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Is there such thing as loose vagina?

I just gave birth 4 mths ago, i also have 2 other babies, age 3 and 2. Theyre all 1 yr apart.

Anyways, whenever my husband and i have sex, we always have problems. He can't get off and can't stay hard. He says im too loose. Its either im too loose or too dry. Hed accuse me of sleeping w other men for being loose, he says he accuses me of it because sometimes im tight, while other times im loose.

Hed tell me that my pussy is disgusting and nasty. He tells me my vagina stinks like shit. My pussy is rotten. My pussy is gonna make his penis rot. He says he just want to throw the whole shit away. He also said that i no longer pleasure him.

Then hed go to porn to get off. Later hed apologize to me, and want more sex. But then the same shit will happen, and he will make the same comments about my vagina. He tells me no one will have sex with me cause im too loose. He doesn't see that i gave birth to his kids, all only one year apart.

Am i really loose? Am i really done? So i need to leave?
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  • You need to leave, not because you're loose. But because your husband is treating you like absolute shit! I mean... no man should treat his wife like that! You don't deserve to be treated like that!

    You need to leave him, and find someone who'll treat you with kindness and respect. You SHOULD absolutely leave if that's at all possible. But NOT in shame. You have no reason to feel shame. Your husband is just saying things to hurt you. I'm sure the loosenes or dryness of your vagina is NOT really a problem... don't let this asshole make you feel bad about yourself. The things he's saying are not true. They are said because he knows they will hurt.

    You need to leave him proudly, with your head held high... he is beneath you. You go find someone who treats you how you deserve. Who makes you happy. Who's kind and caring. It sounds like your husband is none of these things.

    I'm sorry you're having to go through all this. You really should get out as soon as you can. Go. Try and be happy. You won't be happy with him.

  • Well, my experience has been that there's no such thing as "loose" and the more excited the woman you're with is, the tighter she is.

    Also that women who have had kids tend to be tighter. Your vagina has lots of muscles, and you put it through the most grueling work out it can have multiple times. If he's feeling like you're loose it's because he can't get hard.

    If you feel dry it's because there isn't foreplay, or you're nervous from being told you're worthless and being put down.

    Sounds more like y'all need to see a marriage counselor and/or sex therapist. There's some tension and issues there, but I can about guarantee it isn't your vagina that's the cause.

    It could just be the stress and lack of sleep from a 4 month old and 1 year old, who knows, do you have a support network to have some time alone where you are? The beating off instead of sex sounds immature, and definitely won't bring you any closer together.

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  • the vagina is a muscle, so can't get loose from too much sex, if anything that will tighten it as like any muscle the more it trains the stronger it gets so that is a myth

    However child birth can make it loose. the muscle can become overstrectched and therfore looser than before. so that might of happend after three children. but believe it can be made tighter again with kegal muscle excercises and failing that there are surgeries available

    But to be honest he sounds like a horrible man the way he treats and things he says to you, so i would probably leave for that reason alone.

    Also there should be more to good sex than a tight vagina that can get a man off. Men seem to love oral sex and handjobs even more than vaginal sex most of the time so you can definetely still pleasure a man so wouldn't worry abot that

  • Nope. Your husband sounds like an idiot. If he has the sensation that you are "loose" it is most likely that hormones are causing you to get aroused quicker then you were before. Vaginas can expand to double their size with arousal. You also just had a baby which can do a number on a vagina. It will go back to the way it was with time. But, he sounds like a scumbag and you should leave him. No one is going to want to sleep with his awful personality.

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  • He sounds like a complete jerk. Vaginas go back down to their normal size after giving birth. I've had two babies and my husband says that I feel even tighter now than before I gave birth. Don't let him make you feel like shit. This has everything to do with him and nothing to do with you.

  • yes you need to leave , clearly his is not good enough for you why stay with him if he can't appreciate you.

  • dump him , pack your things , grab your babies and move out before he hits and or kills all of you ! for he is not a good husband or father ! thanks

    • He's clearly an asshole but you are being very dramatic saying he will kill them all. Why scare monger? Also women need to stop thinking they have a right to take a man's children from him, it's psychopathic behaviour

  • Nah it's his own fault. You gave birth to his kids so he's penis is the one that loosened you up, he needs to own that and figure out a way to sleep with you.
    However accusing you of cheating is a little extreme unless you're giving him a reason to...

  • Is there such a thing as a loose vagina? Well, yes, possibly, depending on the specifics. If a woman is past a certain age and has given birth a few times, then her vagina isn’t going to feel or be the same as when she was in her early 20s and haven’t had children yet.

  • You gave birth to 3 of his children and he’s took stupid to understand that childbirth fucks up your body, including your vagina? Leave that shithead.

  • Yikes. He sounds like he doesn't respect you at all from what you've said.

  • Kegels and work out your legs and butt

  • well doesn't he sound like a ral gentleman... fact is when i was with a woman who had two kids we had great sex because i could last so much longer

  • after pregnancy the vagina get looser and there's no way you can go back at being as tight as before.

  • Toxic relationship I see.

    Your pussy should go back to normal given some more time. I mean, look at that baby, way bigger than your husband dick, that's for sure. If it stays a bit more loose and he still complains, I'd say leave. Being accused of cheating because you gave birth, to his child nonetheless, it's stupid and really childish on his part.

  • There are plenty of exercises you can do to tighten it but you gotta work for it. Plenty of sex and relationship expert to check out.

    by the way your man sounds like a prick. The only reason he can't get of is because he watch porn to begin with. If he stayed away from that shit he would bust as soon he put it in you. If you are too dry it is his fault for not turning you on enough. Ofc he don't if he talks to you like that. You shouldn't take that shit from him. He has som shit he needs to work out and it has nothing to do with your vagina.

  • He’s a loser find another guy that will make you happy it is not you another man would love what you have a guy is an asshole to say that shit to his lady don’t give him any of you after that

  • If your kids breast feed there's science showing it will help stimulate contractions and return somewhat to its previous shape
    Just wash more I guess? He sounds insecure

  • It seems like he knows he has a problem getting it up so he makes you feel bad for his short comings also porn is known to make a man less likely to perform also no human with any morality/conscience and especially who is married to someone would ever say the things he has said to you you should leave his disgusting a** immediately

  • I never noticed a loose vagina. Not even with them having had three kids. I have noticed, too tight which actually wasn't that fun.

  • Sounds like an abusive relationship.

  • Yes. Excessive wear and tear will cause a loss of muscle elasticity, and waken the vaginal floor. It can be fixed with a exercise routine called Vaginal Kung Fu. Look it up in Google if you have any questions.

  • 10 to 1, your baby that you just gave birth to, is wider than your husband's dick. It's perfectly natural to be a little wider after a birth, but it goes back. It's stretchy. That's why women can have multiple babies without the 2nd, 3rd, and so on, not just fall out like the log ride at disney land.

    On a side note, your husband sounds like he's going through something stressful, or he's just being an asshole.

  • He doesn't sound very nice, person. But my first wife had 4girls and when I married the second she had had 3girls. Both were nice and tight. In fact second wife her pussy was really tight , I was surprised.

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