thing as we are both teens. But recently when I went on my boyfriend's phone to look up matching Christmas pajamas for the both of us (cheesy ik but it's cute) because my phone didn't have service, a porn website was the first thing to pop up on the Internet app. It had Elsa Jean featured, a young, skinny, blond woman doing the deed with y'know someone else. Curious, I looked up his browsing history, mostly because I wanted to know what he was into (I know what he likes mostly as we have done it before) but y'know just got curious. All of the browsing history had her, Elsa Jean, in the title, dating back to a week or two ago (assuming he deleted his browsing history). Almost every day (according to the IPhone history browser tab), he would watch porn with her in it. We have been going out for eight months. We have a healthy sexual relationship, and although we have our ups and downs as we are basically doing long distance, seeing each other once a week, we have a good relationship. Despite that, I am a little bit worried why he would feel the need to get off to this girl. I'm not half bad looking, I have a nice figure although a little pudge, on the small side for a rear end and a decent amount of chest with brunette hair and glasses. But this girl is just the exact opposite of me, smaller, skinnier, blond, smaller chest, bigger rear... I'm worried that I'm not good enough for me... another thing I'm worried about is that this girl looks like his first girl who broke up with over a year ago so I'm worried that he's getting his rocks off to the thought of her... I don't know, I might just be making a mountain out of a mole hill, but it's just a little concerning that almost every day he watches videos of her.

[wankiam]

i waank off over her on a regulatr basis myyself but it doesn't make her my perfect woman as my perfect woman would be so much more than just something i like to look at. i can see why you would worry you aren't good enough but i doubt very much that its actually true

[MrOracle]

Why Men Watch Porn

[MzAsh]

No sweetie he’s the one who’s not good enough for you. This is NOT normal or healthy behavior out of him. I’d get out of dodge with this one.

[lisamw22]

Tbh I don't understand what you mean like how is he not good enough for me?

[MzAsh]

Because he’s got some major creep behavior going on.

[Danny_dan92]

It’s a PORNSTAR. What are the chances he would even have his way with her?

[lisamw22]

But it's everyday like... he literally spends maybe 40 minutes watching videos of her according to the browsing history. He works 12 to 15 hrs a day and sleeps for the rest so where the hell is he getting the time to watch her? Especially when he claims he has little to no sex libido due to "sleep problems"

[Danny_dan92]

He tells you he’s sleeping for the rest of the time but is he?

[lisamw22]

Maybe not, but anothet thing that also makes me unsettled is that i know his ex looks a lot like her...

[Danny_dan92]

Uh oh...

[OddBeMe]

First, he does have some obsession he should get help for.
Second, why are you checking his browser history? If you don’t trust him, break up. It’s not worth it.

[lisamw22]

Well, I didn't mean it in a not trusting sort of way. As described, I was using his phone to look up stores with matching pajamas that we could check out bc my phone had no service at the time and one of his tabs had porn with her in it. I got curious as I want to know what he's into and see what I could incorporate into our sex lives and I got a little upset as I saw all porn videos were of Elsa Jean

[shawky94]

Just to know something new

[lisamw22]

maybe but its just odd that his ex girlfriend looks a lot like her

[Anonymous]

The problem is with him not you.

[lisamw22]

What do you mean

[Anonymous]

He masturbates every day and that is his jerk off material.

[lisamw22]

but why is it just one pornstar tho like there is no variation in the hostory

[Opinion Owner]

She may represent his fantasy partner but the fact that you don't look like her doesn't mean that he is not attracted or that you can't satisfy him. My "fantasy woman" is about 5' 1", 105 lbs, wears a size 2 to size 4 dress, has 32A to 34B boobs, small butt, cute face. I was married to a woman who was 5' 3", 140 lbs, size 10, 36D boobs, average size butt, and cute face. She very much satisfied me sexually.

[lisamw22]

Thats what i dont understand... if she was his "fantasy partner" why would he date me instead of try to find someone like her..

[lisamw22]

And another thing is that i know his first girlfriend looks a lot like her so that also makes me unsettled

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, but she is his ex. Someone could look like my fantasy girl but be an awful partner while another girl could not look like my fantasy partner at all but be a great match for me. Guys are not ALL about your physical appearance. In fact, guys have an expression that "for every good looking girl walking down the street, there's a guy somewhere who is tired of putting up with her shit!" Some girls have fantasies of rape and domination and that doesn't mean that they actually want to be raped. Many guys have fantasies about threesomes but very few actually want to participate in one. Don't put too much emphasis on his fantasies; remember that YOU are his REALITY and that is much more important!