My boyfriend can't stand up for me?

[jellobeanscharms]

Hey guys, i have a boyfriend who is loyal, humble, honestly and caring. He does a lot for me even when I don't ask. After of 3 weeks of talking he asked me out to go to downtown to and hangout I said yes. We had an awesome time!!! Before we were putting the scooters down this homeless lady came up to us to use our phone. I looked at him because I thought he would man up and say no. But he looked at me for a response I was shocked... I told her no and she walked away. I was angry at him but i didn't tell him. I asked him why he didn't say anything and he said because I thought it would be okay with you... Another text this lady was telling my baby sister to put her jacket and on and he did absolutely nothing... It almost made me cry because he didn't do anything I was speechless until i had to pull her away and kept walking. The third time this old lady asked for change I kept walking and said no i don't have change he stopped said "no sorry, I don't carry change with me." I had to pull him. Tbh its a turn off when a man can't stand up for the people he love nor himself. We were volunteering at the homeless shelter and this lady was mad because she didn't get a present and she was standing so close to him I backed away and I pulled him to the side. I feel like I'm dominant and the relationship... another time we were at a sex shop and i was looking at toys and the clerk (a guy) came up and showed me how to turn on the vibrator... He was giggling and smirking at me. And I told my boyfriend "did you know he's actually flirting with me right." my boyfriend was like are you serious and i said yes... He told me he was angry because what he did. And he told me did that clerk know we are dating. I said probably but he didn't care because he knew you wasn't going to do nonthing but stand there He always tells me im safe with him and I don't feel safe at all... Were the same height but that doesn't even matter. I can't see him being a husband because he can't even stand up for me or himself.

[Shiver]

Leaving decisions to you, being polite to homeless people asking for change and not being a jealous cunt who starts hassling someone just cuz they're kind of flirting with his girlfriend? Seems like an alright guy to me from what you're saying, if too polite.
I get that some things are turn offs, but staying with him is your choice, either leave him or deal with it, don't string him and yourself along unnecessarily for a relationship that probably is never gonna work out.

[jellobeanscharms]

Wym not being a jealous cunt?

[Shiver]

If he sees some other guy being a bit flirty with you, not making any moves or actually hitting on you, there's no real need for any jealousy or anything. Hassling the guy will just make the situation worse, you don't want to make a scene in a sex shop, trust me on this. Now, if he would have been hard hitting on you, touching you and making actual moves, it's a different story. If that happens, your guy is required to fight that person to the death, basically. Again, if you're really not feeling it anymore, just break it up with him, it's in both of your best interests.

[jellobeanscharms]

Thanks for the feeback

[Shiver]

No problem, anytime. Hope I don't come off as a beta cunt. Lol

[jellobeanscharms]

Not at all!

[JacobRoto]

I personally don't like girls who need someone else to stand up for them. You should find someone different, it sounds like you may be into emotionally unavailable bad boys. He's not letting you be in danger, he's just not taking control of every situation. It's also a minefield these days with feminism, I don't want to be labeled a masagonist (I know I spelled that wrong).

[Dargil]

Do him a favor and make your way.

[Dargil]

Perhaps you overthink things but, simply, your outlooks are incompatible. You don't date someone to change them.

[MannMitAntworten]

Geez... stark contrast to me. Shaking my head.

[singleloner]

If he can't stand up for you lose him

[jellobeanscharms]

Thanl you for the feedback. I'll talk to him asap because its bothering the hell out of me.

[singleloner]

Hey pm me

[jellobeanscharms]

Okay

[singleloner]

Hey I'm gonna ask a question I need you to hop on it it will be under dating