Do guys have to make the girl orgasm everytime?

[DubstepRaver]

There’s some study saying that something like 20%ish of girls can actually orgasm from sex. Unfortunately my girlfriend isn’t one of them so I go down on her after sex a lot of the time so she can orgasm as well but I find it impossible to do every single time.

I feel guilty when I don’t but it also means that I have to put extra work into sex every single time which gets exhausting and sometimes I honestly don’t feel like having sex because I’ll have to put in more work than her again.

I don’t know. Like I said though I try to do it as much as possible since I want her to orgasm too but I don’t see how’s it’s possible to do everytime. What do you do with your partner? Do they get you off every single time after sex?

[ecfresh]

Orgasms are never the goal when you make love. I know we are guys so we need to win the game and there should be a goal or measurement to keep score. I used to think if I could give her 7 orgasms it was a good night of love making. I had to learn that it’s not all about the ending and sometimes no one will orgasm.

However I wonder why do you go down on her after intercourse? Most women I have slept with are capable of multiple orgasms so why not go down on her before intercourse? That’s part of the fun of foreplay. It’s not like once she has cum that she rolls over and goes to sleep.

Finally if you feel like it’s extra work and effort for you to be getting her to have an orgasm thats setting you up for resentment and failure down the line. Better to talk to her and ask what she wants, does she even want to orgasm always, and what kinds of things is she willing to try to turn her on. That communication and you letting her know there is no pressure to orgasm and that you can both just enjoy the connection and intimacy will pay off in the long run.

[DubstepRaver]

All good advice that I’ve tried unfortunately. So I do go down on her beforehand sometimes but if she orgasms presex she’s never really as in the mood during sex and kind of just goes through the motions yknow. But I do give her orgasms most of the time but she gets sad after when I don’t. I just feel like I have to put so much more work into our sex life then she does. Not to mention she basically never goes down on me but that’s besides the point. But we have talked about this and it hasn’t really gotten us anywhere

[sawno]

Voted B because its far more fun, the point is achieving the outcome you desired. So for example if the couple is into orgasm control it can be fun leaving either partner without an orgasm on purpose and having them be needy while teasing them and playing with their pent up desires and frustration. The fact its intentional and the partner has the power to grant you what you wish once they desire to makes it fun especially since they know they will be rewarded with amazing orgasms later.

Whats not fun is when the guy constantly fails to make the girl orgasm or even worse fails to make the sex itself fun and satisfying. This applies as well to men like me who seek that full experience beyond just having a mild orgasm. If its just in out you cum and you leave her before she achieved any fun or pleasure from it that is when the sex failed to achieve its job. Because even if she doesn't (get to) cum she should be properly stimulated and enjoying the experience that lead up to it.

[Liskitty]

Personally, I don't mind at all if a guy can't get me to orgasm every time. It's very difficult to achieve for multiple reasons and it's not the guy's fault (at least with my body).
Talk to her about it and see if she thinks the same way or not.
Getting the guy to orgasm is already so much fun for me.

[yougurt]

Why don't you try to make her cum during penetration, by touching her clit at the same time?

[PrudentGuy]

Best case scenario is a definite yes.

Just think if you don't get an orgasm everytime. Those times you have blue balls. Its unpleasant. Likewise when she is left high and dry after a session.

Hence in ideal case, at least an orgasm for her and him.

But... sigh... like you wrote in the details, life may not be that ideal 😔

[Sheyhoney]

My man helps me orgasm first

[Dargil]

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[Onlythetruth11]

If I were you I would do four play for awhile, massage her neck, breasts and inner thighs then go down on her FIRST. Pay attention to her reactions and communicate with her to see where her favorite spots are so she can orgasm even quicker. After that I'd have penetrative sex, try the CAT position =) .. I'm sure your percentages of her having an orgasm or two or maybe more will go up if you do it that way.

[Prime_Sol]

Hell no. If she's no getting off during sex, that's her issues. If she's just laying there, taking cock then oh well.
If she's active during the sex snd doing what she enjoys, she'll get off.

[Anonymous]

Yes! If your dick doesn't do it, then get creative. Where there's a will, there's a way.