Guys, how many of you have received a 'birthday blowjob'?

[AmandaYVR]

I'm not even going to ask if you want one. Just how many of you have had one on your 'special day.' (I'm curious if this occurs to girls, and if they are magnanimous like that.) More than once? Every year you're with someone?

Bonus q: Is this a preferred 'gift' for any holiday? Would you choose this over a present? (Mystery Door #1 type of thing)

'B' is for...

Birthday balloons, and more...

[lightbulb27]

Honestly senator, I'll have to check my recollection on that.

But in general, I'd want such things to just flow and happen and not be a plan. It kinds sounds "planned to me" as stated, although may not be... like "this is your present". Not what I associate with birthday.

I'd be more happy, and I mean throughout my life, strolling hand in hand or going on an adventure, doing something fun. The kissing and more should be something natural that evolves, not that pops out of a cake.

The underlying issue here for me is... I don't trust sexually aggressive woman, as that isn't what I saw growing up and when I saw it, I didn't trust it. I've learned, but the preference hasn't changed for personality.

[AmandaYVR]

Aggressive? Not just something playful to look forward to, eh. Ok.

[lightbulb27]

it depends, flirting and such is a good thing as is tension building and playfulness. but association to birthday, I don't get that. I guess I think like a child for birthdays...

[AmandaYVR]

Hmm, interesting timing. I just told someone today I don't infantilize sex. In any way. We are just talking about two sides of a coin now.

[AmandaYVR]

And Christmas, for you, Mr. Cookie Monster. My husband dressed up as Cookie Monster for Halloween once, long before I met him, but in his 20s. He said he got tonnes of hugs from girls. They all enjoyed it. I wonder if that was in any way sexual for any of them...

[lightbulb27]

you lost me on infantize sex? :) At the moment, I switched that stuff down, but it's all about the chemistry, right? I never thought of dressing as CM to get chicks... he's a crafty man;)! That's a fun costume I never thought of. I once thought of dressing like the Easter bunny and going to a bar dance, but just figured that gets risky... good wacky fun if have the right crowd. hehe... I've been having fun with the cookie Monster persona... I'm ready to switch persona again, I might switch to Beavis and Butthead... that feels right for answering a lot of questions.

[AmandaYVR]

Yes it's fun to switch them up. How does one stick with just one when there are so many. I went through a bunch of cute animals the first while.

[lightbulb27]

you ended up with a playboy bunny;-)

[AmandaYVR]

(cracking up). Uh oh. Two guys told me they only saw a vagina, not a rabbit. "Amanda! Is that what I think it is?" Why, what do you think it is? (P. S. Infantillize like spanking over the knee or little school girl costumes. Nooooo, no non non no no.)

[AmandaYVR]

and p. p. s. I have a picture of me at the Playboy Mansion, with neon bunny ears behind me (fully clothed, in a dress and faux fur coat) and I am noooot posting it. But it's funny, this connection being made... oh my)

[lightbulb27]

Our minds project what we see, so yea... I see a rabbit, those other guys may be preoccupied...:) you were really there, or it made up? wow... you gotta post that one... lol! My sense reading about it, was really tacky... Too bad Beavis and Butthead couldn't have gone to "do" the playboy mansion... darn it...

[AmandaYVR]

Yes, I was there. It's not my personaity to b. s. or try and check peoples' gulllability with a trick. "I see a rabbit" reminds me... of Woody Allen's writing in his 'Midnight in Paris'. Owen Wilson is the main character and he has time travelled back to the 1920s and he is having a leisurely chat with Salvador Dali. They are speaking about women. But Dali is slightly distracted, by Owen's unique face. Somewhat forelorn, and with his largish nose, Dali says suddenly, "I see a rhinocerous!" and details how he is inspired to do his next painting - Wilson being the muse for the famous elephant with a tear. It's really brilliant writing. Not only that, but after Dali finishes, Owen sighs and remarks, "I see an insurmountable problem" (regarding his impractical love and fixation on the exquisite Marion Cotillard. cont'd...

[AmandaYVR]

Interesting you should bring that up... One of the things I like in life is the contrast and juxtaposition of disparate or unrelated or friction-y objects next to each other (high-low, as its simplest example.) This is the first time I'm thinking this in this context, but... the Playboy Mansion fits this idea perfectly. Actually Hugh had very good taste, in certain things. His house was gorgeous. It was built in a time when craftsmanship was important to many (not cost, which drives many things now.) There is woodwork and detailing everywhere you look. And I personally really love jewel tones and plush, rich luxurious fabrics, so while some could see them as clichely tacky, I defer to my colour and historical design knowledge, and so to me the sultry jewel tones fit the environment and vibe perfectly. He also really must love gardens, because the grounds are immaculate, and there is an aviary with small birds, and some peacocks and the like running 'wild', as they please. cont'd...

[AmandaYVR]

The grotto is a sex den, to be sure, but it's also cozy. (I won't go as far as to say in a gemutlichkeit kind of way, but it is relaxing, nonetheless.) The Bunnies... well, they don't do anything for me. It's all too obvious and in your face for my taste, but they do have pretty faces, not just phenomenal bodies. I'll reserve judgement or comment on the concept of it as a whole, but the juxtaposition of the indulgent and lasciviousness and primal next to the sophistication of the architecture and interiors and grounds... well it's interesting, to say the least. And I can still oppose some of it, but give props for the consciousness of 'setting the scene', a backdrop for what else goes on there. It's marketing and manipulation at its most brazen, in some ways. You can't just buy your way into the Mansion, so there is a pretty big element of exclusivity to it. I also do like that... that that almighty dollar is not enough there. This is not a place for prostiutes. Hugh wanted it to be more 'high brow' than that. His early Playboy articles (which I haven't read but have heard about) do attest to that... living 'the good life', and having knowledge and appreciation of the finer things in life. You won't be drinking Miller Lite here. Order a Scotch or good bourbon, and not 'the house' whatever.

[lightbulb27]

Great insights, your writing is very... rich!! Another contrast is what I heard of the chicago mansion... a friend noted it had screte passage ways that went into the ladies rooms. Creepy weird. Also... there was a tunnel supposedly between that mansion and a few other famous peoples houses... so they could sneak in. I doubt many could get away with that today. What I theorized long ago and am amazed I was right on... is that after he dies... that whole concept plummets and men get in trouble. In his time, they could play and get away with it. Today, they get busted under "me to". How he never did is amazing... because he manipulated the right way. But what I have heard, is he was using a lot of drugs on the women. Basic high school tricks... get the girls looseened up, have fun. Unreal. And then I laugh at all the idiodic males who were funding it by buying the magazine so that a "dirty old man" could have real fun with women and live the life. off the charts. ... lol!! People are so________. haha... That was my view, had to share... Really cool you got to visit, um... can I ask how you got that invite?

[Lliam]

Appearing in the doorway dressed all sexy. Walking up seductively and unfastening my pants while doing her best Marilyn Monroe version of Happy Birthday. Then kneeling to gratefully slurp, snog and savor as if I'm her favorite dessert. "Oh, Mr. President!"
hahaha I wish!
I have received a few blowjobs on my birthday. But not enough. Sounds like an annual tradition that every woman should adopt. :-)
"Are you ready for your birthday present?" Cue the sexy music.

[AmandaYVR]

Yes. What a nice thing to be able to look forward to, eh?

[Anonymous]

I helped my girlfriend suck off her boyfriend for his birthday last year. That was really fun, and he wants us to do it for him on Christmas. My boyfriend said he's cool with it, just as long as he gets the same gift. I'm going to ask her tonight when she gets off work.

[AmandaYVR]

Holy smokes you guys are a progressive bunch! Okaaay, as long as all four of you are happy. Good for you. Who's idea was it first? (This is definitely one of those perfectly warranted anon comments. 😮🤣) Yep, give us an update how that chat goes tonight. Should be a good one.

[CandyCaneZoe]

I'm willing to bet the anon "female" is a thirsty guy. No doubt in my mind. I'm calling BS on this one.

[CandyCaneZoe]

If I'm really into the guy, a birthday bj is almost a promise.

[AmandaYVR]

Good for you, girl. (And him.) Nice word choice too.

[CandyCaneZoe]

Oh, its as fun for me as it is him.

[MissKittyz]

For my fiancé's birthday this year, he received a lot of gifts from me. But of course, also a blowjob and any sexual act he wanted. So yes, I do give blowjobs to my partner during his birthday.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Um, maybe? I mean I have gotten one on my birthday but not because it was my birthday. In fact if a woman thought that's all she had to do I would be rather insulted to be honest, about as insulted as the idea that she having sex and being intimate with me is some how a "gift" to me rather then something that she should be doing because we are together and in a relationship (imagine the inverse of that? "For our anniversary honey I decided to pay the electric bill so you can have the lights on and I'll even throw in a hardy handshake!" can't imagine that's going to go over all that well.).

[Emily_R]

I love giving those! So much cheaper too.. haha

[AmandaYVR]

Yep. That is true. Worth at least 1000 words, or 100 bucks, right? (Ok, maybe $40. I don't know.)

[ArrowheadSW]

LOL No, I have not.

[notxing]

I have and I don't like it as a gift. Trading sexual gratification as a gift is just trashy; board line prostitute (like right on the line). If that's all your giving your man. I feel sorry for him.

[AmandaYVR]

If I give it it has nothing to do with another gift. They are completely separate (as I feel they should be). I asked only hypothetically if guys wanted this so much that they would choose it over another gift as a way to gauge how much they like them/wanted one. You were unnecessarily aggressive by the way.

[CandyCaneZoe]

Oy. "Board line [borderline*, btw] prostitution?" Between two consenting adults that both like it and aren't even doing it as a quid pro quo? That makes zero sense. The rest of your opinion just makes you sound pompous on some soapbox.

[notxing]

Amanda that's awesome that you recognize that it should be two different things on the same day. I speak from experience on this. But your question was pretty much saying" instead of a gift". Think of Christmas for a second. Instead of presents for Christmas and I said to my girlfriend "I didn't get you anything but I will down on you later". I know almost any women would flip out if that happened to them. I came off aggressively because the question seems like you were actually thinking about doing it as one gift and that's all. Maybe I misunderstood the question but sex is just sex; a relationship is more than that. It's icing on the cake to get a BJ on birthdays; but if there is no cake what's the point then. Plus I found it very hard to explain to my family what my ex girlfriend gave me for my birthday that year.

[ecfresh]

Not yet

[WhiteShoulder]

I'm a girl, and I have both given oral on my boyfriend's birthday and received it on mine in more than one relationship.

[Smf1989]

sounds hot and sexy

[wankiam]

not for a long time... i do always have a great birthday wank though

[ImagineSketchy]

Never gotten one before.

[AmandaYVR]

I'm spreading the word for you. Thousands of people on gag. It could become a movement.

[ImagineSketchy]

It isn't something I'm looking for though.

[NYCstreetPhotog]

Yeah I have gotten a few, but to be perfectly honest, I'd much rather my woman give me a gift of allowing me to edge her with my mouth, fingers, and tongue for hours till she begs me to let her cum, since I thoroughly enjoy eating pussy more than getting head.

[AmandaYVR]

You should make up a 'b' alliteration for the girls too.

[NYCstreetPhotog]

Hmmm, I'm thinking of off the cuff innuendoes starting with "B" as we speak... lol

[eat_love_workout]

I have never received a birthday blowjob

[Reaperbot666]

I have from my ex. also had birthday sex with her. while still in the relationship with her.

[Spencer10]

I am happy to say I have been given this most welcome present quite a few times! Many women know some of the best presents are not expensive lol

[AmandaYVR]

Well said, Spencer.

[AviatorTom]

Not every year, but my SO at the time did surprise me with a BJ.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Nope never got one yet , i would choose it over getting a gift
but i would want it from a girl , whose my girlfriend or a wife
no female friend and i would only do it cause i loved her and
i would tell that before we ever engaged in such behavior.

[TCredo]

i have gotten a few bday bj's and i am not very materialistic so sexual activity is a wonderful present on bday, any holiday or any day ha :)

[kennyw87]

Well I'll be sat back over where I said at first the girls a true legend a also the
best bit she's true to her word worms. a white coclo my.

[AmandaYVR]

I have no idea what that means. I got up to you were sitting somewhere... and that's it.

[Naydyonov]

hahaha me neither.

[NickiB]

I don't give those.

[CandyCaneZoe]

Hey, you're not obligated to in anyway, but I think you should try it (again? are we talking never?).

[NickiB]

Never done it.

[CandyCaneZoe]

I hear ya. And I respect it. My only advice for you to ponder on is what a turn on it is to give your partner something they really enjoy. I never thought I would enjoy it when I started, but now I'm disappointed when I meet a person who doesn't actually like it.

[Gabrielskaddadle]

Dont give him one tell him he gets 3 and he can choose whenever one bj is shortlived

[winterfox10]

I've never received one, but that sounds nice