I hate my husband... need insight from another perspective?
In the beginning, I worshipped him, gave him everything he wanted, but after years of this one sided relationship, I started resenting him. I begged him to try therapy and he refused. So, I stayed and continued to try. He didn't care, it took years, but I started not caring too. Years of crying myself to sleep, asking what I could've done differently.
The sex is nonexistent. He never even tries to initiate sex unless he's intoxicated and it's such a fucking turn off at that point. Oh, and there's the porn. Which, I think in moderation is fine, but he's addicted. He can't touch me, but can touch himself while watching porn, with some questionably aged girls. It sickens me. I used to find him so desirable, but can't stand the thought of him touching me anymore.
And then there's his drinking. If I say anything, he just drinks more. I no longer invite him out with friends because of the multiple times he has humiliated me in front of people, with his lack of self control to the insensitive remarks he makes.
I hate him.
I have thought about leaving so many times, but we have a daughter and I feel so guilty for her.
I'm not perfect by any means, but I really have tried and don't know what to do. I'm so fucking lonely even with someone who is supposed to be my life partner in the next room. I'm too embarrassed to even fully open myself up to friends about the situation, they're all happy with their spouses.
Please don't judge, but after 15 years of being faithful, I even had an affair. I know it's wrong. I used to judge cheaters myself. It was only a temporary fix, but it felt amazing to be wanted again. And yes, I felt guilty.
I just feel so unlucky in love. All I want is a partner who gives as much to our relationship as I do or did. Is that asking too much? Has anyone else been in this situation? What did you do?
I'm so miserable.
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