Am I depriving myself sexually and should I do something about it?
I am the definition of what you consider a "good girl".
I was raised in a not religious but overbearing and controlling household, with a mostly controlling mother and I have grown up to be a very prudish woman.
I have viewed everything sexual as bad and dirty and never wanted to be considered slutty for wanting to experience these things so I didn't.
That was basically my teens.
Fast forward, I am still living with my mother while in college.
I feel trapped inside a cage and controlled at home. I wish I could leave but can't afford it now.
At the state I am in now I consider myself not capable of a relationship right now because I am so shy and clueless about sexual stuff that I have no confidence in myself, my body or anything else. I have never seen a man naked before in person. I am basically a mother theresa. Like a celebate nun. I don't know anything about the male body. I am depressed about this for years now and I came to the point where I can't take it anymore. Yes, sex and sexual relationships are not everything but when you're this old and are basically a 15 year old in your mind then it's not fun and it truly cripples me in various aspects of life.
I have often thought about just seeing someone casually and just allowing myself to have fun because I am not confident enough for a relationship.
I have conflicting feelings though. I still believe in sex with love but I can't wait any longer since I am getting old. I know men will be less interested in me once that happens.
I want to finally feel like a real woman not like an androgynes something. I want to be desired.
But I am still so afraid of becoming what I hate, a slut and someone dirty.
And then there's the issue with my controlling household and my public image.
I could never justify such a behaviour in front of my relatives, they think I am a saint.
I am embarassed to ask this but I just really needed an outlet in this moment.
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