How do I get past the fact my partner has had many previous sexual partners?
& There’s absolutely nothing wrong with this or for anyone to enjoy casual sex because it’s their body. As long as it’s safe and consensual. As long as things are stated clearly and people aren’t fucking with feelings, etc. I won’t judge you for it just because I personally don’t. For me, I see sex and love together. I can only have sex with someone I have feelings for.
Anyways, I don't know why but whenever I think about him being with a bunch girls, touching other girls, I start crying. I start seeing myself as some other pussy he’ll get to have. I know this is completely not true at all. He chooses to wait for me, he’s in love with me, he doesn’t care about sex with anyone else but with me. With him saying that… it normally would give a girl more reassurance and it does but only for that moment. Once it’s over and my mind switches back to thinking about it again, I start sobbing again.
I haven’t had sex in over 5 years now because of my “no feelings, no sex” and he’s the opposite of me which is fine… but I don't know why with him (or any guy I might be with) it hurts me a lot. Way more than it should. I love him with my whole heart. I asked him once how many sexual partners has he had and he just said “idk” “why does it matter?” I answered, “it doesn’t. I just want to know.” Then he went and said that those girls meant nothing and he clearly stated that to them before hand, and for exes, they betrayed him so he has no feelings for them at all anymore either.
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