What does that mean? He says that he has a long refractory period, which means it takes awhile for him to be ready to have sex or cum again. But its weird because sometimes after sex, he gets hard again pretty quickly. And we have sex again and it takes him awhile, but he still cums. But other times, we do a second round and he just can't cum. He can get hard, but he can't orgasm again. What does this mean? Does it mean that sometimes I'm not pleasing him well enough the first time, so he has to cum again sometimes? I figured that if he says he has a long refractory period that it will be the same everytime..