Sometimes he cums during the second round and sometimes he doesnt?

[Anonymous]

What does that mean? He says that he has a long refractory period, which means it takes awhile for him to be ready to have sex or cum again. But its weird because sometimes after sex, he gets hard again pretty quickly. And we have sex again and it takes him awhile, but he still cums. But other times, we do a second round and he just can't cum. He can get hard, but he can't orgasm again. What does this mean? Does it mean that sometimes I'm not pleasing him well enough the first time, so he has to cum again sometimes? I figured that if he says he has a long refractory period that it will be the same everytime..

[markscott]

It has nothing to do with you pleasing him or not, on the first time around. There are a lot of emotional and physiological reasons as to why a guy can, or can not, cum a second time. Guys bodies vary immensely, as do women's, and some guys do take longer to be able to cum again. And there is a lot of difference between being able to get hard again, and cumming again. It takes a lot more to cum again, than it does to get hard again. Cumming again, or the first time for that matter, takes a lot more emotional and physical intensity. than it takes to get hard. Again, a guys time that it takes to be able to cum again, or get hard again, has nothing to do with what you did. You could be the sexiest, most gorgeous, sexually able woman on the planet, and he might not be able to get hard again, or cum a second time.

[Asker]

Okay, but its always different and I don't know what it means. Sometimes he cums again during the second round and sometimes he isn't able to. Why does it change sometimes? Why is able to cum twice sometimes but not always?

[markscott]

Asker: Being able to cum again depends on emotional and physiological responses. They are never the same on two given days. And if he is tired, anxious, has sex fairly recently, or not in a long time, it all has an effect on his ability to cum again. And there are other factors that effect his ability to do so, but they are too numerous to put here.

[Asker]

Okay, so it doesn't mean his orgasm during the first round was bad. Just sometimes he is in the mood for. more sex and sometimes he is not?

[markscott]

Asker: it could be as simple as he is sometimes in the mood for more sex, and other times not. But more likely, it's simply that he doesn't have the where with all to cum a second time, in the time frame needed. A guy can't necessarily just get it up again, and cum on command. There are emotional and physiological issues that come to play. It takes time for him to be able to get hard again, and especially, takes time for him to be able to cum again. The length of time needed to cum again, varies with the person, and varies on any given day, due to numerous factors. The biggest factor, being his body's ability to summon the physiological responses necessary to cum a second time. Just as if he ran a long race, his body would need to rest before running another long race. When he cums, his body needs to have a recovery period, before he can cum again. This length of time varies greatly with the person, and the day. But again, this recovery time has nothing to do with how good your were at sex the first time, or how good the sex was for him. It's much more complicated than his being in the mood, or not in the mood. The recovery time varies in part, by how good his health is, his general well being, and the health of his nervous system, and the DNA that he was born with, etc. Again, your sexual performance is not what is keeping him from cumming a second time.

[sawno]

I am someone with a long refactory period again, the standard is sex after i cum will be to painful to continue. However if my balls are super full then i will be able to go for a second round much quicker without finding it so painful. I assume in his case its the same situation where a second round depends on how much orgasms he had recently / how full his balls are.

[Asker]

It doesn't mean that I didn't give me a complete orgasm during the first round?

[Asker]

*give him

[sawno]

No, but it does mean one complete orgasm wasn't enough and he can do more. If i haven't had an orgasm in a long time and am insanely horny there will be more than one in there.

[Asker]

Okay. But it doesn't mean that the first orgasm wasn't satisfying?

[Asker]

Like, the first one felt good enough right?

[Asker]

Please answer when you can. Thank you for your help..

[sawno]

The opposite! The only times when the second one is possible is when i was extremely horny and turned on. In those cases the first one will be incredible, but the hornyness will still be there afterwards. Its not a matter of doing it right or wrong in this case, its the matter of him being so incredibly horny it will not only be incredible he will have space left for more. Imagine being hungry and eating your favorite dish, if your starving it will taste even better AND you will be able to get a second plate! :D. While if you where already full you may enjoy the taste but your kinda eating for the sake of it and may not even finish your first plate.

[Asker]

That's true. Thank you! I just overthink way too much.

[CarrieBlossum]

He's all out lol. He needs to recharge his batteries

[Asker]

I understand. Lol but why can he cum during the second round sometimes but other times he cant? I feel like maybe he doesn't cum very well during the first round sometimes, so he has to cum again..

[CarrieBlossum]

well he probably has some left after one but not after two. that doesn't mean the first time isn't good enough though just because he's not empty

[askmeanything69420]

I am sorry but it probably means your not pleasing him maybe change some stuff like suck his balls or talk dirty to him

[Asker]

I already do that stuff..

[askmeanything69420]

Have you tried deepthroating his dick

[Asker]

Yes. I do that as well.

[askmeanything69420]

Maybe try BDSM that always makes any man cum

[Asker]

I let him slap me and pull my hair and fuck me roughly. I have let him tie me up and stuff, but we don't have time for that anymore because we are both busy and we still live with our families, so we have to be quiet and rush sometimes. I am kinky though. I don't know. Maybe my pussy is just bad.

[askmeanything69420]

No dont say that he is just not grateful enough for you

[Femdom_Society]

He's there for your pleasure and shouldn't be cumming without your permission. As long as you cum as many times as you want that's fine.

[outside_Toronto]

It means he's a normal guy and you're overthinking it

[Asker]

But why does he cum during the second round sometimes, but not always? Does it mean that the orgasm during the first round is unsatisfying for him sometimes?

[outside_Toronto]

Doesn't mean that at all. it could be a lot of different reasons. Temperature, stress, environment, hormone balance, energy level. Rd 2 is always a chance you take. Sometimes it's great, but if it's not, it doesn't mean anything is wrong

[Twalli]

I have the same thing. Usually it depends on when I last had sex. I can cum pretty quickly twice in a row if I haven't had sex in a while, but if I have it's harder

[Asker]

It doesn't mean that I didn't give him a complete orgasm during the first round? Like, does it mean the first orgasm didn't feel good enough? I'm just wondering why he cums during the second round sometimes, but other times he says he can't..

[Twalli]

I always cum during the first round, but if I have waited over a week for sex cumming during the second round is easier

[CubaPirate]

Don't worry its quite normal tbh

[Anonymous]

This is usually happens when he masturbated and have sex on the same day, you may try to suck him till he get hard again.

[Anonymous]

Depends sometimes they can and sometimes no